| 10/6/2009 2:33:11 PM |
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gtpony
Mansfield, OH
56, joined Aug. 2007
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So what happens when you meet that person u know is right and he is 3 states away ?
not like either of u can quit your job and move, in this time of no jobs . Ya can't afford the RED EYE once week , can't drive 700 miles every weekend
SO DOES ANYONE HAVE AN ANSWER ??????
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| 10/6/2009 2:41:58 PM |
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shadowman001
Stony Plain, AB
95, joined Oct. 2009
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You know the answer already as you told us the cold hard facts. It will not work out so you now are email friends until you can change the restrictions.
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| 10/6/2009 2:45:07 PM |
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katrinasq
Mena, AR
46, joined Jul. 2008
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First, when getting involved with someone a distance away, an early conversation should be if either of you is willing to move if it works out.
When one perso makes the decision to move, start applying for jobs, look at the houising market. It can be done, though it's not easy. In the mean time, get together when you can. Have an occasional weekend in the middle somewhere, plan vacations together, and keep working toward the goal of being together.
One of the things many people don't mention about LDR's is the normalcy factor. When you have a feast or famine situation (more famine than feast, in the case of an LDR), you really miss out on normal dating and seeing what the person is like on a normal everyday basis.
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| 10/6/2009 2:58:14 PM |
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wolfmanart
Canton, TX
65, joined Apr. 2007
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One of you needs to bite the bullet and join the other or start making plans to do so in the form of resumes job applications etc. The other must be willing to weather the storm of financial change and by consolidating there will be less bills to pay. If either party not willing to do this then it wasn't serious anyway unless you are happy with this current procedure.
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| 10/6/2009 3:11:16 PM |
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darlinshel
Clayton, NC
47, joined Jan. 2009
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If he's 3 states away and can't travel to see me regularly and eventually move here (into his own home), then he's not my Mr. Right.
I don't look out of state (or even the other side of the same state). I know I cannot travel, both because of money and I am a single parent and can't just drop the kids somewhere all the time for a few days. I cannot move because of money and the kids. The burden would be solely on him and not exactly fair.
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| 10/6/2009 3:54:09 PM |
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prettysmiles750
New York, NY
46, joined Oct. 2009
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Find someone else. There are plenty of nice Mr. Rights all around. Unless he understands he has to come to you because of your kids, and finicial issues. He isn't Mr. Right. Mr. Right can be right around the corner.
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| 10/6/2009 5:05:45 PM |
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pattie53
Rochester, NY
57, joined Oct. 2009
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Been there done that! Its not worth it! Even if you agree on who's going to move,
time does pass by and the relationship gets hurt because you are not seeing the other
person on a day to day basis. I found that some guys like this arrangement because
they don't feel trapped in a regular, normal relationship. Beware, you might be involved
with that type of person and let me tell you its not a fun type of relationship after
a year or so.
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| 10/6/2009 5:43:19 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
56, joined May. 2009
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Wolfmanart is right. Start looking into jobs in the area. One or the other of you might have it easier in moving, but whoever that ends up being, just start looking to see if there are any possibilities for employment. So many jobs skills transfer, you don't have to limit yourself to just what you're doing now.
Is employment your only holdup? If so, it's not enough of one.
If he's your Mr. Right, then you have to explore every avenue before you determine it just can't work.
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| 10/6/2009 6:06:13 PM |
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siciliankiss66
Lawton, OK
48, joined Oct. 2009
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Where there is a will there is a way.
3 blocks, 3 states, 3 countries!!!
Love is love.
In this time of NO jobs I just got a job better than I had before, and if I had a better offer I would leave it and move again! A job is a job and no matter what anyone says, they are a dime a dozen.
So many people think negative and it can't be done that is why they are still alone... if more people thought positve and it can be done maybe they would have found their true love by now.
JMO.... 
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| 10/6/2009 10:27:18 PM |
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sugrnspice2
Boca Raton, FL
96, joined Aug. 2009
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I CAN move with my kind of job. I just have to take that states test.
