| 1/20/2008 12:34:55 AM |
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hassablad
Hazel Green, AL
age: 58
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You need to realize that YOU are the most important person in your life. He's just a stray DOG and will always come back where he can get the scraps. He may be cutie and cuddly but he bites. Send him to the pound.
[Edited 1/20/2008 12:37:53 AM]
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| 1/20/2008 12:55:36 AM |
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agentleman4u2no
Charlotte, NC
age: 37
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Why ride on this emotional rollicoaster with this man. A man who loves and cares about his woman has her best interest at heart and he showed you twice what kind of person he is. Love should not hurt at all.
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| 1/20/2008 2:06:59 AM |
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kiwiboy1974
Victoria
Australia
age: 33
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Sweetheart what the hell are you doing...watch some oprah doctor phil or something like that life is far to short to be wasting good breath on this loser and your not getting any younger
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| 1/20/2008 2:32:46 AM |
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genuinegal72
Queensland
Australia
age: 35
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I agree totally! Don't waist another second. Life is too short. Enjoy it while you can and get the hell away from him. There are much better fish in the sea.
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| 1/20/2008 3:19:45 AM |
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kittens69
Victoria
Australia
age: 39
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Hi spyder. I will start by saying that I agree with everyone else, get him out of your life permanatly, you can do better. This may sound harsh but it comes from the heart. Think about this, WHAT WOULD YOU TELL YOUR DAUGHTER IF HER CHILD'S FATHER WAS LIKE HER FATHER? Would you let her make the same mistakes you say you are making. If your answer is "No I won't let her make the same mistake" then you would need to take your own advice. I have been where you are, with a loser, it was hard, but I decided that I didnt need a loser in my life or my kids lives. So do whats best for you, your daughter & your grandchild. If he wont do the right thing by his family, then he is not worth it. Why should you keep giving him what he wants & needs when he wont do the same for you. A relationship is a two way street, give & take. Except in your case you are doing all the giving, he is doing all the taking. Get out of it, there is someone better out there for you. Good luck & best wishes.
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| 1/20/2008 7:57:42 AM |
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tnquality
Union City, TN
age: 32
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let him go i did that for a yr.you will get tired.he wanted to see me and another girl too.stole money from me asked me to marry him and asked the other woman to marry him too.so i had enough.had to get the police to make him quit showing up here.he couldnt do without her either.he liked chaos.so please dont live like that its miserable.take care you will know not just because of your child either.do it for you.thanks.i know what you are dealing with.
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| 1/20/2008 8:02:43 AM |
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howard381969
Mesquite, TX
age: 38
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First off, You have already said that you know he's lying..... It's time to wake up and smell the loser.
Drug addiction is a very dangerous thing. If he doesn't kill himself, he'll either kill you or hurt you very badly (physically and/or psychologically).
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| 1/20/2008 8:34:38 AM |
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tnquality
Union City, TN
age: 32
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well said
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| 1/20/2008 9:29:56 AM |
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krupa1
Abilene, TX
age: 39
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You are doing this to yourself honey.....at this point, with everything you know about the situation....you know damn well what you are settling for. Hate to say it but, at this point you can't even blame that loser.....you are the one willing to put up with that crap. Hope things work out but, it sounds like you are willing to repeat that screwed up cycle. If that is what you are willing to settle for....that is YOUR desicion.
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| 1/20/2008 9:42:44 AM |
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sumbeach763
Raeford, NC
age: 44
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She has to heal, herself......All she is thinking if I may say is that whats best for the other person....... I was thats person as well.......trying to love ones self is hard to do....... And thats why many people stay because theres no love or they feel that well im going to find it some how, some way .....But do we really know what LOVE is....
Always trying to do the right thing, tends to get us into trouble, we are the ones that suffers......While the ones that are doing the stupid stuff lives a happy exsistence ...
We are left in limbo......And its not right, we disirve to be happy as well........
Your looking back at all those memories, What do you see, All bad things it seams, but the child......start today as the first day of the rest of your new happy life, move on, and don't give into to that pain.........Best wishes Ok, and try to have a wonerful new life, Hugs beach
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| 1/20/2008 9:45:39 AM |
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wolf_man
Ada, OK
age: 44
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your just prolonging the heartache, i would let it go
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| 1/20/2008 9:49:19 AM |
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thegooddude24
Joliet, IL
age: 25
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What am I doing?
Thats a good question..
I've said it before on the forums. It's clear to you by reading what you've said that this guy is a loser. Your sense of being alone takes him back, not you. Everyone has at least some ounce of pride in them and some just don't understand how to use it. Heres how.. Take the love, passion, and whatever else that you waist on loser boy and put it into yourself. Everyone knows the saying, "you have to love yourself before you can anyone," it's true. Get your nails done, join yoga, get a massage, and stop waisting time on situations that you're just not going to win.
Good Luck..
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| 1/20/2008 9:56:39 AM |
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dixiethelovebug
Auburn, GA
age: 43
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spyder03:
Would you want your child or grandchild to choose someone like him?
If the answer is no then why do you think that your are not worth more?
Work on yourself and learn to love you. You are worth more than that.
One more thing, What would you tell your bestfreind to do? Think about this long and hard.
Now be your own bestfreind.
JMO
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| 1/20/2008 10:37:09 AM |
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wendy001
Manchester, CT
age: 36
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Im going through the same thing right now except i tried ending it. Its an addiction its sick and we can do it i promise we can, ok?
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| 1/20/2008 1:07:25 PM |
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julz007
New South Wales
Australia
age: 44
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 man wat can i say but i understand , as u c my boyfreind of 3 yrs is the same , i (we) know their no good for us .... the pain.. the lonlyness wen they arnt around... do u get a feeling of dredge ... wen he ant there ? its how bad we feel wen they arnt around that makes us feel like we need them back....its a pain no amount of alcohol, drugs,meditation, freind its like nothing will fix it ... than they walk in the door.....wam... u feel better... i do believe we can be as addictive to them , as they are to their drugs and lifestyle...
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