| 2/17/2008 9:49:20 PM |
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ret1058
Mount Vernon, OH
age: 49
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Whenever I see spelling errors in profiles and messages, it does bother me. However, I also understand that there are various reasons why this occurs (such as various learning disabilities or people who have English as a second language). I overlook the errors and try to understand the individual...and I certainly will not be judgmental or condescending about it. We all have flaws...it's just that some of us have flaws that are not as apparent as spelling errors.
As a Learning Specialist, I specialize in teaching children and adults with dyslexia to read and spell. I understand what a great challenge it is for them...especially if they have not been given access to qualified instructors and educational programs that will assist them in being successful. (which happens far too often in the U.S.)
It's easy to sit back and say that they should use spell checkers. However, if one isn't available, it can be a challenging task for those who struggle with encoding skills. If those who don't struggle with spelling had to work that hard to post a message, I dare say that they would most likely give it up and find another medium for communication. Personally, I applaud anyone who has difficulty with spelling...and yet, they have the courage and tenacity to continue communicating in these forums, (especially when others often ridicule).
The vast majority of people with dyslexia have an average and often above average IQ. Spelling errors are not an accurate assessment of one's intelligence nor their character. Many famous and successful people were/are dyslexic.
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| 2/17/2008 9:58:26 PM |
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katiescarlett72
Dallas, TX
age: 35
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My dad was one of the most intelligent men I've ever met or ever expect to meet, and he couldn't spell for squat. He was constantly asking me and my mom how to spell things.
I try to give it some slack. I've had e-mail conversations with guys that I was starting to think might be learning impaired, only to discover that they really were pretty sharp and entertaining to talk to on the phone or in person.
but it does get on my nerves sometimes.
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| 2/17/2008 10:02:28 PM |
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dancinglynx
Reedsburg, WI
age: 44
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I don't care if he can spell right or not. My ex- hubby & ex-bf both were dyslexic (not sure on spelling of that). I know my spelling isn't always right on the money, but if you can figure theirs out & they yours...what's the problem? jmo
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| 2/17/2008 10:05:50 PM |
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semirock
Fredericksburg, VA
age: 40
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I assume that if you can`t spell a word,it is because you have not seen it written.I have not spent one day in college.If you can`t spell simple words,there is no way you ever read BOOKS!
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| 2/17/2008 10:07:43 PM |
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nopretense
Harleysville, PA
age: 47
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I know I can love a poor speller. It isn't a character issue. I dated and loved a great woman for two years, who couldn't spell the name of the pharmacy...."CVS." Or just about anything else.
But poor spelling definitely gets on my nerves.
For some of us...we don't "decide" to look for spelling and grammar errors, they jump off the page and slap us in the face. Every one. Bad writing can be painful to read, very unpleasant. And we can't turn off that internal editor. It is almost as if we have to fix the errors just to be able to get to the end.
So....we find it much more pleasant to correspond with someone who writes well. Not a judgement of those who don't, but a fact of life. Face it, or don't. Accept it, or don't. But I promise you...be sloppy in your writing and you will lose some people who would have otherwise connected with you.
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| 2/17/2008 10:08:05 PM |
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newinil
Carlock, IL
age: 35
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i kant fegore owt whut she iz tryung two sai abowt badd spellurs whun i chek my werds they com owt find.
arr yew sayun sumthang abowt us manily peeple?
y'all have no idea how much work that took...
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| 2/17/2008 10:13:09 PM |
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semirock
Fredericksburg, VA
age: 40
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this is why i`m alone...this s... is important to me.
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| 2/17/2008 11:26:26 PM |
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ret1058
Mount Vernon, OH
age: 49
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A couple of comments.
People who have difficulty reading and spelling have a learning deficit in what is called phonological skills...simply said...the ability to put words together (encoding...spelling) and take them apart (decoding..reading).
The English language is a very complex language to learn and has many rules and exceptions to those rules. Often, it is easier to teach someone to read than to spell. There are many different options for spelling certain sounds...if spelling doesn't come easily to you...this is a difficult thing to master.
So....yes....someone CAN have the ability to read, but not spell well.
** Newinil....thank you....that was exactly the kind of example that I was waiting for!
Everyone should go back and look at Newinil's post. Research shows that if you are
a good reader....you only need to look at the first and last letters in a word to be
able to read it and read fluently. The words don't have to be spelled correctly
for you to decipher it if you are a good reader. It might irritate you...but you
can read it.
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| 2/18/2008 5:13:49 AM |
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surchison
Sterling Heights, MI
age: 38
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I would never be involved romantically if they couldn`t spell words properly. This measures intelligence! I find this a complete turn-off!!!!
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| 2/18/2008 6:17:13 AM |
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differentsrqguy
Sarasota, FL
age: 41
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surchison~
I agree about the turnoff....but within this medium, around the USA and the world, the facts are that there are a lot of stupid adults....all you have to do is read some of the junk posted here.....they can't help themselves
SHALOM !
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| 2/18/2008 6:53:14 AM |
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newinil
Carlock, IL
age: 35
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Ret...
You realize that was a joke right?
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| 2/18/2008 6:55:53 AM |
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ret1058
Mount Vernon, OH
age: 49
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Just a thought....in "real life" dating, how long would it take you to find out that someone you are dating has difficulty with spelling? When's the last time you asked a real date to write something? I suppose you could ask them to write an essay on your first date. 
Except for my ex husband (LTR), I don't have any idea of the spelling ability of the other men that I have dated. It really wasn't high on our list of "must haves" in a mate...and we were more interested in other qualities and topics.
When you're dating someone, are you really saying to yourself, "They better be a good speller...or I'm ending this." ??? I am so tempted to use that icon at the bottom with the sign...and I think you know which one I'm talking about.
Chances are, in "real life"...you wouldn't know about the person's difficulty with spelling and would fall in love with them before you even found out.
It is this online medium that requires written text that brings spelling errors to light.
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| 2/18/2008 6:58:29 AM |
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ret1058
Mount Vernon, OH
age: 49
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Newinil....coming from you....I did assume it was a joke.
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| 2/18/2008 6:58:52 AM |
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newinil
Carlock, IL
age: 35
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Personally I actually do use the spelling on here as a sort of litmus test, with a certain amount of leeway granted in forums and IM's.
But in an e-mail..Especially an initial e-mail, I think it is somewhat critical as it does indicate a certain level of intellect that might prove to be an issue later on.
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| 2/18/2008 7:04:37 AM |
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alex_192
Sarasota, FL
age: 55
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Ret
great post
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