1/6/2008 8:16:25 AM |
What is a real "deal breaker" with you? |
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loveisarose
Port Richey, FL
age: 50
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goodole, verbal abuse flipped my switch. Worse than the physical.
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1/6/2008 8:45:16 AM |
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wvpenni
Morgantown, WV
age: 55
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I agree with you loveisarose.
[Edited 1/6/2008 8:45:38 AM]
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1/6/2008 8:54:59 AM |
What is a real "deal breaker" with you? |
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sweetness1954
Hebron, IN
age: 53
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I have been through the alchol, verbal abuse, infidelity, and lying. I was the dumb one though, i was the one willing to try to make the relationships work. They just didn't want to try. I now have many deal breakers, just hope I never have to use them!!!
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1/6/2008 8:55:53 AM |
What is a real "deal breaker" with you? |
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jan113
Downingtown, PA
age: 51
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addictions, disrespect, lack of communication
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1/6/2008 9:00:22 AM |
What is a real "deal breaker" with you? |
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shari1955
Butler, KY
age: 52
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there is nothing worse to me than a drunk. Walking on egg shells just because he had a few to drink is not fun. I came from drinkers and married two but this will not happen again.. nothing wrong with a few drinks here and there but I can't handle people that live to drink. I myself have a few once in a while..Never been involved with druggies..But I could see that is an issue too
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1/6/2008 9:17:04 AM |
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sorprano
Wayne, NJ
age: 55
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1955: i chose to social drink maybe one glass of wine is a limit--but i've bought women many drinks and i don't do so now because i may see them the next time i do and it seems they forgot who i was in the 1st place...seems when a man does drink himself to a state of disappointment it takes someone special to to take the 1st step doing something about it...when someone gets a 2nd chance and doesn't give two schitts about the person he's with then he deserves to be placed on the curb for someone else to deal with that excess garbage--
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1/6/2008 9:17:34 AM |
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mrsmiles4444
Culpeper, VA
age: 51
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there is nothing wrong with being drunk, because I've been there, and am quite more comical when drunk, or maybe I should use the word tipsy here. now, being drunk, or tipsy, on daily basis, is a deal breaker for me, and infidelity gets one strike, and one strike only, and your out. I've had to use the drunk deal breaker once, and the other twice. It is not changed my believe, and they will forever be my deal breakers in my eyes.
Now the drunk, or tipsy person, I tried to help, yet if you don't want help, there is no help for you.
the infidelity is uncalled for, and I am not a very forgiven man when it comes to that, so like in baseball............. you're OUT!
communication is something you work at, and without it, you allow abuse to take the forefront. being I can talk someones ears off, I have not had the problem of lack of communication, with of course the exception of the ones who were unfaithful, and if they had communicated their wants and desires, so we could have ended the relationsship, they could have frely enjoyed the brief moment with that married man, who promised them the world, only to find he was lieing. man that makes me feel real good inside.
other than that................let's ride this roller coaster of life together.
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1/6/2008 9:21:16 AM |
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shir567
Hillsboro, OR
age: 57
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Trust and respect - hand in hand. If I can't trust someone, I can't respect them. If I can't respect them I can't love them. If I can respect them, I can hang there over almost anything
Shirl
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1/6/2008 9:30:41 AM |
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texaschick51
Corsicana, TX
age: 56
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In reading the posts on this topic it reaffirms that deal breakers are as varied and wide as personalities. The top three seem to be abuse, alcohol, and infidelity. But of course a lot of times abuse and alcohol go hand and hand. Ever hear anyone say, "I wouldn't drink so much if she/he were a better partner?" or this is a personal favorite of mine, "I wouldn't have hit her if she had just kept her mouth shut". and then the classic, "I wouldn't have had to run around if I got what I needed at home". Communication and taking responsibility for your own actions would solve a lot of the problems I see in relationships today.
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1/6/2008 9:30:54 AM |
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emt854
Appleton, WI
age: 53
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A drunk, abuser, liar, cheater and someone that cant open up.
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1/6/2008 9:50:08 AM |
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butterfly58
Arcadia, MO
age: 58
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I would have to say a controlling person who wants to change who you are to everything that he is or jumps to conclusions with every word spoken. I too would say drinking too much or constantly checking on what you are doing, which is trust.
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1/6/2008 9:54:57 AM |
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sweetness1954
Hebron, IN
age: 53
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Just always remember, those who cheat, and think the grass is always greener? There ARE brown spots!!!
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1/6/2008 9:59:13 AM |
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pamela0324
Pasadena, MD
age: 53
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I need to be able to trust him. If drinking, drugging, meanness, or infidelity happens, it destroys my trust. I'm not willing to sacrifice my peace of mind ever again. No trust, no deal.
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1/6/2008 11:09:13 AM |
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lotsafuninpa
Tioga, PA
age: 66
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1st. cheating------lying---------being paranoid,as my last husband was-------dis-respect------no communication---------all deal breakers for me:::::
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1/6/2008 11:15:19 AM |
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thepkk
Springfield, MO
age: 52
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I can't stand a cheater or a lier. And someone who is controlling. Those would get him kicked to the curb the fastest!
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