| 1/16/2008 7:49:24 AM |
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sunny_smile
Knoxville, TN
age: 37
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I am puzzled about someone like this as well. In my case though, he has social anxiety and just wants to be left alone sometimes to work his stuff out without putting it on me. That is the explanation I get anyway, we have been seeinf each other off and on for four months though an d there is still very little evidence of actual emotional connection on his part. I get very insecure myself and get dramatic on him which pushes him even further away. I don't know, it could be mental illness, but not calling on your birthday, that's no good. Well, come to think of it I didn't get a call on mine either lol, so what do I know?
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| 1/16/2008 11:59:16 PM |
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madcrazy4u
Carmichaels, PA
age: 32
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Sorry to hear that sunny. I'm coping and it's getting easier every day little by little. I have chosen to break all contact w/ him. Kinda like giving him a dose of his own medicine. See how he likes it.
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| 1/17/2008 12:53:37 AM |
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sunny_smile
Knoxville, TN
age: 37
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Yeah, probably best. I'm not sure what keeps me either. I love him, but it has to be more than that. I sacrifice a whole lot of what I need to try and make him feel less stress. I am normally a very strong minded independant woman, and I have found myself insecure, needy, non trusting, and when something doesn't seem to add up, it makes me nuts trying to figure out why and then I end up apologizing for questioning him. It just isn't me. I should probablt get out too, but there's something about him, maybe it's that I can't get him under control, I don't know. I just can't seem to let go.
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| 1/19/2008 2:25:13 PM |
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madcrazy4u
Carmichaels, PA
age: 32
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A friend of his came in to where I work yesterday. Turns out that he is still out of town w/ work. He still could have went to a payphone to call and let me know!
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| 1/19/2008 2:35:28 PM |
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linder008
South Pittsburg, TN
age: 44
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Hmmm...he dont text or call n 4 days??? that would tell me he really was playin with me.....sorry but thats just me
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| 1/22/2008 11:37:51 PM |
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madcrazy4u
Carmichaels, PA
age: 32
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I ran into the guy I was talking about yesterday and played it cool...like he wasn't even there. Kept talking to friends and it must have bothered him, because when I went outside to make a phone call, he followed me out. We sat in my car and talked for almost an hour. Then we went back to his house and talked the rest of the night. We both put everything out on the table and had a heart to heart talk. It did us both a world of good. He explained that he had been dealing w/ a problem and didn't want to burden me w/ it. I let him know that I would stand beside him thru his good times as well as bad. I let him know that he did hurt me very much and after a good cry, we both decided to give our relationship another chance. Wish me luck!!!
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| 1/23/2008 7:59:38 AM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44 online now!
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Good Luck!!!!!!
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| 1/23/2008 2:52:17 PM |
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sunbeachflower
Suffolk, VA
age: 38
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Everything was good for a while until [ these dreaded words} he "found someone else !" This is why he hasn't called you.Then on top of that he has the nerve to be jelous. This is because he is doing you wrong.Only the guilty speaks and show. Don't play yourself. Go by your judgment.
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| 1/23/2008 10:29:19 PM |
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victatious
Modesto, CA
age: 23
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The only reason men become friends with women is because they hope that some day they will have sex with them. If you are single then sure you can have male friends. but the moment you are in a relationship limit your contact because no man what's to be with someone who say "oh he just a friend " because even if he trust you to death he knows your friend will take advantage of any situation to get with you. As for your problem yes he has moved on, you might have taken things to slow. Men always need to feel like they are wonted. And the jealous thing is valid in his mind he has obviously been hurt before. Next time limit your contact with other men and focus on the one you what to be with.
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| 1/23/2008 10:44:52 PM |
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sidman
Grand Junction, CO
age: 30
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just remember I would go by your own judgement your first instant is ussually right.
however some insecure guys could act like jealous guys. actually I heard of a insecure girl calling someone every 10 minutes til his mom got tired of his cell phone going off and to her to stop calling so much she was driving him crazy... Well some people are insecure for a while at least the first 2 weeks, than after that they drop off because they become more confident. Maybe he realized he was calling you too munch and if he gave you some space it would make your relationship stronger... Maybe he wants you to prove that you will go after him. however, there is no way to know. relationships are so hard between girls and guys as if we miss a signal from each other things get nutty.
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| 1/23/2008 10:48:30 PM |
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madcrazy4u
Carmichaels, PA
age: 32
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Well, vic...all I can say is that I'm not going to turn my back on my friends. He has friends that are girls and I do not get jealous over them. After our long talk, he realizes that he hurt me and that we need to be trusting of each other. He said that he realized during that week just how much he cares for me and that it scares him. He said he thought he was in love in the past, but he never truely knew what love was until he met me.
And for the record everyone...He has NOT moved on. I had a long conversation w/ his mother and she said that he still wants to be with me and that he loves me.
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