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bangers_n_mash
Houston, TX
age: 43
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i just cant agree this simplistic un thought out brain washed self serving approach...buy the way I love KFC....applies in all circumstances and at all times......
Let me run a scenario by you....
You and a male friend out out to dinner. He insists on paying the tab. Are you offended by his gesture or do you think it was a good respectful gesture?....rather that offering to pay your 50% it's more respectful to thank him and say 'next time it's on me' etc.
You're assumption of 'brain washing' is incorrect because 90% of the time I pick up the tab with male friends too...Picking up the tab is not gender specific, it's a gesture to say 'thank you for the time you have spent with me' etc....a show of respect if you like.
A few friends I have are broke...I am happy to pick up the tab in those instances because I know they would do the same for me, they are friends and I had a good evening in their company...
The money isn't really an issue to me, I can afford it or I wouldn't be there.... so it's really a very very minor point.
Those that make it a major point either don't have much...or are focused on the wrong elements of the social event.
The mentality of 'You are a sucker for paying for the woman' is extremely flawed....I paid for MY evenings entertainment....they were part of it.
When someone has picked up the tab for me I have never thought 'What a sucker'...I've thought 'Well that was very nice of them'...
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| 3/8/2011 11:22:55 AM |
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laineyloves
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26 online now!
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| 3/8/2011 11:23:37 AM |
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hbguy311
Buena Park, CA
age: 30
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^^^Isn't that kind of pathetic? I mean, it's like telling the world I can only get people to hang out with me if I pay for their food. That doesn't sit right with me. I am not an awkward, man beast that craves attention he doesn't ever get or whatever so I have to resort to paying for it.
KFC is a rip off BTW.
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| 3/8/2011 11:24:19 AM |
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petron
Garland, TX
age: 49
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^^^Isn't that kind of pathetic? I mean, it's like telling the world, I can only get people to hang out with me if I pay for their food.
KFC is a rip off BTW.
some of us can see the point....other's it just flies right on by, as in this poster
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| 3/8/2011 11:24:47 AM |
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leftfooted
West Covina, CA
age: 52
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she is lowering herself to other's standards....op....I also held her to a higher standard...
she cannot refute ur logic on this question....so they attack the man and not the issue....55 pages of it......and they cannot beat you!!!!
the wrong gender is being asked...
the question should be directed towards men....
isn't it other men that date women that dont pay for the date....
you're 62, you're older then me..
you f**ked it up for me,you contributed to this shit...
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| 3/8/2011 11:25:52 AM |
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jfc_onacross
Springville, UT
age: 37
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Mother of God.....I must say.....I never realised how many men have such flawed thinking when it comes to dating. Jeez....most of you need some serious therapy.
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| 3/8/2011 11:26:29 AM |
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bangers_n_mash
Houston, TX
age: 43
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^^^Isn't that kind of pathetic? I mean, it's like telling the world I can only get people to hang out with me if I pay for their food. That doesn't sit right with me. I am not an awkward, man beast that craves attention he doesn't ever get or whatever so I have to resort to paying for it.
KFC is a rip off BTW.
Not at all, that is your train of thought...not the people I 'hang out with'....
Like I said at the end..when someone has picked up the tab for me I have NEVER thought...'what a sucker'...have you?
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| 3/8/2011 11:27:38 AM |
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littl_cowgirl
Grand Junction, CO
age: 47
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^^^Isn't that kind of pathetic? I mean, it's like telling the world, I can only get people to hang out with me if I pay for their food.
KFC is a rip off BTW.
You're missing the point. My sister is quite well off and knows some of her friends aren't in her same boat. She treats friends to dinner, the theatre, concerts, etc. that she wants to attend and would like to share their company. It's called being "generous" and has nothing to do with having to "buy" their company.
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| 3/8/2011 11:27:49 AM |
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tater79
Springfield, IL
age: 32 online now!
