| 1/20/2008 3:49:20 PM |
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garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
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It can work yes but one or the other has to be willing to relocate. My sister met her husband on the net and is very happy, he moved here. He was quite settled as was she but love took over. So you just never know what the future may hold.
Btw...he came from Iowa to Ohio
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| 1/22/2008 8:37:28 AM |
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easy111
Prior Lake, MN
age: 54
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It can work but it's too much for me to type here.
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| 1/22/2008 8:40:34 AM |
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drummrboy
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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pic. most of women respond to my email with laughter. then they block me. i get it. but damn! that smarts! 
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| 1/22/2008 8:48:55 AM |
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jules34
Quincy, IL
age: 35
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My new years resolution was to crush any limitations I have set for my life! So, I guess I'm pretty open-minded. I haven't had much luck finding the right guy around here so who knows. Any guys from Italy on here????
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| 1/22/2008 8:49:40 AM |
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bamabob
Cullman, AL
age: 55
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It all depends on being open and wanting to find love rather than demanding that your wishes be met. Of course, that can go both ways. Myself, I've just got my little business established after moving here almost 2 years ago. Got a lot started and simply am not in a position to pull up and move again for now. I'm very alone but stuck with the ambitions of finishing what I've got started. Once I get this house built then I would be able to sell and move/retire... until then it's just not likely...so, unless I want to take a heck of a chance I'd have to find someone who's willing to move here. As for dating...if I could do it in a day or weekend then it's limited to only how far I'm willing to travel. It's more about the time than the money.
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| 1/22/2008 8:58:51 AM |
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lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 37
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Id like to find someone from another state that would either relocate or I would. I find women from my state too familar at times.But im not shutting out any possiblities.
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| 1/22/2008 9:04:54 AM |
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smilesalot2
Smithtown, NY
age: 46
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Hi Pichick...I most definitely understand where your coming from.....your hearts beats a mile a minute and you brain says...hey...get a realty check....Its not visiting once or twice...its the in betweens...when and if you get an answer to this question...write me....because I would love to know the answer too....
Good Luck in your search for happiness.
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| 1/22/2008 9:17:10 AM |
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bertdcaveman
Reno, NV
age: 40
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Wow this is a hard one. I guess if both persons involved can have a heathy relationship over the distance it would be ok but on the occasions of traveling back and forth meeting in person. Would be a strain in many ways emotionally,finacully(sp). Alot of communication would also be involved. But if the love is there and both can make it happen
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| 1/22/2008 3:16:54 PM |
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pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 49
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  It's funny, any guy who I've met on here lives far away and that mates it hard to think in terms of anything more than pen pals. There are definitely guys on here I would love to know better but am I dreaming to think it might happen? and then what about the in-between times, am I "attached" or not? Long distance is hard and I just think most guys would find it more trouble than it's worth?????
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| 1/22/2008 3:41:12 PM |
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landing007
Palmyra, NY
age: 55
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Good thread pichick
I use to think being G.U. was a meet and greet killer - Maybe it's really not -
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| 1/22/2008 4:28:16 PM |
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bamabob
Cullman, AL
age: 55
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I was into the personals some 10 or more years ago and again about 5 years ago. A big and definite difference than today. Age has a lot to do with it. The pickin's seem to be far slimmer than before. There is something much different and I can't quite grasp it but I'm sure it has something to do with how I'm coming across and probably a bit of desperation in my demeanor and tone. However, whatever my emotional state or my intention it seems that for me to accomplish my goal of meeting a potential partner I'm far better off to be willing to consider traveling some serious distances. Where I'm now living is so isolate and distant to a highly populated area that an hours drive is the minimum I can reasonably expect. That alone sets a limitation. So, yes, I pretty much anticipate cutting the meet n greet dates to a minimum and most of our getting acquainted is going to be either online or on phone. I've further limited my possibilities because although I live in a very idealistic vacation area many are not going to be willing to locate here simply because of the inconvenience most are accustomed to. So, to find one who is compatible with my life I very very well may have to travel some distance or be willing to move. It's going to depend on what both wants, me and my potential partner. I don't think, at this point, that I'd get too interested in someone who would not be open to re-locating here at least for a year or two or else is reasonably close so that we could swap weekends here one week and there the next week...for a couple of days at a time. It can work if my potential mate is open to it. For now tho' I'm best to simply consider all options and possibilities.
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| 1/23/2008 8:33:08 AM |
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mochaflower
Indianapolis, IN
age: 67
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Some say distance doesn't matter if there is a real connection. But why start communicating with someone from far away if neither is willing to relocate? I only meet men from my area because I would never leave my family and friends to be with a man. Even if I were looking for a husband, but just looking to date and see where it goes from there, long distance would make no sense for me.
I'm always a little suspicious of men who want to meet me, when they live thousands of miles away! Why can't they find someone closer to date? Do those closer know something about them that makes them undateable? What are they trying to get away from? If women closer to them don't want them, why should I? JMHO  
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| 1/23/2008 2:42:26 PM |
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pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 49
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Thank you all so much for your responses. I don't want to shut the door on possible love because of distance but it does seem difficult and both parties would have to be really willing to make it work until one moves to be with the other. It's hard. Who says that our soulmate lives within 25 miles of us??????? He/she could be anywhere and it's up to us to find him/her. Such a quandry!!!!
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| 1/23/2008 8:56:08 PM |
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pleasurepirate
Shreveport, LA
age: 47
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the captain met up with many wenches he met online all over the country in the nineties, back in the stone age of aol and dial-up, when he traveled constantly as the king of condoms. had lots of fun but never found a "soulmate."
for the majority of us who don't travel like that, it's good to decide how far is our geographical limit. work within it and be patient. so very sad to see some poor schmuck go halfway across the country only to find the wench of his dreams wasn't much different from the ones in his own area.
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| 1/23/2008 9:19:34 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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I like this thread because it's something I asked a male friend TODAY... my situation is I have an autistic child I cannot relocate it's not an option for him..we're working on learning life equiping skills so he can live on his own, and maybe MOM can too....but...still hampers me......? I wondered if it's realistic or even wise to put things out there and see what could be - sure hate to settle for beating my wings against the cage needlessly but also hate to see another year alone bite the dust... what to do?
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