| 1/23/2008 7:07:34 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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badhillboy
London, KY
age: 29
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how about you lovin
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| 1/23/2008 7:28:11 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 48
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Gosh, women are strange. First they say they want to be friends before the romance. Then when the guy is in love....the women still just want to be friends.
Lady, this is the kind of guy that would stick by you no matter what. How come he is good enough to help with all your problems but not be your lover? My rule of thumb....I don't be friends with any single women I wouldn't want to have sex with and maybe fall in love with. The only women I have as just friends are the wive's of my friends.
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| 1/23/2008 10:15:23 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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victatious
Modesto, CA
age: 23
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 NO !! the only reason men become friends with women is because they hope that some day they will have sex with them. I see that you are single, and in that respect sure you can have male friends but expect this type of behavior. but the moment you are in a relationship limit your contact because no man what's to be with someone who say "oh he just a friend " because even if he trust you to death he knows your friend will take advantage of any situation to get with you. As for your problem if your not in to him that way then you need to let him go. He deserves happiness just as much as you do. If he is focused on you, then he will miss his true love.
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| 1/23/2008 10:25:44 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 44
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Vic, That's the way I felt when I was 23 as well. As you mature, ladies can be just friends. I'm not saying you are not mature, I just didn't want to say as you get older. Guess I just did anyways.
Jules, don't cut him off. He will be real hurt. You may have to keep telling him you are not interested in him romantically. Eventually, he will figure it out and either give up or become just a good friend.
[Edited 1/23/2008 10:28:35 PM]
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| 1/23/2008 10:46:55 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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easy111
Prior Lake, MN
age: 54
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When Harry met Sally...
I think it's really difficult to have friends of the opposite sex...even though I have a couple of them. I hear time and time again women tell me "oh I have a lot of guy friends they're just my buds." Then you ask the guy "is she just a
buddy" and he'll say, "Damn that's all she wants but I'd marry her in a minute" It works the other way too. There is always something going on between 2 opposite sex friends it's really rare that it's strictly Platonic. please don't think I think I'm something special,
I know with my 2 women friends if I even hinted that I wanted more they would move right in.
If I was this (this is the way I am) guy that you only want as friend.
He'd be smart just to go away and heal. He'll find someone else.
Let him go don't let him think there's a chance...
Say goodbye.
D
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| 1/24/2008 8:56:23 AM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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decal1919
Protem, MO
age: 51
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be up front with him to save your relationship. if he cant do that thats his problem. and yes you lose a good friend but this has to be done or he will not know your true feelings
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| 1/24/2008 9:04:33 AM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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mindyb
Bloomington, IL
age: 42
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Being friends covers you with a safety net, both of you....that way if the attraction factor are not solid to build on you still have the attraction of friendship and how close you wantthat to be. Over all, at least for this lady, I dont want anyone to get hurt...safety first...friendship, still gotta be me tho 
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| 1/24/2008 9:18:31 AM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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winesong
Bend, OR
age: 60
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Last week or so..there was a post regarding a GOOD HEART....
Many People said....*I WANT A GOOD HEART*!!!
**I would take a good heart any day over
what ever else was on the menu...** (good looks, sexual appeal, money, ect.)
This post states clearly, even if you offer *a good heart*
that is just NOT ENOUGH... just not reality..
there has to be chemistry and meeting of the sexy minds.
My point being that, good hearted people just do not get their dreams ful-filled
any more than anyone else.
If wishes were camels, beggars would ride...very old saying...(smile)
I would remain friends and be clear
*that there is no romantic nature to the friendship*, just to make sure he understands.
If he cannot handle that, then it is on him to remove himself from the friendship.
No one wants to be rejected or hurt.
Be kind, with your words, kindness is always in your favor.
Express appreciation for his help in time of need.
Bake him a pie to take home.
