1/9/2008 11:17:17 AM |
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libra75
Lowell, AR
age: 32 online now!
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I was a step-father for 10 yrs.........
I never beat those kids.........
I learned what kind of a step-father
NOT to be by my experiences w/ my
own step-father
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1/9/2008 11:20:04 AM |
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magicmanooo7
Pineville, LA
age: 34
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libra..i would never beat any kid, i love kids..the flip side to this topic is you should treat them as your OWN KIDS..no favortism, or any kind of exclusions when doing things with your own kids..i had to live through this myself
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1/9/2008 11:29:58 AM |
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libra75
Lowell, AR
age: 32 online now!
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I did raise em' as my own........
the boy was only 6 mts old when I
got together w/ Lydia. I took him
everywhere w/ me.......Hotroddin'
& buildin' fences, like my dad did w/ me
Even took up bein' friends w/ his real dad.
I dont get to see him anymore since Lydia
died.......kinda tears me up....
I'd love to have a son of my own some day.
[Edited 1/9/2008 11:31:13 AM]
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1/9/2008 11:32:59 AM |
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magicmanooo7
Pineville, LA
age: 34
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libra..my hats off to you..a real man!..i hope you get your wish someday, you sound very desreving!
i hate it though that you cant see them anymore, that isnt fair to you at ALL..youve bonded with them, and now its gone...that just isnt right.. i hope, if nothing else, that they look you up someday when theyre old enough
[Edited 1/9/2008 11:34:43 AM]
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1/9/2008 11:36:42 AM |
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tinasdream
Katy, TX
age: 31
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i don't agree maybe the real dad isn't even around
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1/9/2008 11:37:40 AM |
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17cloverman
Delanson, NY
age: 44
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1/9/2008 11:41:00 AM |
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libra75
Lowell, AR
age: 32 online now!
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the real dad's around...........
that's why i never get to see Lance(the boy)
They moved & changed thier phone #..........
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1/28/2008 10:24:41 AM |
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fatblack
Tickfaw, LA
age: 27
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kealy sometimes you gota whip kids or else the police gona whip them for you later
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1/28/2008 10:32:13 AM |
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fatblack
Tickfaw, LA
age: 27
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croedog you cant spank the shit off my ass ok im not a bad step dude the kids like me sometimes its a challenge and lady i wouldnt kill no one maybe myself ok i need advise not judgmental comments ok um young 27 and think i would get good advise from some but hey sue me i will whip kids til im dead and gone cause if i dont do it the cops will i want people to give me advise to better my relations with the whole kid mother thing im new to dealing iwith kids i want them to know that their dad left them and i will be there for them just like their mine he dont wana do nothing with them im there bringing them to the movies, sports, and i wana buy me a boat so i can take them fishing on the weekend so dont look at me like im some child abuser i play with them with love to
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1/28/2008 10:35:50 AM |
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fatblack
Tickfaw, LA
age: 27
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are your kids sucessful kealy woman huh what they do
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1/28/2008 10:41:02 AM |
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fatblack
Tickfaw, LA
age: 27
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thanks magicmanooo thats some good advise you know when i whip them i see the change in them after the whipping they come to me ater they back talk and hug me and say they sorry so you know i think my way is good but i dont like whipping them they mom give me permission to ok one is 8 and give me and her mom no trouble the boy just eat a lot and the other is 7 and following behind a asshole in school getting in trouble i was a class clown and i dont want them to go my route so i gota be harder on them and besides their mom baby them anyway she makes them think she is going to be there for them the rest of their life thats where i come in and try to make them independent men i dont wana raise no shu shu boys
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1/28/2008 10:48:55 AM |
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fatblack
Tickfaw, LA
age: 27
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libra you kinda like me i had my dad from birth til today we built our home together we fished we wrestled we ate we did everything i was a bad kid always in trouble in school my dad never disowned me he's here for me now thats why i never went to jail or did drugs in stuff father is what the world needs no matter if you step or real men make kids and run but women run from kids to the world dont have no more unconditional love i played against eli manning my high school days i was the one who messed up his left leg i was to be a nfl pro i had it all but clowing took everything from me thats why im harder on them i want them to be better than me and you when they get older i want them to say that i know you not my dad but thanks for caring for us thats when my heart will open up to them as my real son my love for them will show in what they make out of themselves oh and how the my cowboys let the giants kick their ass in texas stadium
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1/28/2008 11:33:06 AM |
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libra75
Lowell, AR
age: 32 online now!
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....and if I get the chance to do it again, I will.
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1/28/2008 11:57:21 AM |
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paisley99
Cincinnati, OH
age: 27
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That is why I'm so worried about dating again. I worry for my children and what effects it will have on them. If you ever hit MY kids, you'd have to call the cops on me! I'd do more that kick your ass to the curb. I'd curb check your teeth. KEEP YOUR HANDS OF THOSE BABIES!
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1/28/2008 12:13:36 PM |
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the_t_in_me
Riner, VA
age: 20
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I am the second eldest of 6, my youngest sibling is now 3, and due to some parenting problems, for many years growing up [13 - 19] I was mom/dad/bro.
So in disopline, I know something of what you mean. They weren't my kids, so doing it right became very important. The most important thing is, never do it in anger. They will never learn anything but, "when he's angry he hurts," also, a major part of it is talking to them.
My little brother at age 4 asked if this was real life or just a dream, now I know that's exceptional, but at any age, they need to knowt:
1. what the rules are.
2. what the punishment will be.
3. talk to them before the punishment so they know what they did.
4. show them after the punishment that all has been forgiven and that they are loved.
I can not over emphizise how important this is. Whether they are your kids or not, this format holds true, but even more when they aren't really yours.
Also, bear in mind that they should never have to earn your love. You love them no matter what. That doesn't mean you don't punish evil, because that itself is love. But praise their characture, not their work.
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