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 this thread is still going
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| 3/8/2011 11:28:09 AM |
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hbguy311
Buena Park, CA
age: 30
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Friends are quite different. They are people I have known for years and in some cases, pretty much all my life. Me paying for them or them paying for me is just not even comparable to some strange woman you just met.
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| 3/8/2011 11:28:33 AM |
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littl_cowgirl
Grand Junction, CO
age: 47
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Mother of God.....I must say.....I never realised how many men have such flawed thinking when it comes to dating. Jeez....most of you need some serious therapy.
LOL, hence the reason we're on DH.
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| 3/8/2011 11:29:22 AM |
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jfc_onacross
Springville, UT
age: 37
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Why is she strange? And if so...why agree to go out at all? And if you truly don't want to pay any money why not just find something free to do?
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| 3/8/2011 11:29:31 AM |
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laineyloves
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26 online now!
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Quote from tater79:
this thread is still going
Start a new one, Meet you there.
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| 3/8/2011 11:30:12 AM |
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bangers_n_mash
Houston, TX
age: 43
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Friends are quite different. They are people I have known for years and in some cases, pretty much all my life. Me paying for them or them paying for me is just not even comparable to some strange woman you just met.
You're paying for dinner not buying her a house.....I guess a $100 is a lot of money to you?
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| 3/8/2011 11:31:43 AM |
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jfc_onacross
Springville, UT
age: 37
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Jebus...let's make this REALLY simple. Take her to a park and play TV tag. 
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| 3/8/2011 11:34:46 AM |
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hbguy311
Buena Park, CA
age: 30
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Why is she strange? And if so...why agree to go out at all? And if you truly don't want to pay any money why not just find something free to do?
First off, I don't date so I don't need to worry about this stupid drama.
Second, she is strange because I don't know her like I know my friends. She is still brand new to me and me to her.
If a guy takes a girl on a "free" date, odds are he will never see that woman again unless she is one of the few that actually is looking to get to know him as a person and not after a free meal or an extravagant evening she can boast to her girlfriends about later. It's almost a catch 22 going on the "free" or close to it dates. It depends on the girl in question as many on this very website have stated if they aren't taken somewhere nice on a first date, it tells them the guy is a cheap bastard and they would want nothing to do with him. That's why it's been suggested to discuss the date in question before hand so no one is disappointed.
Oh, and HOLY FREAKING CRAP at spending $100 on a first date. I mean, just wow!
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| 3/8/2011 11:35:08 AM |
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laineyloves
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26 online now!
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Quote from jfc_onacross:
Jebus...let's make this REALLY simple. Take her to a park and play TV tag.
They will have to take HER car. He won't spend the gas money to get to the park.
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| 3/8/2011 11:35:56 AM |
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petron
Garland, TX
age: 49
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it's an opinion...everyone has one and they are not all alike.
you don't want to pay, fine
now, would Lainey, Settee, Cowgirl or Pam post an a** or breast shot so we can move on? Please?
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| 3/8/2011 11:37:10 AM |
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custislong
Riddle, OR
age: 52
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it's an opinion...everyone has one and they are not all alike.
you don't want to pay, fine
now, would Lainey, Settee, Cowgirl or Pam post an a** or breast shot so we can move on? Please?
Lainey's tittyshot looks pretty good.
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| 3/8/2011 11:39:02 AM |
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laineyloves
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26 online now!
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Sure! Gimme a sec.
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| 3/8/2011 11:40:27 AM |
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littl_cowgirl
Grand Junction, CO
age: 47
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 @ Petron.
Lainey - thanks for taking one for the team 
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| 3/8/2011 11:40:38 AM |
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tater79
Springfield, IL
age: 32 online now!
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it's an opinion...everyone has one and they are not all alike.
you don't want to pay, fine
now, would Lainey, Settee, Cowgirl or Pam post an a** or breast shot so we can move on? Please?
nice one..I agree
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| 3/8/2011 11:41:30 AM |
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laineyloves
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26 online now!
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Quote from littl_cowgirl:
@ Petron.