Wine
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| 1/24/2008 9:41:37 AM |
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sidman
Grand Junction, CO
age: 30
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try to explain this my friend is actual an ex-gf of mine, now how the heck did that happen? tell me. Sometimes people mistake different love for different things, I am pretty shure my ex-gf and I will be best friends again. I will always love. I know that she can never love me the way that i wanted her to love me. So it wasn't a vary bad breakup so we are friends still however are closeness when she was my gf is gone. I think the friendship has been damaged during the break up. I don't know if that damage will ever be mended. Once you damage the foundation of a relationship its vary hard to get the trust level back. However, I am glad it was a civil breakup because I like being her friend too, Even though right now I didn't talk to her vary munch because I get real sad when I look at her for too long. So I just talk to her for about 3-4 minutes at a time. She probly want me to go to her birthday party, but I don't know if I would want to go to her birthday party til if any are friendship rerestores itself, to somewhat normal, before we started dating.
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| 1/24/2008 11:58:45 AM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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tom1001
Trenton, NJ
age: 56
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Time is a valuable commidity. If I spend it with you, I'm not spending it with someone else. No, we can't be friends. And if I'm hanging around, I am definitely looking for something more. Wake up and get out of fanasty land. Can't we be 'just friends'. NO!!!
You're a woman and I'm a man... duhhh
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| 1/25/2008 7:39:40 AM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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thepirate1969
Greenville, NC
age: 37
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Yes it is possible. My best friend is a woman. She has been also my room mate for a long time, we grew up together still I was never able to see her as a woman. I mean I know she is a woman, she constantly reminds me of that. It's just when I look at her I do not see her sexual attributes (probably one of the reasons is that she is totally flat: it would be hard to detect something there!!!).
I am still friend with most of my ex. After years that you spend together you can loose the reason to be a couple, but still love remains.
Sometimes it is more complicate than others. See the problem is that being friends you talk a lot, you are there for each other, also you love each other very much. It is easy to confuse that love with a "couple love".
I remember a case in which I was also having sex with one of my best friends. Great sex of course, when you love and care for each other it cannot be bad. At a certain point she asked me "what about getting married and having kids together".
The idea honestly was appealing we really love each other. Then I just replied with an "are you out of your mind? I love you very much as a friend but I really do not even like you as a girlfriend and you do not like me as a boyfriend either". We sat down and we started listing all the reason why we could not even live together for more than a couple of days. We talked about it, we laughed about all the things that we cannot stand of each other, of all our differences, we also cried a little mostly because we were scared to lose each other as friends facing those arguments. We didn't. We still are very good friends today. All those "I really can't stand you today... call you next week" are ok for friends, but they cannot be accepted in a couple, we just had to acknowledge it, in a couple you need a lot of common ground to build something out of it.
Just talk to him. Be honest with each other.
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| 1/25/2008 8:56:26 AM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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cmytanass
Columbus, OH
age: 37
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Just be honest..I had a lady friend that didt feel the same as me.We're still friends to this day.
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| 1/25/2008 10:00:43 AM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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justlooking630
West New York, NJ
age: 48
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yes it is I have several male friends non-sexual just good friends a lot of good laughs too..a lot respect between each us that's all ...
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| 1/25/2008 10:13:31 AM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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mia60
Duncanville, TX
age: 60
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Yes, it is more than possible to have friends of the opposite sex. I have several GOOD MALE friends. I treasure their friendship more than I could ever say. As a matter of fact in some instances they make better friends and are more loyal. Even more important than the gender of the individuals in the friendship is what each person brings to the relationship and what they expect to get out of it.
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| 1/25/2008 11:01:56 AM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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jgshines
Westford, MA
age: 48
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Its easier if the friend isn't in a relationship. If there are going to be problems, its there you will find it. I only had a couple friends who were in a relationship that most of us can only dream of. I would go out with their man, and they were cool about it. Unfortunately, there are those who would never completely trust their man and it was easier for them to believe I wanted their guy. Boy were they way off the mark.
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