12/29/2007 3:54:53 PM |
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professer2
Saint Petersburg, FL
age: 52
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Get an attorney,
those who represent themselves have a fool for a client.
No harm meant, but, you need legal advice,not jailhouse lawyer talk from us peeps.
Good Luck.
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12/29/2007 3:59:58 PM |
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chinatown_girl
Oyster Bay, NY
age: 19
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when i add up the time u two were together the time it takes to have a baby, then if ur wife is near your age; u two were still teenagers when u got together. having a relationship, having a baby, being in the army, that sounds like a lot of stress for teenagers. u both were very mature to get to where u r now.
its sounds like ur wife is going thru some kind of crisis. does she have anyone to turn to? people in civilian life can turn to family or friends or even professional help, but without being penalized for getting the help.
if she's not "all in the head" she needs help. she went through a lot. causing her mom to be punished and unemployed is something u might have to eventually explain to your daughter.
i pray that things will turn out well for all of u.
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12/29/2007 4:03:08 PM |
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bigdaddy86
Carbondale, IL
age: 23
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No we were only together for 2 years total. We didn't get married until after the baby was born in June.
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12/29/2007 4:09:20 PM |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53
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wow..you have had alot of stuff happen in such a short time here! Take the advise of others here and get a lawyer, go for full custody of your little girl, love her and raise her the best you can and if and when your wife (soon to be ex) gets her act together, THEN you worry about her being a part of your daughters life...she may never get herself together. She's not your problem. You have a little baby to think of and she comes first, always! Good luck. I hope you have a good family/friends support group to help you with all the upcoming shit that's going to go down. You sound like you have a very good heart. God bless!
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12/29/2007 4:13:02 PM |
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irishlass1216
Florida, NY
age: 44
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My mother walked out on 4 kids and left us with an unstable father. so at least your daughter sounds like she has a good dad!!! DO the best you can with her, your wife will never see the error of her ways, my mom left 20 years ago and still thinks we were all fine and turned out well. We did, but not because of her half assed attempt at parenting from afar!!! Do the right thing for your daughter, you wife sounds unstable and be sure to be the best dad you can be!!! Good luck.
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12/29/2007 4:21:37 PM |
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writerman57
Jacksonville, FL
age: 57
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As a military dependent of your wife, you are entitled to free legal service through the military. That is why I told you to go to the judge advocate general. This is very important. The military do not sit well with bringing in outside attornies. I know what I am talking about. Do it the right way and it won't cost you anything
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12/29/2007 4:27:31 PM |
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davewave1
Ann Arbor, MI
age: 60
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As a former Officer in the Military, I can state for a fact that Writerman is correct. Utilize his good and accurate counsel.
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12/29/2007 10:09:30 PM |
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lattml
Hazleton, PA
age: 41
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I almost hate to answer a situation this serious because I'm no expert on anything -- so please, take anything I say with a grain of salt. But, if custody is the most important thing to you -- and from what you've posted, it seems to be -- I'd air it out. But if you both have smart lawyers, there's a way of doing that without having it all enter the courtroom. You tell your lawyer everything you have and everything you know. He tells her lawyer everything you told him and they can cut an out of court settlement with which you can both live. For example, if you're comfortable with her having some visitation rights and you have your lawyer tell her lawyer that, that can be part of the settlement and the "dirty details" never come out in court. And if you have enough on her -- and again from what you've posted, it appears you do -- her lawyer will probably in the mood to cut a deal. But I don't know if I'd tell her commander unless the scenario I just described doesn't happen -- if she tells him to get his back up and NOT cut a deal. WOW! Good luck. I'd hate to be in the situation you're in.
[Edited 12/29/2007 10:10:40 PM]
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