| 2/24/2008 7:03:49 AM |
Does telling a lie hurts more then the truth in a relationship? |
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heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 50
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Good Morning Missyrose...
I'd like to ask where you get your statistics from to suggest a statement like that. If that is true...I've got some readjusting to do in my dealings with men! 
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| 2/24/2008 7:12:39 AM |
Does telling a lie hurts more then the truth in a relationship? |
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missyrose
Oakwood, GA
age: 36
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OBSERVATIONS AND PERSONAL DEALINGS---men #1 always have to make things larger in life luckily the newer generation is realizing it is more important to be honest but guys in their late 20's up are still infected with the thoughts that women are more impressed with what you have now than the abilities to get more out of life with you beside them.Women who have had a hard life in the past think they have to impress a man by lying to be what he feels the perfect woman should be...even if she has a promiscious past she hides is...a gentleman should accept you and your ways of the past if you've changed from that...we all make mistakes all for different reasons, but they are steeping stones to teach us..if we don't learn from them then we remian in that circle that goes round-and round...you have to step out of the loop to change your lifeways to receive anything positive
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| 2/24/2008 7:13:34 AM |
Does telling a lie hurts more then the truth in a relationship? |
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wisegirl33
Queensland
Australia
age: 43
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Missy -
This is no attack against you or anything, but I do not lie to men about who I am or what I want from a relationship.
As I have already mentioned, I also don't believe that karma should take away the responsibility from those who do lie within relationships. It is entirely their issue.
wisegirl33 Sent on the 25th Feb 08 at 1:14am Aest
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| 2/24/2008 7:18:18 AM |
Does telling a lie hurts more then the truth in a relationship? |
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oilfielder
Cleburne, TX
age: 29
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i agree, i think honesty and the truth can forgive and break any lie,
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| 2/24/2008 7:20:42 AM |
Does telling a lie hurts more then the truth in a relationship? |
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pinkrose78
Rockland, MA
age: 29
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I dont like.. Telling a lie means you have to make up more to cover it up. not only that your conscience is not clear and it will bother you. telling the truth releases everything, And you wont have to keep on making up things and hurting people.
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| 2/24/2008 7:21:14 AM |
Does telling a lie hurts more then the truth in a relationship? |
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splendid9
Cherry Hill, NJ
age: 21
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missyrose, missyrose
girl friend, where are you from girl?
I have heard all the drag that people use to explain why they lie about certain issues, but I do not buy any of it. I do not buy the fact that a lie is ok to protect a person's feelings, and I do not buy the whole "big lie, little lie" theory either. In my eyes, a lie is simply a lie; the size does not matter.
In the end, we all agreed that lies are extremely hurtful, even if they are not intended to be.
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| 2/24/2008 7:22:23 AM |
Does telling a lie hurts more then the truth in a relationship? |
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wisegirl33
Queensland
Australia
age: 43
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Missy -
You wrote...
"Women who have had a hard life in the past think they have to impress a man by lying to be what he feels the perfect woman should be...even if she has a promiscious past she hides is...." (it)
I think that either gender, would attempt to impress each other through concerted lies, but to what degree that either would lie to "get the other interested in them", I am uncertain.
Q: How many "observations" and how did you achieve such observations of this nature ? You mean, like watching people through pin-hole camera's ? I am curious.
The generalisation that you have stated above..."even is she has (had) a promiscuous past, she hides (it)"....
Well again, my response, is "how many females have you observed that you personally know who have had promiscuous pasts" - to which you can validate such a statement ? Are you suggesting that only promiscuous females (who have had a hard life) would lie ? And not males who have had a hard life ?
How does one define promiscuous ? (My definition is someone who is in a relationship and who cheats on their spouse - and yours ?)
wisegirl33 Sent on the 25th Feb 08 at 123am Aest
One edit - 1:27am
Second edit - 132am
[Edited 2/24/2008 7:31:19 AM]
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| 2/24/2008 7:23:16 AM |
Does telling a lie hurts more then the truth in a relationship? |
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bountyman
Carthage, MO
age: 47
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wow i cant believe you think the younger generation is not as bad as the older ones. I would have thought the opposite. the new "playa"--or "dog" generation always seemed a little more fake to me.
hey-- do you suppose those girls in the bar that I told I had a 12 incher will ever ask me to pull down my pants 
WHEW--I hope not 
[Edited 2/24/2008 7:23:48 AM]
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| 2/24/2008 7:26:46 AM |
Does telling a lie hurts more then the truth in a relationship? |
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flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 45 online now!
