1/28/2008 9:34:53 AM |
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passionplay1975
Arlington, TX
age: 32
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Ok, I have been talking with someone on this site for a little while now. Due to some circumtances, we decided a strictly physical relationship would be best for us both at this moment. We have not gotten together yet. However, I got this nagging knot in my stomach that I am started to feel more for him then I should. Should I continue with the physical relationship, or talk with him about possibly something more?
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1/28/2008 9:53:57 AM |
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girlwithdog
Antioch, IL
age: 44 online now!
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From a past experience, it won't help to talk about going into something more serious. If this person just wants a physical relationship, then he is telling you straight up that is all he wants...if YOU want something more...move on girl. Sleeping with him will only make your heart weak and vulnerable.
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1/28/2008 10:09:20 AM |
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passionplay1975
Arlington, TX
age: 32
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thank you girl, I was afraid you were going to say that, but you are right.
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1/28/2008 10:30:14 AM |
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girlwithdog
Antioch, IL
age: 44 online now!
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You're welcome. I know it's hard to hear the truth. My experience with that type of relationship lasted almost a year. He was actually the best lover I've ever had, but that doesn't make up for the fact that I want to be loved, not lusted after. Those types of "relationships" only end up in pain for the one who wants more out of it. You're better than that. Good luck to you sweetie.
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1/28/2008 10:34:36 AM |
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crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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I know it's hard too not let yer feelings get ahead of you in any ealtionship, when you are lonely and wanting someone,
But you have too stop and ask yerself if it's really worth it, and am I doing this for all the RIGHT things, and not just cause I want someone in my life so I ain't lonely,
You can have someone in yer life and still be lonely if only one of you has love for the other
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1/28/2008 10:53:53 AM |
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passionplay1975
Arlington, TX
age: 32
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thank you crow, very insiteful, I will need to take a better look at me and my situation.
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1/28/2008 10:55:28 AM |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 44 online now!
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A physical relationship yet you have never been with him? I guess I'm confused here.
I think you should talk to him about something more before you get physical.
Let him know how you feel and that you want more.
Barring this, GIRLWITHDOG has valid points.
[Edited 1/28/2008 11:01:56 AM]
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1/28/2008 10:57:24 AM |
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jules34
Quincy, IL
age: 34 online now!
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I would NOT sleep with him until you have discussed your feelings with him. I think as women sex really means something to us (even when we act like it doesn't). If you do sllep with him it's almot guaranteed that the feelings you are starting to have will intensify. Just my opinion
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1/28/2008 11:40:15 AM |
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the_t_in_me
Riner, VA
age: 20
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To be honest, I've never held a girl in my arms, so take what I say with some salt.
Some boys will play your feelings against you, so that's always a consideration - but I'd suggest hinting to him that you're ok with a closer relationship is fine, but let him take the first step.
Just don't throw yourself is what I'm really trying to say. And know that if you throw yourself at him, he'll enjoy you, but that's the best way for him to start taking you for granted.
T
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1/28/2008 12:35:30 PM |
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tinasdream
Katy, TX
age: 31 online now!
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think you can talk about it with him but will he be honest knowing that u might cut off the sex
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1/28/2008 2:01:53 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44 online now!
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Wow - I'm confused here so let me see if I'm summing this up right....
you two met online here via e-mails
you agreed to just have sex with each other when ever you DID meet in real life
(rather than shake hands, I guess?)
and now, you think you may have feelings for him (based on the e-mails)
so you no longer want to have sex with him on the off chance you may fall in love with him instead of just be f#%$ buddies.
Would I have this correct so far??????
Jeez no wonder men say we send mixed signals
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1/28/2008 2:51:07 PM |
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katiescarlett72
Plano, TX
age: 35
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Here's what I always ask myself to gauge the intelligence of my emotional decisions:
Would I be happy for my daughter to be in this situation?
(insert sister/mother/friend/whatever applies to you)
If the answer is no, then forget it. Love yourself as much as you would a person dear to you and don't accept any less for yourself than you would for them.
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1/28/2008 2:57:39 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34 online now!
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Physical relationship and you haven't even met him????
How do you know you would even like sleeping with him
And you want to have a physical relationship with him based on what??
This sounds doomed before it has begun.
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