| 11/27/2007 5:28:41 PM |
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justed57
Willoughby, OH
age: 57
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alone1.....you need not appologize...... what your going thru is very very tough ...I understand your feeling of loss......just keep talking
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| 11/27/2007 5:36:07 PM |
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kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 51
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I hope you know that you can talk to me anytime my sister I like to think if I can help someone else then it is all good. And I agree talking helps and know that God has you close in his hands and I have you close to my heart for your pain. Please contact me at any time please
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| 11/27/2007 5:46:25 PM |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53 online now!
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no, alone1..you are NOT selfish! You are going through a very hard time. And my spouse did not die. He lives with his parents in Tx. Choices...oh, so many decisions I had to make back then. I divorced him after a yr or so. There was no way to survive financially, mentally..and hell, physically, i was skin and bones. Now, if people want to judge me on that, go ahead. We do what we have to do to survive. Strokes change a person.... alot sometimes. My husbands case was very extreeme. He is blind but some memory is there. Like weird things (math, mayor of the town we lived in..stupid things, ) but he has no memory of our marriage, just knows we were married. No memory of the kids being born..oh god, the story could go on and on. You say your husband is better physically, but mentally? Physical damage can be delt with, but mental is very very hard. I would imagine that you sometimes feel you are in bed with a stranger. In a sense, your husband, as you knew him, is dead. This is the guy you have now. Can you make a good life with the guy he is now? Do you have fun together? Still able to be as a couple? I'm not talking sex here, i'm talking being partners together. These are questions only you can answer. Write if you'd like. You are a strong person. God and all us little angels here will be for you!
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| 11/27/2007 5:47:54 PM |
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nsew
Houston, TX
age: 36
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I understand exactly what you are saying. You don't know what to do, do you? It's up to you, you alone in regards to your relationship with an individual who has mental issues. Do you want to stay with him regardless of this mental issue or do you want to get on with your life? In my opinion that is the question. It's up to you kiddo - where is your heart?
Please don't take that the wrong way - for we all have the right to "move on". And we always will. Your life is up to you. Do as you wish. Stay strong, and if I were you, if you wish to move on, don't wait...
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| 11/27/2007 5:51:28 PM |
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kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 51
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And you too italian lady I know the decision for you was propably the hardest thing to do and I know you did what you had to. Judge you hell no anyone who will has never had to walk in your shoes. Be strong my sisters I love you all.  A toast to the sisterhood
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| 11/27/2007 5:53:41 PM |
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lonleyalone1
Perry, GA
age: 40
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Thank you all so much for the support and thanks for the understanding.
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| 11/27/2007 5:55:12 PM |
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lonleyalone1
Perry, GA
age: 40
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Thank you kfab and italian lady...sisters forever
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| 11/27/2007 5:57:59 PM |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53 online now!
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ohhh, thanks, Kfab.........believe me , i WAS judged. Guess we find out who are the real people out there, the real friends. I was damned if i did and damned if i didn't. I still feel guilty.
But...a toast to us sisters!
And now i've got to run. Love to you all!
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| 11/27/2007 5:59:12 PM |
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kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 51
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Night everyone just know I am here if anyone wants to talk anytime
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| 11/27/2007 6:00:42 PM |
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lonleyalone1
Perry, GA
age: 40
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Goodnight everyone...thank you again
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| 11/27/2007 6:10:52 PM |
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nsew
Houston, TX
age: 36
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anytime - stay strong kiddo - live your life!
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| 11/27/2007 6:36:33 PM |
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lovecraver
Clymer, PA
age: 27
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When my pap was ill my gram tried so hard to take care of him but it got very difficult now i know its a lot different but when it got to hard she had a company called Hospice help her they did in home care and they seemed to help (just trying to help) don't be ashamed for looking for someone to be there for you i am almost certain your husband would want you to be happy and taken care of.
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| 11/27/2007 7:48:07 PM |
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nonickname49
Belchertown, MA
age: 57
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KFab and Italian lady...folks like you...are what makes this site so awesome.
it is why I liken it to family...and not having any similar situations in my
life, but I can say it is funny how some family members just turn away when
you are in need...they shy away..as such situations make them uncomfortable.
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| 11/27/2007 8:01:50 PM |
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kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 51
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Nonik I saw your post about your daughter and I say to you to follow your heart. I know how selfish kids can be yeah even the grown ones but if I have that chance at happiness honey I am going for it God bless you and good luck enjoy your new life
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| 11/27/2007 10:27:39 PM |
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cooltammy45
Eugene, OR
age: 45
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Yes i do my husband was hurt 9 years ago and was thought he would die. He lived and our sex lives dwindled to nothing. For the last few years I had to more and more take care of him. Then He passed away and he is gone. Did I love him from start to end YES I did was I faithful to him YES I was. But I am a very strong willed person and true to the man I'm with. I guess this might not be much help to you but yes my husband did have a stroke as well he also was crushed by a 28000.00 lb trailer. Needles to say he was never the same but life does go on as this is what I am doing and my 4 kids are all in support of my happiness. I did this all with 4 years of no sex because I was faithful!!!!
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