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boomer_0022
High Point, NC
29, joined Nov. 2010
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When I write girls on here, I sometimes say, "Hey babe how are you? My name is Eli and I would love to talk to you.
I get responses from, "Don't call me that, I'm not your babe." to "I'd rather be called beautiful."
Is it that these women think they are God's gift to men or what? Please help me understand.
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| 12/2/2010 12:08:49 PM |
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ricoact
Atlanta, GA
40, joined Jun. 2009
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They are only offended by the WRONG guy calling them babe (or M'am)
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| 12/2/2010 12:08:55 PM |
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photoartistguy
Minneapolis, MN
26, joined Dec. 2007
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this will make you lots of friends
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| 12/2/2010 12:10:45 PM |
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_settee
Flower Mound, TX
62, joined Mar. 2010
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Just call me by my name...I like that the best..
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| 12/2/2010 12:12:19 PM |
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bigdude253
Vantage, WA
39, joined Oct. 2010
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They are only offended by the WRONG guy calling them babe (or M'am)
There is the right answer. I call my GF babe all the time, she smiles and giggles. She loves it, I love saying it. However, she is my GIRLFRIEND I did not call her babe before we started dating.
For the first few emails, keep babe, sweetie, cutie, sweetcheeks, ect out of the emials. Once you know her name, call her by that. Till then, just " Hi there, I thought I'd drop a line" or something like that.
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| 12/2/2010 12:12:46 PM |
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tasha1190
Rochester, MN
31, joined Nov. 2010
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Just call me by my name...I like that the best..
I totally agree. Don't give us nicknames when you don't even know us 
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| 12/2/2010 12:14:54 PM |
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boomer_0022
High Point, NC
29, joined Nov. 2010
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I guess I didn't think it was that big of a deal as some girls make it out to be.
I do state my name in the messages I send so I figure the girl would send it in her reply.
Ha but I get pwned instead!
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| 12/2/2010 12:15:35 PM |
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_settee
Flower Mound, TX
62, joined Mar. 2010
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Even after you get to know us...there's really something sexy and alluring to be called by your given name, even after years..it's in the inflection of the voice..
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| 12/2/2010 12:15:59 PM |
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pepper1967
West Springfield, MA
50, joined Jul. 2010
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I like to call women "broads",just like Sinatra.  be seeing you.
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| 12/2/2010 12:16:10 PM |
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bigdude253
Vantage, WA
39, joined Oct. 2010
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I totally agree. Don't give us nicknames when you don't even know us
Not even Sweet Thang?  Sorry, could not resist. my GF's 14 year old girl always calls me that, jokingly.
I was no cassanova when I was still on the market, but I even knew that woman did not like the pet names till there was a relationship established. I think you and Sette would agree a boyfriend or husband calling you babe, or sweetie is different then some guy emailing you a first contact note on a dating site
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| 12/2/2010 12:18:46 PM |
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tasha1190
Rochester, MN
31, joined Nov. 2010
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Not even Sweet Thang? Sorry, could not resist. my GF's 14 year old girl always calls me that, jokingly.
I was no cassanova when I was still on the market, but I even knew that woman did not like the pet names till there was a relationship established. I think you and Sette would agree a boyfriend or husband calling you babe, or sweetie is different then some guy emailing you a first contact note on a dating site
I do agree with that. Thanks for understanding
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| 12/2/2010 12:28:40 PM |
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_settee
Flower Mound, TX
62, joined Mar. 2010
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The only nickname I would be complimented by would be one that was unique to only me...sweety or punkin just wouldn't cut it..
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| 12/2/2010 12:36:23 PM |
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boomer_0022
High Point, NC
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Thanks for the replies guys and girls. I really appreciate the input.
I think babe will be taken out of my normal vocabulary for now 
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| 12/2/2010 1:01:46 PM |
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xwhitebunnyx
Urbandale, IA
23, joined Aug. 2010
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They are only offended by the WRONG guy calling them babe (or M'am)
lol, he's got it. ^^
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| 12/2/2010 1:03:00 PM |
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photoartistguy
Minneapolis, MN
26, joined Dec. 2007
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i'd call her rabbit
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| 12/2/2010 1:06:06 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
54, joined Sep. 2008
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I know when I lived in the north I was offended by the word "baby"... unless by a SO.
Since moving to the south.... EVERYONE is "baby"!! It took me a couple of months to NOT be offended. That was when I realized it was just another word.
Should've seen me though when the AC repairman at my apartment complex called me "baby"... I almost reported him!!! I called my g/f up and told her.... that's when she told me he meant no offense by it... it's just a "southern thang"....
