| 2/10/2008 4:14:38 PM |
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missing_out
Newman Grove, NE
35, joined Dec. 2007
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Ok guys... and girls,too I guess,
I don't get it. Why is it that some girls are looked at only as good enough to sleep with, but not good enough to get serious with?
I'm not a wh*re. I'm not a prude. I'm not desperate. I don't smell bad. I have all my teeth and they're white and straight. I'm adorable. I am entertaining to be around. I'm honest (sometimes overly so), dependable, loyal.... lets just say I have some good qualities. AND I'm looking for a "relationship" not a Wham-bam-thank you- maam....I'm not 18 anymore!
I can appreciate a guy that is honest about only being interested in only that, I am not interested in the friends with benefits. But lately that's the ONLY offers I'm getting.
Does it say "slut" across my forehead?  Do guys really think just because I have kids, it is a sure sign they will get laid?? I will NOT just settle for what comes along. If I was only looking for the friend with benefits, I would be set for life and never have to worry about going without sex ever again. But, that is not ME!
I'm tired of watching guys fall all over girls that have the qualilties of a crystal vase.... pretty, overpriced, totally transparent, and void of anything of internal substance.
I was always the kind of girl that guys took home to mom. Now I'm seen as the girl that momma warned you about!
Am I giving out some kind of a vibe that classifies me as unworthy of a relationship and only good enough to play with?
Are there really girls that are just not girlfriend material?
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| 2/10/2008 4:22:06 PM |
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togot
Rockford, IL
33, joined Jan. 2008
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i have the opposite problem. i'm what all my female friends call "husband material" which means they don't want to date me, but in 20 years or so they will come marry me when they are used up and have kids because i am responsible enough to have a job and not treat them like shit. i sure hope they don't actually think that's going to happen, because if they do they are going to be unpleasantly surprised
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| 2/10/2008 5:31:53 PM |
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liferator
Fredericktown, OH
35, joined Dec. 2007
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really can't say because I never had the f**k buddy mentallity
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| 2/10/2008 5:46:18 PM |
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lonleychick
North Las Vegas, NV
26, joined Dec. 2007
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hate to break it to you missing out,but it has nothing to do with you having kids, I am 18 yrs. old never had a boyfriend, and I share your same problem, I think it has to do with how some guys think, 
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| 2/11/2008 8:08:33 AM |
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terrcem
Ocala, FL
28, joined Jan. 2008
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I'm adorable. I am entertaining to be around. I'm honest (sometimes overly so), dependable, loyal.... lets just say I have some good qualities.
your answer.
If shes offensive and mean, fb her.
If shes pathetic and going no where, fb her.
no regrets for people that arent worth regretting.
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| 2/12/2008 2:21:13 AM |
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pooq
Saint Paul, MN
34, joined Feb. 2008
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WTF , did I understand you right? I think thats a piece of shit statement. FB nobody without telling them up front. maybe Ill tell my friend big gay joe to fb you because you have one bad quality. how would you like that?
Up front or nothin. Thats the rules.
to you from Farmersville, TX.
Regretfully yes there are. But it may not be that you are one of them. You might want a change of scenery. Stop going to the places that you're meeting these douche bags and go to church. yeah I know you might not be religious but thats the trade off.
and remember
Dating is like looking for a used car. There are no guarantees. We look through the lot we call the dating pool, we test drive the ones we like, choose one, and take it home only to find we ended up with a lemon. We may try to fix it, but we eventually trade it in, and the cycle continues.... Until one day we are lucky enough to find just the one we've been looking for, the one we will keep just as is.
heh heh.
be patient.
P.S. I disagree, Im a mechanic.
[Edited 2/12/2008 2:31:45 AM ]
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| 2/12/2008 3:37:17 PM |
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single03
Louisville, KY
38, joined Feb. 2008
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well what i have learned is that u can have sex with any female but it doesnt mean that they would be a person to have a relationship,most ppl dont fight having sex and if u do then i guess your doing it wrong
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| 2/12/2008 8:10:26 PM |
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fordluvngirl
Berea, KY
32, joined Feb. 2008
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From your first post, I think I see the problem. Guys don't want what they've already had, plain and simple. That means you have to play very hard to get and do your best not to act slutty. This is hard to do with a few beers and a few shots on top of that, but you just have to keep your head straight. Never give in to your own desires, and they will come running. If you are only attracting guys with these types of expectations, maybe you need to keep it simple. Drink, dance, have fun, but don't get over in the corner talking "serious". They will just tell you lies to get your pretty little head spinning and then take what they can get. I have to agree with that other guy who said go to church. I'm not saying you have to stop going out or having fun, but there is definitely a different caliber of man in a church than what you will find at bars. Good luck from a fellow Texan (stuck in KY ~ Sarah
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| 2/14/2008 7:21:24 PM |
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missing_out
Newman Grove, NE
35, joined Dec. 2007
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Its not that I go out looking for a guy, you know like some people do, they see it like "shopping for a new pair of shoes". My job at Home Depot gives me the opportunity to meet plenty of guys. I dont go out to bars and get drunk. In fact I very rarely go any where period. The younger guys, just want a booty call. The older age group 40+ hit on me, havent really figured out the reason behind that. Have a 59 year old thats always trying to hook up because hes so into my boobs.
