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air_pirate
Lompoc, CA
age: 59
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I think you get it. Maybe the problem with the rest of the women is understanding what a nice guy is.
A nice guy is a person who will do anything to get a woman to like him, in other words he be her lap dog. A not nice guy doesn’t have be a complete A hole or abusing he just has to be real and decisive man. For example who would you rather spend time with?. The guy that calls you Monday and says something like. “I really want a date with you, can I take you out for dinner Friday or Saturday night, where do you want to go, what time should I pick you up, what should I wear? His message, you are better than me, the only way I am going to get your affection is if buy it by doing anything you say and paying for an expensive dinner. Or guy number 2 that calls Saturday afternoon and says something like, “Hi, just got home, the weather this morning as really nice so Joe, Ed and myself flew down to Santa Paula airport had breakfast with Joanne, then took a look at her new project. She is coming along real well on that Stearman she is rebuilding. We took the long way home and flew 10 feet off the surf from Gaviota Pass to the Point Conception light house. I spent the next hour on my back cleaning the salt spray and oil off the belly, it was getting kind of grimy anyway. Since I was dirty anyway I changed out the right main tire with a new one, the tread was almost gone on the old one Then the 3 of us had some beers on Ed’s hangar roof while we patched holes that the rain has been coming through. On the way home I stopped by the market, I am making enchiladas for dinner. If you are hungry, come on over. I have Tequila and plenty of margarita mix left over from the other night. Just give me an hour or so to take a shower and get dinner started. If you want to watch a movie, stop at the video store and pick one up.” So who is more attractive, man number two or mister nice guy lap dog?
[Edited 4/6/2007 11:02:16 AM]
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| 4/6/2007 11:06:16 AM |
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duckie1963
North York, ON
age: 44
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this keeping score thing really bothers you doesnt it Air? I think Singlennj explained it very well... basically you get what you give. Respect is earned. If you feel ur being taken advantage of in a situation, call them on it... but don't "I" it to death. Maybe they feel the same way too.
nice guy number one btw although asking what he should wear is pushing it dont you think???
[Edited 4/6/2007 11:10:51 AM]
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| 4/6/2007 11:16:52 AM |
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air_pirate
Lompoc, CA
age: 59
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I never said being taken advantage of, your word, just like keeping score, your words, not mine. So you are looking for a lap dog?
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| 4/6/2007 12:12:02 PM |
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califgirl1
Lynchburg, VA
age: 61
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Singlennj.....................I am here to please!!!!!!!!!!!lol
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| 4/6/2007 1:23:13 PM |
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duckie1963
North York, ON
age: 44
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no I am not looking for a lap dog, or a wimp, the MAN you described phoning & asking for a date a few days ahead of time sounded nice... thats all. Maybe I didnt read enough into it. But I think I've already said that
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| 4/8/2007 1:24:49 AM |
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taita25
Bronx, NY
age: 38
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Does it matter? When you break up with her, she'll call you an Asshole anyway.......
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| 4/8/2007 1:57:08 AM |
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vax
North Tonawanda, NY
age: 23
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9 times out of 10 yes but if she cheated on him then she wont view him as an asshole for breaking up with her. then again it also depends on the manner in which he broke up with her.
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| 4/8/2007 7:57:11 AM |
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letsplaybaby
Seymour, IN
age: 41
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I want a guy that will be honest. When I am sick he takes care of me and when he is sick I take care of him. When I am tired he understands and I understand when he is tired. A nice guy is not someone that is a lap dog when we are dating because a lap dog turns after a while and becomes a demanding dog and says well I did all this for you now you can do for me.
I want a nice guy that will open the door for me but I understand that he does not open the door for me allt he time. Someone that will clean the dishes if I cook. Will walk beside me a grab my hand just because he wants to feel my hand. Bring me flowers because he was thinking of me. Call me just to say I was thinking about you.