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| 12/2/2010 1:30:29 PM |
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boost44
Angleton, TX
49, joined Sep. 2010
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When someone calls me baby on a dating site I feel offended because I dont want to get mixed up with the other 20 babies he is talking to on the dating site. I am simply Blanca
(am I wrong for that?)
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| 12/2/2010 1:38:18 PM |
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chillaszmofo
Klamath Falls, OR
32, joined Jul. 2010
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what about sweetie?
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| 12/2/2010 1:41:32 PM |
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photoartistguy
Minneapolis, MN
26, joined Dec. 2007
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How about spider monkey.... We all love that one (not) 
i meant the white bunnie gal
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| 12/2/2010 2:01:17 PM |
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countrythyme
Morrisonville, IL
46, joined Jun. 2010
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I think it's sweet when you guys say that!!!!! Not everyone is considered beautiful in another persons eyes!!!! But babe on the other hand is sweet and it always makes my day!!! So dont stop saying it!!!!
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| 12/2/2010 2:02:26 PM |
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photoartistguy
Minneapolis, MN
26, joined Dec. 2007
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funky love chicken
is not much better huh?
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| 12/2/2010 2:27:50 PM |
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ladyford71
Appleton, WI
44, joined Nov. 2010
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If I'm sleeping with you.. maybe.
If not.. I'll cut you off before the thought travels from your brain to your tongue.
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| 12/2/2010 2:36:41 PM |
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icuddle
Salem, OR
63, joined Dec. 2009
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Does it matter why? If it upsets a particular woman, don't call her that.
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| 12/2/2010 2:42:12 PM |
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misssbren
Richardson, TX
50, joined Aug. 2010
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My s/o is welcome to call me endearments, and I don't mind derivatives of my name from any others.
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| 12/2/2010 3:00:59 PM |
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becky_2010
Sevierville, TN
47, joined Jan. 2010
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I don't have a problem with it.
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| 12/2/2010 3:11:05 PM |
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bhw123
Indian Rocks Beach, FL
43, joined Oct. 2010
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Its a little condescending and assuming, when the woman doesn't know you, at least that's what I gather from white middle class women. I can see their point, just too familiar too fast, not respectful. "baby" is something you call a girlfriend or wife when she is in a good mood.
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| 12/2/2010 3:20:24 PM |
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icuddle
Salem, OR
63, joined Dec. 2009
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My SO doesn't mind what I call her as long as it is not late for sex.
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| 12/2/2010 3:21:35 PM |
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s_pearl
Cincinnati, OH
53, joined Sep. 2010
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In my opinion, terms like 'babe', 'honey', 'sweetie', etc. are terms of endearment...affectionately given/shared as a result of a relationship. An email from one stranger to the next is not a relationship. I would disregard your email because I would think you were presenting clues much as players do...attempting to emotionally connect prematurely...with an agenda to connect physically as quickly as possible.
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| 12/2/2010 3:34:03 PM |
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tasha1190
Rochester, MN
31, joined Nov. 2010
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In my opinion, terms like 'babe', 'honey', 'sweetie', etc. are terms of endearment...affectionately given/shared as a result of a relationship. An email from one stranger to the next is not a relationship. I would disregard your email because I would think you were presenting clues much as players do...attempting to emotionally connect prematurely...with an agenda to connect physically as quickly as possible.
Very well stated 
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| 12/2/2010 3:43:52 PM |
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bigdude253
Vantage, WA
39, joined Oct. 2010
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Quote from s_pearl:
In my opinion, terms like 'babe', 'honey', 'sweetie', etc. are terms of endearment...affectionately given/shared as a result of a relationship. An email from one stranger to the next is not a relationship. I would disregard your email because I would think you were presenting clues much as players do...attempting to emotionally connect prematurely...with an agenda to connect physically as quickly as possible.
Very well stated
Yep, very eloquently stated. The other point which someone else made, is different regoins handle things like this differently. I know some parts of the country older ladies call everyone sweetie or sugar. So, like everything else in life, the context has to be taken into account. Is it a little old lady, raised in the south calling everyone sugar? Or is it a horny 18 year old guy trying to get cheap sex by calling a girl sweetie or babe?
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| 12/2/2010 4:02:47 PM |
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joe7215
Mount Pleasant, NC
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i dont know what they think but i do the same thing and get the same responce dont say that i dont know you and i am not your babe or baby i see nothing wrong with it my self
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| 12/2/2010 4:09:11 PM |
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ruthw71957
Union, SC
95, joined Aug. 2010
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dont know.. I say babe to guys..darlin.. does that offend ya'll
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| 12/2/2010 4:12:17 PM |
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smiley1960x
San Diego, CA
56, joined Mar. 2010
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I don't do well with people who are easily offended. But I think one size does not fit all.
