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bamabob
Crane Hill, AL
65, joined Nov. 2007
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Well, I've been a perfect gentleman and got screwed over. I never got screwed over when I didn't care. That's the problem...it's how we perceive our fit in the relationship. As for my case...it's much like the big problem that pervades many relationships and break ups...people think they deserve to feel like it's all daisies all the time... truth is, it ain't! There's going to be times when it does really get tough and you have to tough it out to keep from losing the whole investment. To me, any relationship in which you were happy for years is well worth saving if at all possible. The destructiveness of many break ups is a killer. Finding those little live embers and getting the fire back is really tough and not always something that can be done.
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| 1/19/2008 2:02:45 PM |
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cmjanew
Sayre, PA
57, joined Dec. 2007
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Once they're spoiled - compost them.
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| 1/19/2008 2:33:41 PM |
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e_cole
Muskegon, MI
51, joined Jul. 2004
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"born with nothing, die with everything"
When you feel crapped on it's the wrong relationship to be spoiling in anyway. Give out of love, expecting nothing in return; because if the one you love is genuine, they will be trying to spoil you more than you ever ever ever imagined.
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| 1/19/2008 2:34:03 PM |
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zero85
Florence, AL
32, joined Dec. 2007
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i think its good to spoil women thats just me though i guess.
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| 1/20/2008 1:19:33 PM |
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pichick712
Aston, PA
58, joined Jan. 2008
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I was married twice and can honestly say that between my 2 husbands and any man I have dated before or since, I HAVE NEVER BEEN SPOILED. Everything that was given to me had strings attached or was used as amo to throw in my face at a later time OF HIS CHOOSING. I would not know how to deal with a man who spoiled me as I have only known how to be abused and treated badly.
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| 1/20/2008 1:28:39 PM |
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faith32
Bedford, IN
57, joined Jan. 2008
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My late husband spoiled me. I loved it! I spoiled him too. We didn't get for each other on the typical "holidays" Gifts were a surprise...spur of the moment...thought of you today gifts. I guess I'm just rotten now & need to be thrown away. 
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| 1/20/2008 1:34:19 PM |
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cyberangel45
Apalachicola, FL
55, joined Nov. 2007
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spoil me...spoil me... here I am....   .
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| 1/20/2008 3:28:54 PM |
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owensborogirl
Owensboro, KY
53, joined Nov. 2007
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I've never been spoiled so I will not reply
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| 2/4/2008 3:30:40 PM |
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1pinkstar
Omaha, NE
63, joined May. 2007
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those of you men who think it is bad to spoil women should be ashamed of yourselves.
How do you want your daughters, sisters and moms treated?
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| 2/4/2008 3:36:28 PM |
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tallestdiva
Flint, MI
38, joined Nov. 2007
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do you have to ask? Hell no it is nothing wrong with spoiling a woman. If I was being spoiled, I would only return the favor. Let's spoil each other.
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| 2/4/2008 3:36:58 PM |
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babygreeneyes12
Chicago, IL
51, joined Jan. 2008
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Every woman likes to be spoiled....I spoil everyone around me... even my pets 
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| 2/4/2008 3:53:05 PM |
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katiescarlett72
Dallas, TX
44, joined Jan. 2008
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Good God LOL. My ex and I both spoiled the hell out of each other (until we discovered we hated each other, of course) but I honestly don't think either one of us would say that "they did all the receiving and then dumped on me."
I'm really surprised by the answers here. Like, shocked.
For him, he was always giving me stuff that he knew I would love, ranging from roses (that's how he got me to go out with him in the first place, red roses at work every week for a month, and then he continued it when we were married) to nights off from the kids to (budget-appropriate) jewelry. For me, I cooked his favorite stuff (called his mom to get her recipes) and gave backrubs and once went all over town getting him gift certificates to play golf at every golf course when we first moved here, so he could figure out which one he liked best.
I don't know, I guess we just got lucky that both of us really liked to do things for each other, just to see the other person smile.
