| 11/26/2007 11:10:58 AM |
Taking a risk, traveling to meet someone...Advice please.. |
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soultrynights
San Clemente, CA
age: 38 online now!
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kaz , if i were you i wouldnt expect so much , that way if it goes real bad you r not so disapointed.
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| 11/26/2007 11:13:01 AM |
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nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 50 online now!
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He's a cheater gurlz.............2 timin' w/Walt right now!.........
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| 11/26/2007 11:14:18 AM |
Taking a risk, traveling to meet someone...Advice please.. |
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skunkbreath
Saint James, MO
age: 52 online now!
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I keep posting, but it doesn't take!!!..
okay, meet at a copy shop...copy driver's license and finger prints...send to FBI...
Then go out and have an intimate, romantic dinner and fun!!!!.......all five of you ,
him , you , your 2 bodyguards, and the pepper spray bracelett.
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| 11/26/2007 11:53:23 AM |
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ugafan1980
Ridgeville, SC
age: 33
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i think if your going to meet a guy for the first time you should have him travel to meet you. this way you have home field advantage you know people and you know the area if something goes sour your friends and family can be there in minutes not hours . have him get a room and if you decide to go back to it with him great if not then you take the long way home and sleep in your own bed . i just think women would feel more comfortable on a first meeting being close to home not in a strange town hundreds of miles away . if the first meeting goes good then go see him where he lives..JMO
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| 11/26/2007 11:54:51 AM |
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stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 41
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I agree with uga - great answer
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| 11/26/2007 12:13:43 PM |
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winesong
Bend, OR
age: 60
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I would like to add that having him fly to your home town, is the safe way to go. Many reasons, including know the safe areas in your home town. See where he decides to stay. Motel 6 or a hotel with a bar and dining facilities? Perhaps it makes no difference to you...but it would to many of us. Safety in an enclosed building...
you have been in the married life for a long time...BE CAREFUL in all areas.
If he flies to your home town, you save the money for your Christmas with your family, and close friends. YOu could go to his hometown next time, and I would, if all went well.
You said he fell asleep...on the phone...that is odd..drinking?? Exhaustion?
How far do you have to fly? How much of a discount fare is available? Did he offer to purchase your ticket? check out the discount fare web sites...if you need a list, e-mail me. I have 5 or 6. www.AIRFAREwatchdog.com, www.Kayak.com www.pricegrabber.com are a few.
I would do a background check today. I checked one guy out *on this forum*, 3 weeks ago and he was a 4x felon. Wire fraud, credit card theft, theft by conversion, and another one....NOT what I was looking for in a friend or potential friendship. He was a scammer.
The background check gave me the State of crime, date, case #, and so forth. He denied it all, saying his cousin used his identity...SUUUUUUURE he did.
Too good to be true...often it is, exactly that. That was $50.00 well spent.
There is a link under your picture on your home page to link to the background check.
Thank you Dustin for making it so convenient to check people out.
Wine
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| 11/26/2007 12:41:00 PM |
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geo13
Hanover, PA
age: 46
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kazyka,
As I read these reponses some are of sound advice and good luck wishes, to those people you owe a TY. To the ones who only see the negative side of your encounter after there advice on being safe, please excuse me but that would be where the old adage opinions are like a-holes everybody has one. as I stated before be careful take precausions but enjoy yourself when you know it is right, If you need someone to be a safety net and go with you ask the ones who suggested it maybe you should email them with your destination and see who voulenteers to show up and be a bodygaurd. and watch as you devolope this friendship with your mystery man. I will do this much. email me if it is near me I will give a cell p# to call when you land at the airport or drive into the area I will take a date to where you are going to be at, that way you only have to yell and you have someone there.
Good luck and congratulations on your way to healing from your last bad Relationship you seem intelligent enough to cover all your bases for being SAFE AND CAREFUL in all respects of your lifes journey.