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| 12/2/2010 6:07:49 PM |
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ladyrose56
New Castle, IN
62, joined Apr. 2010
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Why are (some) men so offended when I call them "daddy?"
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| 12/2/2010 6:10:03 PM |
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skihard
Jackson, GA
61, joined Jun. 2010
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I would be sickened and offended. It implies I would sex with my daughter.
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| 12/2/2010 6:13:38 PM |
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countrycharmer
Litchfield, OH
51, joined Sep. 2008
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..... because they may think you said the other "b" word
 I was thinking bunny, what were you thinking? did it sould like itch?
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| 12/2/2010 6:17:23 PM |
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bbw47reader
Frederick, MD
53, joined Jun. 2009
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You don't understand how presumptuous that is?
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| 12/2/2010 6:52:40 PM |
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lanagq
Salt Lake City, UT
44, joined Dec. 2010
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It is what it is, Boomer... Best thing to do is to stick to calling them by their names and save all the mushy s**t later... I personally don't like it before during or after a relationship, but that's just me... I am not speaking on behalf of all women. Good Luck!
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| 12/2/2010 6:55:18 PM |
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lanagq
Salt Lake City, UT
44, joined Dec. 2010
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Holy S**T!!! I just read the responses from the men... LMAO!!!!! If you are being TOLD not to call  women that then why keep doing it? And ya wonder why you're single? lol Seriously I think the women might know what they do and don't like? Just sayin! Funny shiz!
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| 12/2/2010 6:58:40 PM |
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122750again
Sioux Falls, SD
65, joined Dec. 2008
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Try using thier Name Its bad enough when Men get Lazy in person and refer to a Woman as Babe, makes you think Ya'll can't Remember Our Names Or you just use Babe for any Woman
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| 12/2/2010 7:00:31 PM |
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nitevader
Maynard, MA
58, joined Nov. 2010
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How about spider monkey.... We all love that one (not)
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| 12/2/2010 7:03:04 PM |
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hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
55, joined Jul. 2007
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I don't mind if someone calls me Babe if I am dating them but to have them call me Babe or Darling or something like that when they don't know me seems just stupid.
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| 12/2/2010 7:03:14 PM |
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sassymomoftwo
Cheboygan, MI
36, joined May. 2010
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Some of are not offended by u saying babe, I like to called babe its sexy when a guy says it
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| 12/2/2010 7:42:32 PM |
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boomer_0022
High Point, NC
29, joined Nov. 2010
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Quote from s_pearl:
In my opinion, terms like 'babe', 'honey', 'sweetie', etc. are terms of endearment...affectionately given/shared as a result of a relationship. An email from one stranger to the next is not a relationship. I would disregard your email because I would think you were presenting clues much as players do...attempting to emotionally connect prematurely...with an agenda to connect physically as quickly as possible.
I don't want to be confused with a guy that attempts to "emotionally connect prematurely." I use anything from, 'Hey there how are you? My name is Eli," to "Hey how's it going? My name is Eli and I would love to chat sometime if you're interested," etc. I am glad I posted this topic because I have gotten some really good feedback. Overall, I think most girls would not prefer it so I think I will take it out of my vocabulary for now.
I wasn't expecting to get this many replies either! Ha this is insane!
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| 12/2/2010 8:04:43 PM |
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rocket000
Suwanee, GA
58, joined Mar. 2007
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I don't like when someone I don't know or barely know calls me honey, sugar, babe or beautiful. It's an instant turn off. If we are "involved" that is a different matter. I've found this practice is much more common in the south and it's a point of contention with all my northern girlfriends too.
Op, this has NOTHING to do with someone thinking they are God's Gift...it's about RESPECT. Since you've encountered this reaction several times might I encourage you to just address women by their profile name? If you reach the point where you're emailing and talking use their given name. If a relationship develops, you can determine if a term of endearment is appropriate.
If you're writing an adult woman on a dating site it's a given you thought she was attractive or you wouldn't have written. We like it much better when it's apparent you've READ OUR PROFILE and write 1 or 2 original lines, ie: "I noticed we're both CPA's and have Dalmations".
Let me know how that works for your hotcheeks.
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| 12/2/2010 8:10:27 PM |
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ladyrose56
New Castle, IN
62, joined Apr. 2010
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I would be sickened and offended. It implies I would sex with my daughter.
And "baby" doesn't (offend you)? Think about it ... When I look at a man in the heat of passion, and call him "daddy," I am most certainly NOT thinking about my - or anyone else's - father. It's a term of endearment some women use when a man makes them feel safe, protected and cared for. Why a man has the need to call a grown woman "baby" has yet to be defined. I don't mind it; just don't see where there's a difference ... You know, it's like some women (not me), say "come to mamma" ... they may say that in bed, or when they're rolling dice ... go figure.