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| 2/4/2008 4:00:39 PM |
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elaine47
Petersburg, IN
56, joined Jan. 2008
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Well katie...........you are one of the lucky ones i suppose but don't be so shocked at some of the answers honey. Because some of us have really never had that! and actually i wouldn't call it being spoiled unless it was one sided; i would call it loving and careing enough about your mate to do those things for each other. jmo
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| 2/4/2008 4:05:14 PM |
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katiescarlett72
Dallas, TX
44, joined Jan. 2008
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Elaine I'm not doubting what anyone is saying, I just hate it that it seems so prevalent. I guess now I'm understanding better why people are so shell-shocked towards dating. There really are some areas where I'm naive, and glad of it.
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| 2/4/2008 4:44:06 PM |
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sea_wench1
Chandler, AZ
64, joined Feb. 2008
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Here's what you do.....You spoil the hell out her so that way no one else will want her...lol and then you'll see how fast she'll come running back to you when she isn't getting the same out there in the real world.....then you can have last laugh... listen to grandma...( wink )
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| 2/4/2008 6:15:36 PM |
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magtag
East York, ON
50, joined Aug. 2007
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with treating a woman or a man wonderfully in all sorts of different ways.
Be careful how soon you are giving gifts...little things occasionally at first are ok, but nothing extravagant, you're setting yourself up to be used as a gift/money machine. If a woman is not interested in having a relationship with you unless you are providing these things, then they're not into you, they're into your wallet.
Once you have progressed into a serious long-term relationship, then the number of gifts or value is limitless and should fall within what you would like to give and what you can afford. But you need to know that the relationship is based on the woman wanting YOU first, not the gifts.
All of this goes for men or women and includes all the lovely nicities like the massages, little love notes, flowers, candy etc. And it HAS TO BE BALANCED! Both sides should be WANTING to do these things for each other, just because you want to and you care about each other's happiness.
Having said all of that, be sure that you are not buying things for a date in order to buy her (or his) affection or love (even subconsciously). This is when you set yourself up to be used and you end up choosing the wrong person for you. A relationship should be built on love, trust, understanding, communication etc...not gifts or spoiling. But once you are in a solid relationship based on these things there should be no limit to the spoiling you can do for EACH OTHER. So spoil away...just do it at the right time, with the right woman.
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| 2/4/2008 6:27:22 PM |
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mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
53, joined Nov. 2007
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He had better spoil me with love....I spoil my man to pieces....I love giving fun love and R&R to him, bathing him, good food, full body massage you bet...in return i want to be the center of his attention when he walks thru the door...all the kitchen foreplay, chasing each other crazy fun love, lay my head down in his lap and pet my hair when were chillin out...yes he beter spoil me rotten...I want the lovins, gifts are for special surprises, I am not big into materialism, I find it to be a turn off, I wont get offended by diamonds once evry few years but I want the loving...oh and roadtrips lots of traveling, he cant be cheap when it comes to my wings.
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| 2/4/2008 6:33:44 PM |
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skylark2627
Eldridge, IA
37, joined Feb. 2008
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OK guys...I'm as clueless as you. I usually spoil my men and I'm generally the one that gets crapped on. I've found that the more I act like I don't care, the more they want me. I don't get it, so I stopped playing the head games. If I want to spoil a guy, I will, and, if he starts to treat me like garbage, I show him the door. Life's to short to worry or put up with that shit. Since I'm usually the one doing the spoiling, I haven't really been with a guy that spoils a woman, so I really don't know what that's like. It's nice to see there are some good guys out there, though. Kudos to all you fine gentlemen. 
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| 2/4/2008 6:40:17 PM |
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silkpanties53
Baytown, TX
62, joined Dec. 2007
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Go right ahead and spoil me
I would love every minute of it 
Never is it wrong to spoil a woman
they all love the affection and comfort
there are a few exceptions but there are
also reasons for them leaving and it was
probably to late for you to try and spoil them 
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