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| 11/26/2007 12:46:19 PM |
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kazyka
Hudson, NH
age: 37
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geo13: I just might take you up on that offer. It'll be great to have someone near. Double date sounds good. I'll email you.
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| 11/26/2007 12:49:46 PM |
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geo13
Hanover, PA
age: 46
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ok I have stepped up to the plate any other do gooders out there want to help a good women out?
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| 11/26/2007 12:51:02 PM |
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luthak
Edmonds, WA
age: 45
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Be careful. Emailing and talking on the phone gives you a false sense of security and initimacy. You dont know this guy from Adam. You might meet face to face and want to run the other direction-Trust your gut, it never fails.
Good Luck
[Edited 11/26/2007 3:24:42 PM]
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| 11/26/2007 1:10:16 PM |
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leahmarie
Aston, PA
age: 59
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You are crazy to even consider something like this. If he seems too good to be true, then beware. How do you know the things he says are true?
I realize it is difficult to meet someone. I am on this site, because I don't want to date someone I work with, and there are no places for me to go to meet people since I do not want to do the bar scene. However, as much as I want to meet someone, there is no way I am going to travel so far that I have to get a hotel room in order to meet a guy.
What do you mean you "want it to be special, because he sure seems it?" That's crazy talk. It sounds as if you are willing to jump into bed with a man you don't even know.
Another major point. Are you saying this guy doesn't have his picture posted???? And you are going to go to another city and stay in a hotel/motel with him????!!!! Guys who don't post pictures do it for a reason. They are hiding something.
Wake up and quit being so pathetic and desperate. Are you really that hard up that you are going to travel who knows how many miles, and put yourself in danger by staying in a hotel/motel with a stranger????!!!!! What in God's name is wrong with you??? A guy sweet talks you and you go for it???? Run ..... don't walk ..... run as fast as you can from this guy!!!!!
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| 11/26/2007 1:21:30 PM |
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caskethustler
Princeton, LA
age: 59
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I am going to meet a guy that seems that good too but am taking two of my daughters as well. He was okay with that. We are meeting half way between for both of us and in a great place for BBQ.
Me
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| 11/26/2007 1:32:58 PM |
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oneheart
Kennesaw, GA
age: 60
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All the advice is good & well intended....
but your on a dating site!!! Wanting to
meet someone "special"....you've written &
talked....you must have some idea ~ I'm sure
Sometimes a leap of faith is called for!
Your a big girl...Let me pose this question:
What's in your heart? How ya doing w/locals?
Do ya want to wait till that "special" someone moves into town? Please don't jump
all over me...but sometimes ya have to make
things happen!!!! JMHO
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| 11/26/2007 1:33:38 PM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 36
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i agree with meeting somewhere close to home. if he really want to meet you,he should be willing totravel. if things go well after that you can decide to alternate or work out arrangements.i've also met with a group of friends or a few friends of hers would maybe 'stop by' before or during. great idea if you can do this also.plus it gives another a chance to see how you interact with others.#1 priority is to be safe.
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| 11/26/2007 1:39:55 PM |
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leahmarie
Aston, PA
age: 59
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caskethustler ...... So you are also meeting a guy that seems too good to be true. Well, I am going to repeat my advice. Be careful, if it is too good to be true, then it is usually a hustle. However, I admire you for your good sense. Taking your daughters along and going to a place for a BBQ sounds good.
In connection with the above, I know I sound cynical, but I have been on Internet dating for almost a year. I met 11 guys in the course of almost 12 months. One was a control freak, the second was looking for a mother for his child, and the third turned out to be a wiseguy. The other eight men posted pictures that were so old that when they showed up, I didn't recognize them. The sorry sad thing was that I was so careful with all of these guys. I made a point of emailing and talking to them on the telephone and thought I was meeting worthwhile men. So, you can understand why I have reservations when someone says she has met someone too good to be true.
Again, I do hope the guy works out for you. But if he doesn't you will have a nice time enjoying the BBQ and the company of your daughters. Again, I wish you well.
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