Lainey - thanks for taking one for the team
I'm not shy.
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| 3/8/2011 11:42:07 AM |
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whonotwhat
Stamford, CT
age: 62
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the wrong gender is being asked...
the question should be directed towards men....
isn't it other men that date women that dont pay for the date....
you're 62, you're older then me..
you f**ked it up for me,you contributed to this shit...
im lefthanded.....not sure i understand ur post or how i f**ked it up for you...
really this has been a thorn in my side since 1995 (divorce) and sometimes I felt bad when a lady would call me cheap.... so its comforting that other men also see this as an issue...
btw.....i have what i have by not being foolish with my $....but having the op elevate this and hearing sll these self proclaimed very smart women....I am now more comfortable about not only how i handled this but will continue to do so.....
could someone clearify ur reply to me....i must be left handed and left footed
r u acually angry at moir?
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| 3/8/2011 11:42:34 AM |
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tater79
Springfield, IL
age: 32 online now!
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thanks doll
You're a real trooper
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| 3/8/2011 11:43:01 AM |
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jfc_onacross
Springville, UT
age: 37
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Sure Petron
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| 3/8/2011 11:43:43 AM |
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stumppy
Wind Gap, PA
age: 65
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it's an opinion...everyone has one and they are not all alike.
you don't want to pay, fine
now, would Lainey, Settee, Cowgirl or Pam post an a** or breast shot so we can move on? Please?
Oh, do we really need that ?
I suspect that they are women with the appropriate hardware, I DO NOT require or desire visual confirmation, for a number of reasons.
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| 3/8/2011 11:44:25 AM |
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petron
Garland, TX
age: 49
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i love the women on this site. have I told you that lately?
thanx, Lainey!! 
thanx, Pam!!!!!!!
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| 3/8/2011 11:45:03 AM |
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tater79
Springfield, IL
age: 32 online now!
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wow that was un-expected.....Pam..butt much appreciated
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| 3/8/2011 11:45:18 AM |
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jfc_onacross
Springville, UT
age: 37
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| 3/8/2011 11:45:23 AM |
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littl_cowgirl
Grand Junction, CO
age: 47
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 @ Pam
Crap, now if Settee steps up I'm in sheep dip 
Thank God for that little word "or" 
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| 3/8/2011 11:45:29 AM |
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onnightwings
Raleigh, NC
age: 47 online now!
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Good Lord, is it an eclipse?
What blocked out the sun?
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| 3/8/2011 11:45:50 AM |
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jfc_onacross
Springville, UT
age: 37
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Grey hates me
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| 3/8/2011 11:45:58 AM |
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whonotwhat
Stamford, CT
age: 62
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supposed to be ...Muahz.
..not moir
trying to type and think with 2 left hands....
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| 3/8/2011 11:46:36 AM |
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onnightwings
Raleigh, NC
age: 47 online now!
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Grey hates me
Yeah, but it's a good, healthy hate.
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| 3/8/2011 11:46:49 AM |
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laineyloves
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26 online now!
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Quote from tater79:
thanks doll
You're a real trooper
Wink Wink.
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| 3/8/2011 11:46:57 AM |
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tater79
Springfield, IL
age: 32 online now!
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and @ Lainey..
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| 3/8/2011 11:47:24 AM |
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jfc_onacross
Springville, UT
age: 37
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One day I am going to make you show me how much you hate me.
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| 3/8/2011 11:47:26 AM |
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lolasinn
New Orleans, LA
age: 18
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who did the asking?
women want so badly to be treated as equals.
if i asked u out.i might be inclined to pay for stuff. even if you wanna act like a pighead and insist i don't. i'm as capable of paying as you if not more. the end.
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| 3/8/2011 11:48:27 AM |
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jfc_onacross
Springville, UT
age: 37
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Quote from lolasinn: who did the asking?
women want so badly to be treated as equals.
if i asked u out.i might be inclined to pay for stuff. even if you wanna act like a pighead and insist i don't. i'm as capable of paying as you if not more. the end.