I WILL MOVE TO ANOTHER STATE IF NEED BE for the man I want to be with- without hesitation
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| 10/7/2009 12:57:16 AM |
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mayaman
Three Rivers, CA
43, joined Sep. 2009
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Kind of depends on how much you communicate and what form of communication you use. Recently I started chatting with a woman I met on Yahoo's answers after answering her question. We've really have had some great chats full of wit, humor, cuteness you get the picture. We've definetly been a little more brassier with each other than if we actually were face to face or even really talking to each other. Regardless of that we really got to liking each other a lot and some feelings were developed. Chatting/emailing is a lot different than a face to face or even just talking to each other. Were still friends but we actually used the messenger call function and it was totally a different vibe. It was just a lot more serious than it was before and not as loose. It was a reality check though and definetly was a way to feel each other out a little more because you can sense a person actually talking to them rather than typing. I think it makes it a little more intimate.
So I don't know if your just emailing or chatting. Take it to a more intimate level like actually talking if you can. Ultimately distance shouldn't be a barrier but if you haven't established any kind of physical relationship like even visiting each other once it's kind of an unrealistic uphill battle. If you have met and you both feel like you want to still the economy or the struggles to relocate shouldn't stop you. Theres always going to be challenges even in good relationships. Good luck... G
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| 10/7/2009 2:08:42 AM |
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beto30
La Porte, TX
26, joined Apr. 2009
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mayaman said it the best. Agreed.
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| 10/7/2009 2:38:21 AM |
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jayson07345
Reseda, CA
58, joined Apr. 2009
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Interesting reading this thread....3 states away!...try coast to coast!.....so maybe I'm being a fool....we haven't met.....yet......
I understand the reality of people.....we all have a life.....paths cross at the strangest of times & there is a reason for everything.....what is stronger? life's obstacles or the love of your life?......we each get to choose which path to take.....and whether we are ducking branches or riding side by side, life is better as two than it was as one.
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| 10/7/2009 7:19:03 AM |
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itsclear
Fort Mohave, AZ
52, joined Apr. 2009
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He is not nor will anyone ever be mr.right
But at least you have a pen-pal
you need to meet at least onc before even thinking about the future
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| 10/7/2009 8:23:48 PM |
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sugrnspice2
Boca Raton, FL
96, joined Aug. 2009
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He is not nor will anyone ever be mr.right
But at least you have a pen-pal
you need to meet at least onc before even thinking about the future
my, are you optomistic!
Yes..people are supposed to meet in person to find out the next "move" if at all.
What he's doing now is setting up the groundwork for that. Nothing wrong with that part.
I have a friend I had join an online chat group. She met a guy from another state.
They ended up getting friendly online, then email, phone calls, and so on.
They they each visited one another several times. It was "magic" ..in her own words.
THEN he MOVED to her state- he could in his line of work.
THEN SHE MOVED away to a different city close to him.
NOW they both live in the same city. She has children from her previous marriage which have distance from the Father issues to fix and finalize.
THEN ..guess what is next! They will be married! I have already asked to be a part of the wedding party.
LOVE does find a way!
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| 10/7/2009 9:49:21 PM |
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95north
Holbrook, MA
37, joined Jul. 2009
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Personally I would not be interested in a long distance relationship.
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| 10/7/2009 10:12:58 PM |
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gritsarebest
Kannapolis, NC
41, joined Jul. 2009
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I had several long distance relationships before internet dating existed and they were great. Each would develop and either we would work out the distance or it would end. Several led to marriage offers and one led to marriage. The distance will make you quickly decide how serious you are about someone. Basically somebody has to move or you have to work out an agreement to see each other every other weekend or something like that. I know several people who have met their spouses on the internet. One of those spouses is from another country and moved here. I know other folks who dated for years with the every other weekend scenario (I could never do that). So I think your dream man can be anywhere as long as somebody is willing to move. PATIENCE AND PLANNING IS REQUIRED IN CURRENT ECONOMY.
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