| 2/22/2008 4:24:32 PM |
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butterbug
Missoula, MT
age: 28
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I feel that you should be comfortable with the person you are dating. You should feel safe that they will respect your child. But 6 months? a year? How long?
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| 2/22/2008 4:31:26 PM |
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jimmy61
Titusville, FL
age: 46
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As soon as you decide on a second date.
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| 2/22/2008 4:32:27 PM |
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nashoba_miko
Bethany, OK
age: 38
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Only when I want to scare him off
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| 2/22/2008 4:37:46 PM |
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butterbug
Missoula, MT
age: 28
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Lol I see your point, my kid can be very scary. She's in your face and doesn't have an off button.
When you decide on a 2nd date? Isn't that a bit early?
I don't want my kid to meet a different guy all the time....I don't want her to get attached to someone. And a month later it's over
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| 2/22/2008 5:28:20 PM |
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jimmy61
Titusville, FL
age: 46
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I took your post out of context, sorry! I was thinking you were disclosing the fact you "had" a child. My bad, you are correct in waiting til you are pretty sure you want to take it to the next level before introducing them.
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| 2/22/2008 5:28:45 PM |
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bry11ca
Wappingers Falls, NY
age: 43
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My last girlfriend introduced me during the second trimester. I had the feel we'd met before. 
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| 2/22/2008 5:31:52 PM |
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butterbug
Missoula, MT
age: 28
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Lol that's cute. a little wrong but cute
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| 2/22/2008 5:48:10 PM |
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piedmontdad
Cherryville, NC
age: 49
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many factors are involved in deciding how long to wait, but I lean towards sooner than later. What happens after waiting a year and spending all that time developing your adult relationship only to find out he isn't that great with children. a lot of lost time and disappointment involved. i would suggest a chance meeting at a park or bowling where you could introduce him as a friend and see how everyone interacts during a fun activity. That should give you some clue as to how they might get along and accept one another.
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| 2/22/2008 5:56:36 PM |
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brneyes74
Loves Park, IL
age: 33
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That's a tough one. I think that it should happen when you are completely comfortable with the other person and when your relationship is serious. Then, if he or she is compatable with your children, then the relationship can continue.
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| 2/22/2008 5:57:09 PM |
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butterbug
Missoula, MT
age: 28
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Thats some pretty good advise.
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| 2/22/2008 6:00:21 PM |
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southbuster
Haughton, LA
age: 31
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I dont have any kids.....that I'm aware of.....but when is the appropriate time to introduce em to your dogs.......they are part of my family and one of em I've had for 11 years aint nothin comin tween me and him. IS the first date ok? And I should mention that he's never had none and takes a likin to ladies
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| 2/22/2008 6:00:21 PM |
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yummyballs75
Las Vegas, NV
age: 29
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Just make sure he is the one if you do because if you introduce them to more then one like 3 a year they will end up being messed up in the head about relationships. Also do a background check if your serious make sure that not a child perv you are bringing into your house they will act like you kids are the best and he will get along great with them. Just protect your kids at all cost and remember that they are more important then any relationship. Dont listen to the dumb comments about bringing them in soon you would know by there personality if they have a good chance of getting along with your kids and if not kick him to the curb there is alway time to have a serious relationship after they head off to college
[Edited 2/22/2008 6:02:44 PM]
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| 2/22/2008 6:11:42 PM |
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butterbug
Missoula, MT
age: 28
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Yeah yummy, I agree. My daughter has not met anyone I have dated. The reason she hasn't is everything you just said. Plus I have a history of picking losers. I don't want her to be disappointed. I was the last of my friends to have a kid, so I was able to see their mistakes. I watched too many of them bring guys in and out of their kids lives....ad their kids are screwed up.
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| 2/22/2008 6:20:58 PM |
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yummyballs75
Las Vegas, NV
age: 29
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Well thats good to hear butterbug nice to see a girl that isn't selfish you have my respect I have your back.
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| 2/22/2008 6:47:45 PM |
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73mike
Wilmington, NC
age: 34
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Hey its really all up to you and how you feel about someone you meet. You can meet one guy and a month later you introduce your kid, then again the next one could take 6 months to a year. but if you do decide to do it "introduce them" the best way is to just tell the child you are friends and keep the whole dating thing away from them "no holding hands kissing etc" around them and then if things get better you can tell the kids diferently about it and you want be lying to them because if you are truly getting to know each other you start off as friends anyway. Right... hope this helps you and good luck out there with the dating
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