DON'T speak for me....thankx
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| 3/8/2011 11:48:40 AM |
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stumppy
Wind Gap, PA
age: 65
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HMMMmmmm ? curious ? wonder what it's like to be in sheep dip ?
cowgal, move over, I want to experience this.
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| 3/8/2011 11:50:09 AM |
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whonotwhat
Stamford, CT
age: 62
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Friends are quite different. They are people I have known for years and in some cases, pretty much all my life. Me paying for them or them paying for me is just not even comparable to some strange woman you just met.
we agree.....amen!!!!!!!!!right on.....
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| 3/8/2011 11:50:17 AM |
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littl_cowgirl
Grand Junction, CO
age: 47
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@ Stumpy - 
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| 3/8/2011 11:52:25 AM |
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jfc_onacross
Springville, UT
age: 37
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Okay....so we mostly agree. There are some real cheap asses on here.
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| 3/8/2011 11:53:12 AM |
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littl_cowgirl
Grand Junction, CO
age: 47
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Agreed.
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| 3/8/2011 11:55:23 AM |
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whonotwhat
Stamford, CT
age: 62
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Friends are quite different. They are people I have known for years and in some cases, pretty much all my life. Me paying for them or them paying for me is just not even comparable to some strange woman you just met.
You're paying for dinner not buying her a house.....I guess a $100 is a lot of money to you?
if i give u my address will you mail me a few since its nothing to you....
do you give'em away to friends on DH?????? buddy?
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| 3/8/2011 11:57:03 AM |
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bangers_n_mash
Houston, TX
age: 43
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if i give u my address will you mail me a few since its nothing to you....
do you give'em away to friends on DH?????? buddy?
Please quote where I said it was 'nothing'....and if I met someone from DH for dinner..sure I'd pick up the tab.
Thing is I'd only meet the ones that I wanted to meet....that's a key part of the equation which you clearly cannot solve.
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| 3/8/2011 11:57:34 AM |
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onnightwings
Raleigh, NC
age: 47 online now!
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Okay....so we mostly agree. There are some real cheap asses on here.
We going by the pound, or square foot?
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| 3/8/2011 12:00:10 PM |
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whonotwhat
Stamford, CT
age: 62
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First off, I don't date so I don't need to worry about this stupid drama.
Second, she is strange because I don't know her like I know my friends. She is still brand new to me and me to her.
If a guy takes a girl on a "free" date, odds are he will never see that woman again unless she is one of the few that actually is looking to get to know him as a person and not after a free meal or an extravagant evening she can boast to her girlfriends about later. It's almost a catch 22 going on the "free" or close to it dates. It depends on the girl in question as many on this very website have stated if they aren't taken somewhere nice on a first date, it tells them the guy is a cheap bastard and they would want nothing to do with him. That's why it's been suggested to discuss the date in question before hand so no one is disappointed.
Oh, and HOLY FREAKING CRAP at spending $100 on a first date. I mean, just wow!
and again we agree......right on 311.....wish the op were here we might stand a chance against all these lionesses.....lolz
why dont u date...married?
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| 3/8/2011 12:00:42 PM |
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jfc_onacross
Springville, UT
age: 37
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Quote from onnightwings: We going by the pound, or square foot?
I am talking about their junk...so reduce that to milimeters.
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| 3/8/2011 12:01:34 PM |
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jfc_onacross
Springville, UT
age: 37
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Quote from whonotwhat: and again we agree......right on 311.....wish the op were here we might stand a chance against all these lionesses.....lolz
why dont u date...married?
How many men are you going to hit on today?
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| 3/8/2011 12:03:00 PM |
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whonotwhat
Stamford, CT
age: 62
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it's an opinion...everyone has one and they are not all alike.
you don't want to pay, fine
now, would Lainey, Settee, Cowgirl or Pam post an a** or breast shot so we can move on? Please?
ohhhhh Pam......please...