So the other day, was kinda a crappy day, the typical rude, crude and down right mean customers, left work to go get my car fixed. Never in my life would I expect to meet such a nice, charming "redneck" at a "Kwik lube and tire". It was like instant attraction, he was upset it was soon to be Valentines Day and he was single, yadda yadda yadda. He told me where he and his friends hang out, and said I need to join them because they are all single. Long story short, my new mechanic got my phone number (but has yet to call!!) and possibly this weekend am having a friend tag along to go meet some guys! He asked me to have a drink with him the night we met, but I declined.
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| 2/16/2008 9:51:23 PM |
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steve_greenwood
Bemidji, MN
30, joined Feb. 2008
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well i've always though of a f**k buddy as a quick f**k. that's it no emotions on love nothing. just sex it gets sickning to. and a gril friend is some one u actualy what to share all the fellings with or that u think u have a cance with.
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| 2/17/2008 7:16:01 PM |
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sweetangel26
Cullman, AL
34, joined Feb. 2008
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Maybe u are meeting the guys that are already involved and so that is all the time they have away from their actual girlfriend or wife.Or they don't really want to tell u that they don't want to get involved with someone that has a kid. It is sad but sometimes true.
Their are a lot of twisted guys out there and that is all they want is sex.
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| 2/17/2008 8:35:29 PM |
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superheroscoo
Garden City, KS
32, joined Nov. 2007
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That's an easy one.
A FB usually involves some guy who only careas about getting laid, but doesn't want to take responsibility for the attachment and complications sex brings with it. Girls with low self-esteem, rebounding or just needing some sex usually get involved in this type of relationship, mainly when alcohol has been consumed around here. I am not too into this stuff any more. It's kinda risky, but I guess you only have one life to live and if you get some random girl pregnant I hope you man up to it.
A girlfriend is a person who has respect for her self and won't have sex unless she is dating for a long time or married. This isn't always true. Some f**k buddies turn into girlfriends, but not usually.
I am not judging either decision, but the gf route seems to be more rewarding and actually holds some form of future.
In the words of Old School about the future:
"Congratulations Frank, your one vagina for the rest of your life."
Maybe dating isn't such a bad thing. Guess it really depends if you are just looking to get laid or fall in love.
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| 2/17/2008 8:37:24 PM |
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jcon
Newport News, VA
35, joined Feb. 2008
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Well. I can say in my past I have had some fbs. I had them cause I did not wont to put myself out their emotionaly cause I was scrud over by someone I loved a lot. So I figured I would never find someone that would love me back for the long term like I did her. So I
did not get involved with another person like that cause I figured that as soon as I would show another girl my fellings that like the last on they would stop having a intrest in me once I actulay showed her true fellings. Through my experience in life its like a guy likes a girl and is involved with her but she realy likes someone eals and vice versa and so on and so on. Amd in my life anyway I have decided to brake that chain and only mess with people I realy think I can git to know. So at least on my end it well always be true. It just up to ones self to dicide its going to stop with them. For the rest of us its (a game of chance called) LIFE.
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| 2/17/2008 8:41:14 PM |
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superheroscoo
Garden City, KS
32, joined Nov. 2007
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Agreed Jcon.
You said it. I did the fb thing for a while too. I don't get involved with anyone anymore, because I have some idea what I want now. It's all just the game.
In the end, none of us come out alive.
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| 2/17/2008 11:59:20 PM |
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seeshellhy
New Port Richey, FL
38, joined Feb. 2008
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missing out: let me get this strate you hade a man get your # ask you out on a date u feel those coneshion and you say no y? im 30 in fl so u know thers hot young girls im tryen to keep up w so n e time im intrested in a guy and he ask me out im going y not c where it gos
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| 2/18/2008 12:02:33 AM |
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seeshellhy
New Port Richey, FL
38, joined Feb. 2008
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togot: dude u need to move to fl lol
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| 2/21/2008 11:08:33 PM |
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gnomie730
Hellertown, PA
26, joined Jan. 2008
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The majority of othe time I get put in the best friend or f**k buddy groups.. because my guy friends can talk to me about anything.. and joke with me about anything.. which makes me "one of the guys" but a girl that they can f**k.. know what I mean?
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| 2/21/2008 11:19:57 PM |
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lue1488
Upper Marlboro, MD
27, joined Jan. 2008
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F**k buddy: you and ya friends chilling and see a nice a** girl with a big butt or big titties and you talk to her cuz of that...that's f**k buddy material all you really talked to her for was because she has a nice a** body.
Girlfriend material or wifey material: you and ya friends see this sexy a** girl I mean she so sexy all you say to your friend is I don't even want to f**k her I just want to hold her....wifey material.
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| 2/21/2008 11:36:12 PM |
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gnomie730
Hellertown, PA
26, joined Jan. 2008
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Is it easier to have a f**kbuddy or a signifcate other? Which one would you rather have?
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| 2/21/2008 11:48:09 PM |
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tony120120
Tullahoma, TN
35, joined Feb. 2008
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whatever girl im with is my f**kbuddy
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| 2/21/2008 11:52:02 PM |
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gnomie730
Hellertown, PA
26, joined Jan. 2008
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 Works for me. Lol
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| 2/21/2008 11:57:55 PM |
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tony120120
Tullahoma, TN
35, joined Feb. 2008
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It works for me to,but some girls dont want it that way
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