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No you shouldn't lie generally but in some situations it may be better not to tell the truth about something.
Example: someone I know was with her best friend and the best friends boyfriend. The best friend went to get something and her boyfriend said to my friend "how about you and I one day?" and my friend was devastated but knew telling her best friend would kill her and she wouldn't believe it. So she kept it to herself.
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| 2/24/2008 7:34:08 AM |
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2smart
Cherry Hill, NJ
age: 32
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I am of the opinion that people lie for many reasons, which vary with the circumstances and individual. Some may lie because they want to hurt you, while some lie because they hope to protect you, or because they feel ashamed of their behavior. The reasons are endless. A person CHOOSES to lie. Nobody is born a liar. Nevertheless, to have said that guys do lie much then females, this is something I am taken a back on.
Speaking the truth is one of the most loving things anyone can do. Love is an emotional passion meant to share with trust, respect and friendship. All i seek in a relationship, if I' m going to get one again, is trust and respect.
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| 2/24/2008 7:40:58 AM |
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missyrose
Oakwood, GA
age: 36
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boy....everyone in some type of an uproar bout opinions people have...point #1-lying is a terrible thing to do to someone whether its big or small...ABSOLUTELY nothing good will come from it and eventually will be found out. #2 WHY??? why does one lie? that is my perspective on the subject. to make up for inadequances in their lives and wanting to be what they feel is what others think makes you a more impressive person. Karma is happening to those who are innocent...(involved with someone who is a liar) too. that is the cross-fire effect...how the heck are these people who go thru life lying to these great people they become involved with gonna learn their lessons until they do it to you (who do not lie..who carry their heart on theirs sleeves, who are only lookin to make someone happythru life that creates happiness for them)the only way they learn not to do those things is to lose at a chance at a really great relationship with a wonderful person like yourself. the ones that get hurt that aren't liars are basically casualties of karma...but keep your faith that the ones that did thie to you will learn to change their ways..coz there must've been something of quality there or you wouldn't have pursude a relationship with them...someone great will come your way if you keep doing the right thing
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| 2/24/2008 7:57:09 AM |
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thenewb
North Myrtle Beach, SC
age: 32
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I think that everyone lies some of the time... and if you say you don't than they are in denial or just lying* Everytime you tell a story with a hint of exaggeration, say you feel fine when you don't.. come on you know what Im talking about... Personally, I have to make an effort not to let out some of those little "white" lies some of the time.. and I am not always successful.
Anyways, whats up with "building a relationship on lies" isn't that a little cliche? If you love somebody, you will forgive their imperfections and forgive their mistakes... nobody is perfect, and nobody is honest 100% of the time!! I would bet my life on it. Now the brazen cheating and lying... well thats different and well.. I think alot of guys are guilty, but it does take two
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| 2/24/2008 8:00:08 AM |
Does telling a lie hurts more then the truth in a relationship? |
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thenewb
North Myrtle Beach, SC
age: 32
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By the way, after observing many many young kids when I used to work in the public school system, I would say that kids absolutely are born liars and that honesty is a learned thing.
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| 2/24/2008 8:04:55 AM |
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missyrose
Oakwood, GA
age: 36
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yes i agree...children also live in a fantasy world too. with all the great cartoons and other shows on t.v.....so children and some adults must be taught that lying isn't the way to go...honesty is best...are we all human? yes so we do errr... but we all do know it is better to be honest...oh...i don't feel to good...no i mean ifeel good today! thats not a big deal.
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| 2/24/2008 8:17:35 AM |
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wisegirl33
Queensland
Australia
age: 43
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Newb -
I dont think that it is fair to say that "all people tell lies in relationships and that anyone who says that they don't - is in denial".
I dont do this - coz it is just plain stupid to do it and I am not someone who is "in denial" (if you KNEW someone like me, you would know that !).
Okey dokey ? Best wishes though and please share some of the lies that you are obviously admitting having told. ....lol
wisegirl33 Sent on the 25th Feb 08 at 2:18am Aest
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