| 1/17/2008 10:28:33 AM |
Where have all the nice guy's gone? |
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kegleaves
Mount Juliet, TN
age: 29
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some of us younger ones are too hun. Just seem to attract the bad ones.
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| 1/17/2008 10:45:13 AM |
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harriett
Homosassa, FL
age: 61 online now!
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I never had one of those. If I did
I'd take him home & love him.
Must be a rare creature. 
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| 1/17/2008 12:44:28 PM |
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tinasdream
Katy, TX
age: 31
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to work and never had a nice guy like that either
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| 1/17/2008 12:47:47 PM |
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nashoba_miko
Bethany, OK
age: 38
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Yeah..I married the "nice" guy........he changed when we got married. Thought the marriage license was "ownership" papers. Must have got a rogue one.
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| 1/17/2008 12:52:28 PM |
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stormilove
Norman Park, GA
age: 46
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When I finally met my nice guy I married him. I did everything in my power to be a good wife to him and it wasn't enough he changed so much I can't believe he is even the same man. I always ask myself where did the man I married go? I don't know where he went but I divorced the man he became. Was it a ploy to get me to marry him ? I will never know.
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| 1/17/2008 12:56:08 PM |
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bonsaijoe
Vero Beach, FL
age: 40
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im a nice guy everyone thinks my ex was nuts for leaving
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| 1/17/2008 12:56:43 PM |
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nashoba_miko
Bethany, OK
age: 38
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I divorced mine too........12 years later....still wont leave me alone....I have a count down when my youngest turns 18 years old.
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| 1/17/2008 12:58:14 PM |
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drummrboy
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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bonsa, u and me both pal. their loss, that's how i look at it. but sometimes, the good guys get gun-shy going back on the dating seen with woman. because of previous experience. so we're more guarde, and yes, maybe a little jaded. can u blame us? 
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| 1/17/2008 1:01:40 PM |
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bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 48
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Hey Bonsa,
Everyone said my ex was crazy too. Even her daughter and my exs first husband. But you know.....women do crazy things sometimes. I think that is why you see so many boats. Sometimes it's eaiser to get a boat and a dog instead of a wife that really doesn't care about you.
[Edited 1/17/2008 1:02:24 PM]
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| 1/17/2008 1:21:00 PM |
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soldier4life2k
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 34
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hey im a nice guy.... stop your looking im right here.....
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| 1/17/2008 2:27:49 PM |
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dsmovieman
Lake Worth, FL
age: 36
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WTG iceman make a woman feel like dirt because all of her best friends have always been guys. Mostly because they are easier to trust than some of the backstabbing debs I've known. Of course you could be right about some of them having more than friendship in mind, but most of them were dating or married to friends of mine. Since that time machine doesn't exist and I being one of the smart ones have learned from my mistakes. I guess I'll just keep looking and see if there are any "nice guys" left who don't have a chip on their shoulder about how they were treated eons ago and can move on with their lives as well. God Bless and have a wonderful day!!
dsmovieman responds:
Wow. Sounds like icemannky struck a nerve.
Y'know, this isn't just the opinion of one angry man- I can attest to the functional reality of his post myself. In fact, a variant of the same basic theme is happening right now on DH. I've not recieved one email or wink or anything. I've contacted a few people. No responses. Yet they all profess to pursue similar ideals: "Looking for a nice, caring, honest guy who isn't in it for sex alone and with whom I can have an intelligent conversation."
Let's recap, shall we? It clearly states in my profile that I'm a former journalist and currently I'm embarking on independent filmmaking (Writing/directing. Not acting), both extremely creative endeavors. You cannot be an idiot and seriously engage in either of those activities. That should also indicate the level of energy and creativity I possess. My random DH posts (up until this one) can tell you more about my wit and good humor than any self description (check out my posts in the christianity forums sometime. I defy you to tell me my heart and head are not in the right place). I also have a full time job, meaning I'm not a deadbeat.
So what's the problem? Why no contact? Oops!! (insert sound of screeching brakes) Hold on!! Wait a minute!! I don't have classic good looks and I currently make less than $25,000 a year.
So, before you start tossing off comments to icemannky suggesting he has a "chip on hs shoulder", why don't you take a look around. The situation for a lot of us is that we are out here trying to find our way to that soul with whom we can connect and are being rejected based on shallow ideals and insubstantial principles. 45% divorce rate, baby!! It's there because people hook up for all the wrong reasons.
The nice guys are here and we're not hidden or secluded. We're hoping you'll notice, but you don't. So stop asking where we are.
Forgive me if this post sounds defensive- I'm certain that it does. Unfortunately, it's also the truth and I'm a little too weary of the BS to let it slide without comment anymore. I mean, what the hell? I'm already alone. All signs point to my remaining alone whether I post this or not. So I might as well keep my integrity intact and be honest. Peace.
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| 1/17/2008 2:41:47 PM |
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antwion23
Cleveland, OH
age: 27
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iceman that is absouloutly a-1,
i'm a nice guy just like you and i tottaly agree. the women can't blame us for relentlessly keeping our guards up when all we see is these same women
be stuck on stupid with a guy who probbaly does not care at all, and all we try to do is be REAL MEN!!!!.
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| 1/18/2008 1:22:43 AM |
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icemannky
Lexington, KY
age: 37 online now!
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Kudos to all of you who have posted a reply here. For some of you I would like to say I am sorry if I struck a nerve or offended you. I did not post this because I have a chip on my shoulder or to lash out at women. I merely posted this as an insight to the type of women that is always posting (Where have all the nice guys gone?).
Not all women have overlooked the gentleman that was there for them nor have all women been disappointed with the choice they did make. But let me say this, we have all made mistakes and hopefully most, if not all of you have learned from them. But, as we all know, some have not.
Yes, some of you ladies have great heads on your shoulders and chose the man that was right for you at the time but things changed down the road. I'm not saying you did or he did but your relationship did or you would not be on DH looking again if it didn't. Alot of us have made bad choices because we lusted after someone more than we loved them. That is almost always a mistake.
They say that opposites attract, in most cases our opposite is the bad boy type or girl. That being said, that image is not only an image, but a way of life for them and we soon realize that it is not a way of life for us. finally leading to the imminent divorce which we all hate.
I see by your responses that what I set out to do, I have accomplished. That is to wake up your senses and feelings, and for you to come to reality with them and speak your mind. That I have done. Let the heart lead and the soul follow and every thing will turn out for the best. Do not let lust, greed or even unbelievable sex blind your sight for which you are trying to accomplish and that is to be in love.... True love.
 I hope all of you find it and I hope that we all look at this and each other and have a better understanding of the opposite sex. Love all of you and God Bless. ICEMANNKY/ Jason
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| 1/18/2008 2:23:39 AM |
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huckleberrysqr
Renton, WA
age: 38
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iceman, I have to agree with you on many levels. The thing that gives me hope on DH though is that I've started chatting with some of the sweetest ladies here. Brat, smiling and dragon are just a few. And they all seem to have their heads on pretty straight as to wanting the nice guy. I dunno, it's 2:30 AM, and here I am yet again with a serious case of insomnia. It's starting to make me loopy I think. I need a pretzel cuddle from someone (lady, not guy) I think.
Big bear hugs
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| 1/18/2008 2:30:00 AM |
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nashoba_miko
Bethany, OK
age: 38
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I only hope your message goes out far and wide on here. I have met some amazing guys, but because of some shallow/fake women....they wont give them a chance and its heartbreaking.
lol...same here...thinkin' eyes are finally starting to burn...maybe hot chocolate will help me sleep.
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