That is my opion of a nice guy.
chris
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| 4/8/2007 9:28:45 AM |
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duckie1963
North York, ON
age: 44
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perfectly said Chris.... that has nothing to do with womens lib, it has to do with respecting one another. D
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| 4/8/2007 11:11:03 AM |
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wolfy9459
Dayton, OH
age: 45
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Nice guy or asshole well from what Iv seeen most women like the asshole. However there are some women that like the reformed bad guy like Kat said. Which by the way Kat, that gives me hope knowing that there are women like you who know the difference.
Kenny
PS I can be a nice guy or an asshole. A reformed bad guy is a nice guy.
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| 4/8/2007 11:34:13 AM |
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califgirl1
Lynchburg, VA
age: 61
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I'll take the reformed bad boy. Oh yeah!!!!!!!!!!!!!lol
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| 4/8/2007 3:02:39 PM |
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unslightlynorml
Seaside, OR
age: 42
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LOL no prob Wolf-man.....glad I could be there for someone ONCE since I am notoriously self-absorbed, esp around the holidays. LOL I actually believe that most people want to be loved and treated respectfully while others have just not evolved out of the "beat me" stage of life. Have a banana and catch up ya'll. See now, Cali's in da club baby! LOL
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| 4/10/2007 2:18:39 AM |
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luvinlifetothem
Biddeford, ME
age: 41 online now!
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Okay, can I say something????
Women like confident men. There is a very fine line between confidence and arrogance. (that bad boy thing.) We actually do like Nice Guys, just not self-effacing, passive aggressive, or just plain nasty nice guys. SOOO, the major problem seems to be, We, as women, are seeking a confident, non-egotistical man. How many of you are out there? WE LOVE confidence. We as women try very hard to walk that fine line between being confident, and egotistical and b*tchy. It is NOT an easy road to walk. I do think that as woman, we want a man who can walk that line between being an arrogant (excuse my french) f*ck, and a truly confident man.
So, what can we do? We try very hard to walk the line ourselves, adn we look for a man who can also do that.
Again, CONFIDENCE is sooo sexy. Arrogance is just an ugly thing. Very hard to tell the difference. We try very hard though, and please, men, never underestimate the power if female intuition.
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| 4/10/2007 7:50:32 AM |
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copterdriver
Saint Matthews, SC
age: 55
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And people ask me why I don't date anyone... LOL
Flexibility in a relationship goes a long way, just too much BS in the world these days. Everyone seems to have a hidden agenda. I have dated a few women that are looking for a man to take care of them, but don't see it as a two way street. I can get a dog if I have that need.
Where is Dr. Hookup when we need him? lol
I am accused of being "too nice" because I choose not to get upset when things don't go as planned. After toiling in the metalworking business for over 35 years you become oblivious to unexpected problems, problems that are not always easily nor cheaply corrected.
Nothing worse than making 50 parts and finding out that one dimension is now for some reason .0002 too small. (Usually when that happens it is the customers drawing that was not updated.) Scrap man loves it, it used to drive me crazy because I have to make them all AGAIN and it eats up time I could be devoting to some other project. I choose to be calm instead, I used to get really pissed, no more. (blood pressure)
Patience is a virtue but sometimes it is mistaken for weakness.
I expect problems, I try to anticipate them, but they are inevitable in life and relationships. Does that make me weak? Hardly...
Copter
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| 4/10/2007 8:24:49 AM |
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duckie1963
North York, ON
age: 44
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Copter, get the dog.... they are great for those long walks. and soo much cheaper..lol
Personally I dont see what is wrong with an able man or woman to work in todays society. I have been in a few relationships where I supported my ex-husband and an ex-boyfriend, it was never a two way street. Cost of living is too high for one income families (yeah I know blame it on womens lib...hehehe)
Unless you go into the relationship with that agreement that one will not work (to raise kids, religious beliefs, etc...) then that is different. Then hey thats cool too
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