| 1/23/2008 3:43:16 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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jules34
Quincy, IL
age: 35
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One of my very best friends is a guy. We have both been through a lot in the last year and we've always been there for each other. So, today I woke up with a broken furnace and called to see if he could look at it. He came over and it was something he couldn't fix so he called the heating guy for me because I was at work. Of course I payed for it all and was appreciative on the phone. When I came home he had several notes around the house basically saying that he's in love with me. I feel sick. I love him like a brother and have always been very up-front about that. I hate this! I do not want to hurt him but it's just not there for me at all. What the hell am I supposed to do about this? Do I back off and cut down contact. Do I just say "stop it already?" Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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| 1/23/2008 4:05:46 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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jht23
Morganton, NC
age: 23
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If he is your friend you shouldnt cut off comunacations with him at all . If you do then you will only be hurting yourself and him as well. Talk to him let himknow whats up and if he is your friend than he should understand. Besides what is the point of haveing a friend if you cant be neer them or honest about things?
[Edited 1/23/2008 4:07:35 PM]
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| 1/23/2008 4:06:34 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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thejewel80
Stewart, MN
age: 45
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Hey its very possible to only be friends. I have a very similar situation and since I am best friends with him I told him that i didnt have feelings like that for him. Were still best friends yeh it hurt him cause my other friends keep telling me how he feels,but he knows how i feel and were still good friends. Dont back away or be rude about it just talk to him. Communication is the best way.
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| 1/23/2008 4:07:17 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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rigid1
Dallas, TX
age: 38
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sure its possible, i have lots of close friends that are women.
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| 1/23/2008 5:00:14 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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jules34
Quincy, IL
age: 35
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^^^^^^^^^^^
goofball!
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| 1/23/2008 5:01:18 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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thegooddude24
Joliet, IL
age: 25 online now!
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lol!!
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| 1/23/2008 5:08:32 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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luvinlifetothem
Biddeford, ME
age: 41
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Jim, doesnt that response belong on the "f*ck buddy" thread?
you dog....
 
Luvin
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| 1/23/2008 5:10:46 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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bucktail
Poynette, WI
age: 46
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very possible,,,,,have several
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| 1/23/2008 5:11:06 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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baileyblue
South Sioux City, NE
age: 47
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I try but, it's sooo hard 
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| 1/23/2008 5:14:05 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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immabluefish
Orlando, FL
age: 44
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Yes its possible...My best friend is a guy...We dated for 2 yrs and due to where we both were at that time in life decided we were better off friends...That was 6 yrs ago...I'm still involved in his daughters life and any females he dates has to be approved by his daughter and myself...
Let him know how you feel...Did ya'll ever talk about it before hand? I think if boundaries are made clear its much easier...
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| 1/23/2008 5:20:09 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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ralphmac
Hixson, TN
age: 53
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Honesty is allways the best way.Just tell him how you feel,if he is a real friend he will understand.Im sure he will hurt for a while but he will get over it.Good Luck,Ralph
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| 1/23/2008 5:57:13 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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drummrboy
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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honesty is the best policy! u need to have a sitdown with him, to discuss how both of u feel. prolonging it, just allows him to continue to think there's a possibility with u. the truth can be extremely painful at times, but it sure as hell beats the alternative. good luck.
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| 1/23/2008 6:45:09 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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reenie4
Milwaukee, WI
age: 51
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You definitely need to talk and communicate your true feelings with him. He may have had those feelings for you for some time, I am guessing he has. I respect the man for expressing how he feels. Nothing ventured, nothing gained as they say. If he is unable to cope with nothing more than a "friendship" he should express that to you as well. Open the line of communication while it's still fresh! Wish you nothing but the best!
[Edited 1/23/2008 6:45:42 PM]
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| 1/23/2008 7:05:25 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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badhillboy
London, KY
age: 29
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yeah but its hard
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| 1/23/2008 7:07:12 PM |
Is it possible to be only friends with someone of the opposite sex? |
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jules34
Quincy, IL
age: 35
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Thanks all of you. You're the best!
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