| 2/22/2008 11:35:30 PM |
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mljsnowbunny
Spokane, WA
age: 46
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Hey sweetie, 1st off your child is your life and guys will come and go, the chance meeting in the park is an ok thing to do if you have someone around to watch and help you if you were to get into trouble and need help out, never know if they are after you just for your child. My kids are all grown youngest at age 20 and if they want to meet some one from the net, they meet in public with lots of friends around. I would not wait a long time in case they hate kids but then I would NOT invite him back to your place nor go to his for a long while. Good Luck sweetie
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| 2/23/2008 6:21:32 AM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 49
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Let him/her know right away but As soon as you both are serious then they can meet your kids.
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| 2/23/2008 6:22:30 PM |
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tommyguy4u
Brooklyn, NY
age: 42
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You should mention in polite conversation even before the topic of dating even comes up. & only introduce when your absolutley sure the relationship is going somewhere
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| 3/3/2008 2:19:57 AM |
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lallen9796
Montgomery, AL
age: 41
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introduce? depends on the person. made aware of my son, the first date. i make sure they know i have my son and they accept him, or there is no need to continue
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| 3/3/2008 4:33:45 AM |
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kay46
Quitaque, TX
age: 46 online now!
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As long as your upfront with a man about your having a child, then you can decide as you go along. I dont think there is a "set time". If he isnt interested in hearing about your child from the get go, then he probably wont be interested as time passes along. If he is interested, then you can decide.
How about you meeting his child? If you were serious about the guy, and he had kid(s) then you could meet at a park and let them play or go to a fast food place with the equipment and let them play, then it would just be someone they met.
Good luck!
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| 3/3/2008 6:31:24 AM |
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brendaj
Savannah, GA
age: 44
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Great Question, I keep running into this as an obstacle & it's extremely difficult. Men generally want to move fast, but with kids you can't, it would be so simple if we were psychics & knew when a relationship would really last forever.............................
But We Aren't, so i'm reading the responses, but I think we all know there is no right answer & only we know our kids & what's best. I know so many women that don't seem to care who they bring home, it's great to see others that do 
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| 3/3/2008 6:10:56 PM |
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silkscreen
Toronto, ON
age: 51
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Depends IMO on where you want the relationship to go. I use the term 'relationship' loosely because the way I see it, any two people (or more) who are interacting in any manner are in effect in a relationship. [Could be diametrically opposed enemies, business associates etc. -- no 'man' is an island type thing.]
Even when a person spends time at home alone at home, he or she is in a relationship with themselves. [Just comes from my former interest in Astrology where everything was based on geometry.]
So to me it depends on where you want to take things. If you're looking for marriage or a live-in then at some point a decision will become necessary as to when. By the time I get around to dating again, however, I will not be headed in that direction at all. In fact, I'd prefer to leave my kids (and his if he has any -- and I hope he does) out of it altogether.
Before I was so rudely interrupted with a health matter at Christmas, I was happily celebrating my 'second childhood'. I was formulating a plan [should have known better: 'the best laid plans of mice and men' etc.] in my mind as to exactly what I wanted from my next relationship. And the first qualifier was ABSOLUTELY NO LIVE-INS.
It was about us and nobody else. The way I saw things was that when I was a teen I didn't bring my parents with me when I wanted to hang out with my friends. So why would I - an empty nester with visiting children only - want to bring my kids into my love life.
My advice? Talk to one another. Make it a mutual decision.   
[Edited 3/3/2008 6:15:32 PM]
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