Sick and offended? It's NOT a literal term ...
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| 12/2/2010 8:12:21 PM |
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britania22
Brooklyn, NY
27, joined Nov. 2010
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Wasn't there a pig called "Babe"
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| 12/2/2010 8:13:58 PM |
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toot_sweet_13
Woodbridge, VA
44, joined Nov. 2010
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Mmmmm...rocket's right...it's a regional thing. I'm from Vegas, it's not nearly as common there as it is in the South. I don't enjoy the pet names; it seems condescending to me. I don't get outwardly upset, however. But I may bristle a little on the inside.
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| 12/2/2010 8:19:56 PM |
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charlesparham
Jacksonville, FL
29, joined Nov. 2010
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WOW Ilearn something new everyday lol Thanks
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| 12/2/2010 8:24:43 PM |
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ladyrose56
New Castle, IN
62, joined Apr. 2010
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Wasn't there a pig called "Babe"
Yes!
On the other hand, I can't stand it when someone calls me "Hun" - whether it's a waitress or someone on here -- if I don't know you, it sounds and makes me feel a bit off. What the hell is 'hun' -- half a honey? Just one of my quirks.
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| 12/2/2010 8:25:00 PM |
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maturenogames
Eureka Springs, AR
28, joined May. 2010
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Not only do i not mind being called babe but Hun you better like it too i call alot of men babe and both my kids lol its confusing to the man sometimes but its just habit... Though i never call a man babe that Im not "into"
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| 12/2/2010 8:29:26 PM |
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hurtindaddy
Binghamton, NY
48, joined Dec. 2008
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When someone calls me baby on a dating site I feel offended because I dont want to get mixed up with the other 20 babies he is talking to on the dating site. I am simply Blanca
(am I wrong for that?)
You are NOT wrong for that. However, if he is sending you a FIRST message, he does not KNOW you are Blanca. Its pretty clear BOOST44 isnt your name. So a guy in that situation might mistakenly think "Babe" would sound better than "Hey you.". See my point?
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| 12/2/2010 8:38:50 PM |
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nitevader
Maynard, MA
58, joined Nov. 2010
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I like "Hey You"...
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| 12/2/2010 9:00:12 PM |
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luvlegolas19761
Saint Augustine, FL
29, joined Mar. 2009
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Hate being called Babe, cutie, sugar, hottie, blueberry muffin or any of that crap. its demeaning and basically derogatory, meant to objectify women. If you dont know my name ask it. or use the nic name.
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| 12/2/2010 9:48:25 PM |
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latinroses
Redlands, CA
49, joined Nov. 2010
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Most women don't like those nicknames right off the bat. We love those names once we meet a guy that we are attracted to and interested in.
We don't want to be called those names by a stranger. It is demeaning and very inappropriate.
When one of my sexy guy friends called me sweetheart, I loved it. Because we know each other and share great conversation about each other's world.
So if you want to be more succesful, then save the endearing names for the one you have established a relationship with.
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| 12/2/2010 10:23:58 PM |
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sassybabeee
Henrico, VA
64, joined Nov. 2010
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Well I see no harm in nicknames like babe, cutie, sugar, I get a lot of emails that start that way. Never offended by nice words.
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| 12/3/2010 9:25:56 AM |
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akiye
Norcross, GA
28, joined Feb. 2010
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Thats just sumthn u dnt say to a female u dnt know.When a guy send's me a message & he sayn baby,love or boo i automatically delete!Cause i think he's full of shit JMO
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| 12/3/2010 10:10:53 AM |
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ladyrose56
New Castle, IN
62, joined Apr. 2010
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Thats just sumthn u dnt say to a female u dnt know.When a guy send's me a message & he sayn baby,love or boo i automatically delete!Cause i think he's full of shit JMO
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| 12/3/2010 1:38:43 PM |
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daretobeyou
Fishers, IN
35, joined Nov. 2010
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There is the right answer. I call my GF babe all the time, she smiles and giggles. She loves it, I love saying it. However, she is my GIRLFRIEND I did not call her babe before we started dating.
For the first few emails, keep babe, sweetie, cutie, sweetcheeks, ect out of the emials. Once you know her name, call her by that. Till then, just " Hi there, I thought I'd drop a line" or something like that.
Yes, so very true. Plus the term "babe" to a woman you just met or trying to meet can come off sounding like you're a "player." Think about this.....would you like a woman's first correspondence to you to be "Hey dude" (first impressions ARE everything and do set the tone.) Hope this helps!!
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| 12/3/2010 2:08:34 PM |
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josh_p
Los Angeles, CA
29, joined May. 2008
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I would never call any woman "baby" "honey" or "darling" but I can't stand women that are offended over everything either.
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