| 11/27/2007 5:00:40 PM |
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lonleyalone1
Perry, GA
age: 40
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Thank you so much for the support. My husband and I have been together for 15 years and this has been going on for a year now and I'm trying so hard not to throw in the towel. I am so glad I joined this chat room.
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| 11/27/2007 5:01:09 PM |
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lonleyalone1
Perry, GA
age: 40
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Wow...thank you so much...
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| 11/27/2007 5:01:22 PM |
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kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 51
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And I would do it all again too because the good times were worth it weren't they? And because of it I think we are stonger women and I will be your sister anytime thank you too,
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| 11/27/2007 5:02:48 PM |
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lonleyalone1
Perry, GA
age: 40
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I have had thoughts of placing him in a facility, but there are times when he almost seems normal. He is able to drive short distances, but as far as planning, money, future, he can't do it. We have a 12 year old daughter that needs her daddy no matter what shape he is in
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| 11/27/2007 5:05:57 PM |
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kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 51
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Honey any time you need to talk please know I am here for you please. We are all sisters in this and I will be there to talk when ever you need help or just want to vent okay?
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| 11/27/2007 5:09:17 PM |
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zzjonze
Springfield, MO
age: 54
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He is very lucky to have you Ma'am.
I had a storke back in 91 and 2 days after I got out of the hospital the lady I was living with ask me to leave.
I finally recovered on my own. Cept for a few tpoys in my postings LOL!
ZZ
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| 11/27/2007 5:09:57 PM |
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lonleyalone1
Perry, GA
age: 40
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I do try and do things for myself...I go out
friday nights with some friends for drinks and it really helps me escape...I have a great male friend who I am able to talk with. He has been a huge help to me...I have a great job as well..which helps...Great family....Husband's family..suck::
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| 11/27/2007 5:11:29 PM |
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justed57
Willoughby, OH
age: 57
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My wife was home ill for several years also. Not knowing what to do and if your doing everything you can ...........I wonder every single day since she's been gone....did I do the right things.............she didn't let on about if she was suffering........I did hold her close ....and was with her for every dr visit.....she never complained....she never admitted that she was dying. If I had called Hospice....I think she would have said.....ARE U CRAZY !!!!
My advise.........hold him close every day....be there for him.....
BUT...get some help ....find some friends and family to support YOU !!!!!
Please.......... if you don't have someone close....find a support group.
GOD BLES.....Peace to you and your husband both
Phil
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| 11/27/2007 5:14:21 PM |
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lonleyalone1
Perry, GA
age: 40
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Oh my gosh, I am so sorry...why in the world did she leave you? Because you needed help? I would never leave my husband or make him leave....When I married him it was for better or worse...I'm just getting the worst right now. I'm not sure he will ever get better..physically he is better, but mentally it is really bad.
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| 11/27/2007 5:16:11 PM |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53
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Ditto to both of you!! I'm here for you! Anytime!
It's like different chapters, but the same book. People who have been through this truly do understand. The whole world's wieght feels like it's on your shoulders, but honey, this is may be the time to shift some weight and let others help. It's hard to accept help, i know. I like to be self sufficient but that point in my life i just had to let others help. So if you can, share some of your problems and see what we can come up with to make this a good holiday time for you and your family. See, three sisters already!
Group hug!!!!
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| 11/27/2007 5:17:00 PM |
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justed57
Willoughby, OH
age: 57
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kfab.....italianlady.....and everyone else
Hold those memories ......even share them......they are YOU!!! a new man should be there to wipe away the tears...to hold you and to understand
and any man that can't understand that ...and accept that....isn't worth a grain of salt!
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| 11/27/2007 5:17:51 PM |
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kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 51
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I think the hardest part for me was why him why us ya know it made no sense. And I too had thoughts after he was gone did I do everything I could? I wish I had had this site when I was going throuh everything some awesome people here
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| 11/27/2007 5:23:36 PM |
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lonleyalone1
Perry, GA
age: 40
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I know that is what goes on in my head..why him...why me...even though he is still very much here with me...a part of me is gone forever and it is so hard. I feel selfish to even be on here when some of you have actually had your spouses die. Please forgive me for acting like the weight of the world is on my shoulders when I don't know about loss at all. May God bless you sisters...
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| 11/27/2007 5:26:05 PM |
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zzjonze
Springfield, MO
age: 54
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If you were asking me lonely, yes. She didn't want to be bothered by helping me..
But it opned my eyes and made me stronger and more determined.
ZZ
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| 11/27/2007 5:28:16 PM |
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lonleyalone1
Perry, GA
age: 40
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SOunds like her loss to me...You sound like a great guy who had some health issues....Lonliness is a terrible thing
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