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| 3/8/2011 12:03:35 PM |
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hbguy311
Buena Park, CA
age: 30
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Don't lump me in with the OP. He is being childish and very very disrespectful and downright disgusting. I only agree with him that woman should contribute more financially. I do not agree with any of the name calling.
I don't date because I don't see the point and don't want the drama. I also never want to get married so why would I date? I moved out of my parents house for a reason. Why would I willingly bring back loss of freedom and having to answer to someone back into my life? No thanks.
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| 3/8/2011 12:05:35 PM |
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bangers_n_mash
Houston, TX
age: 43
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First off, I don't date so I don't need to worry about this stupid drama.
Spend your money on Video games instead huh?
Second, she is strange because I don't know her like I know my friends. She is still brand new to me and me to her.
It's common in the business world to pick up the tab of a new client....are they crazy too for doing that?
If a guy takes a girl on a "free" date, odds are he will never see that woman again unless she is one of the few that actually is looking to get to know him as a person and not after a free meal
'Free?' Ever heard the saying time is money?
If someone offered to take me out for a 'free' meal and I didn't really want to be there...I sure wouldn't waste my time going just for some free food.....That's quite laughable.
Oh, and HOLY FREAKING CRAP at spending $100 on a first date. I mean, just wow!
Haha you really don't date huh...
Few drinks at the bar first is going to cost you $20-30 before you even start...dinner $30 each for a moderately priced restaurant....your already at $80-$90...
Stick to your Xbox my friend
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| 3/8/2011 12:06:01 PM |
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whonotwhat
Stamford, CT
age: 62
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Lainey's tittyshot looks pretty good.
no go to jfc's pics
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| 3/8/2011 12:08:24 PM |
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jfc_onacross
Springville, UT
age: 37
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Dirty old men...god act like you get some on occasion.
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| 3/8/2011 12:09:00 PM |
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cdn_iceman
Etobicoke, ON
age: 46
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im lefthanded.....not sure i understand ur post or how i f**ked it up for you...
really this has been a thorn in my side since 1995 (divorce) and sometimes I felt bad when a lady would call me cheap.... so its comforting that other men also see this as an issue...
btw.....i have what i have by not being foolish with my $....but having the op elevate this and hearing sll these self proclaimed very smart women....I am now more comfortable about not only how i handled this but will continue to do so.....
could someone clearify ur reply to me....i must be left handed and left footed
r u acually angry at moir?
Dude you are cheap, there's a difference between frugal and cheap.
Frugal person watches what they spend okay I get that, Cheap is just that Cheap , I hate cheap people, I watched a guy tip a waitress $2.00 for a meal that was at least $30.00, that's a cheap prick I wanted to smack him , actually my date wanted to smack him too.
Some of you guys dont get it, its not about the money when taking a woman out, its about respect and showing her you can lead( this doesn't mean control) and you have good standards, not this wishy washy metro sexual that are influenced by trends.
If you're worried about your finances, then perhaps learn a little bit about finances and investing, instead sitting home watching reality shows take a investing course and who knows you might meet a nice lady there too.
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| 3/8/2011 12:09:18 PM |
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bangers_n_mash
Houston, TX
age: 43
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Dirty old men...god act like you get some on occasion.
It's a one man boat for a reason.
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| 3/8/2011 12:10:44 PM |
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jfc_onacross
Springville, UT
age: 37
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Maybe after today it will be a two man boat with the OP at the wheel.
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| 3/8/2011 12:11:18 PM |
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hbguy311
Buena Park, CA
age: 30
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So you treat dating like a business?
$100 is beyond ridiculous. Why are you spending $20-$30 on drinks? Why bring alcohol into the mix? Is Applebees $20 for 2 not good enough for you and your date? Do you have to get a lobster dinner every time? You could spend over half of that on a date and get the exact same results with the woman. You are also delusional if you believe that women don't go out with men for a free meal and in your case, getting $20 worth of drinks and a $30 meal for free. Talk about score for them.
Oh and I don't play Xbox.
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