| 2/8/2008 7:57:51 AM |
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ferrari348
Milford, OH
age: 46
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Zeanah is spot on
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| 2/13/2008 1:24:48 PM |
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qazyguy
Rockville, MD
age: 48 online now!
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Pandora has some interesting points. Use your children as a sanity checker. And introducing them at an early, but serious stage probably eases them into it. I don't think any child wants to be presented with "Here's Your New (Step-)Mother/Father" all at once. They want to get used to the idea a bit at a time. Likewise, it is useful to see how the new fiance(e) will react to the children.
However, unless the circumstances are serious, the children don't get a veto vote.
Qazy For Thinkin
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| 2/13/2008 1:27:39 PM |
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rickbfun
Whitby, ON
age: 30
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i have two kids , never untill its really serious like 6 months into it
you dont want the kids to keep seing people coming and going , then they get used to people abandoning them
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| 2/14/2008 5:06:25 AM |
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newlife4me2
Saylorsburg, PA
age: 43 online now!
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My kids won't be involved until I feel it is solid and has the potential for long term. I don't want them associating any new interest of mine with the divorce, nor do I want to have them see me bouncing around between interests. On the other hand I won't spring it on them as I am walking down the aisle either.
I figure I'll start out by talking about the fact that I am dating and have met "so and so", get them intellectually used to the idea, answer any questions they have. Then we can move on to group outings and what not.
Do I think it will work out like a fairy tale, of course not, but I do think it can and will work.
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| 2/14/2008 11:47:13 AM |
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sd2007
Pulaski, VA
age: 31
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I have 3 kids. to be honest I'm no good at dating. I think the person should know you have kids. you can decide whats best for you and the kids and. Why cann't you talk about it?
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| 2/14/2008 3:01:15 PM |
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tazzper23
Texarkana, TX
age: 45
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i think a person should let other know they have kids way befor they date .
cause if a man are woman don't want the children the its time to move on .
cause i believe that if i date a woman with children i would treat them with respect as well as the mom
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| 2/14/2008 5:44:31 PM |
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babymelanie
Palm Bay, FL
age: 29
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I have a son and I would never hide that from someone. He is part of my life and he's not going anywhere not to mention my son will always come first. I wont introduce someone to him until I think we will at least be friends if nothing else. Children can get attached very easily and I would hate to tell him that whoever is not coming around again.
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| 2/17/2008 1:19:05 PM |
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nativebabef4u
Montgomery, MN
age: 39
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Heck let them meet the kids while meeting you.That way you know if your kids approve of him and also if he will like your kids.Works for me.I know i might be putting things on the spot but i rather know if my kids approve of him before moving on any farther with him.What if you where dating for long time and then when it's time to introduce the kids to him.The kids don't like him and he don't like them.All that could have been avoided in the beginning.
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| 2/17/2008 1:32:59 PM |
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nopretense
Harleysville, PA
age: 47
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nativebabe, if you haven't, I hope you will read all the other responses. Unless your children are older teens, I think what you are suggesting is really unfair to them.
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| 2/17/2008 2:12:03 PM |
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pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 49
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I am NEVER in a rush to do that. I prefer to wait at least 2 months so the last time my son met someone I was dating was 6 years ago. It's really not a big decision for me as no one has really lasted more than 2 months.
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| 2/17/2008 2:48:25 PM |
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ready52627
Iola, WI
age: 56
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If the person has gone thru a divorce and then starts dating, the kids can become attached to someone they think will be in their life and fill a void they may have. Then, if things don't work out the kids are the ones that get hurt the worst. Wait a bit before you bring the kids into the mix. Kids don't deserve to get hurt time and time again.
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| 2/17/2008 6:46:51 PM |
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nativebabef4u
Montgomery, MN
age: 39
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My kids have no problem.If I met him when i was out.I would see him a few times then.I would have him come meet them.Plus I rather let them know who I'm interested because of certain reasons.And yes you can never trust anyone now days.Always meet in public.But anyways I have had on a couple times had a guy come to my house after talking with him for some time.
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| 2/18/2008 11:41:49 AM |
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under_da_covers
Allentown, PA
age: 45
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I think it depends on the age of the child, and or if she want to scare off the date. Sometimes it nice to be up front about things. Other things can wait for the right time.
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| 2/18/2008 12:50:56 PM |
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belle35gurdon
Gurdon, AR
age: 37
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depends on person ,myself i have to feel comfortable with that man being around my children or i dont want to be with him ,safe haven myself and children i guess ,have to feel hes honest with me and not a mental case,stalker,abusive ,controlling ,or assume that hes the right one one for my family ,yes there are some that think that way 
just be honest with each other and get to know friends and family ,history ,back ground ,better to be safe with yourself and kids than find out later ,and have to move out of state to get away form crazy person that who knows what has in mind for you
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| 2/18/2008 1:26:12 PM |
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soulcrazy
San Clemente, CA
age: 38
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Once I trust the person and know that there will be a commitment. Soul met my kids in person for the first time this past weekend and of course they just fell in love with him. My daughter even asked me to make him late for his flight home so he would have to stay another day.
~Cajun~
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