| 3/10/2008 12:37:19 PM |
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cricket128
Ocala, FL
age: 56 online now!
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Oh no, Cricket's at it again.. Several of the recent threads, and posts within them, have talked about things that bother us about the opposite sex (Good thread, BabyBlueEyes) and about what we're looking for in a partner, etc. I even started a thread about what things you look at first in a profile....so I'm taking it a little further:
What are "Deal Breaker's' in your search criteria? Being a smoker I certainly have found that this is a BIG issue and deal-breaker. I know there are some things that you might not like but could put up with, maybe...but I am curious as to what things are definite deal-breakers for you (in their profile) as far as going any further than looking at a persons profile?
[Edited 3/10/2008 12:54:16 PM]
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| 3/10/2008 12:46:03 PM |
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msdmarie
Brunswick, GA
age: 55
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Dishonesty. You can't pretend to be anything but what you really are and expect to gain my trust. To me there has to be trust to have a relationship. I can overlook or accept alot of faults if you are up front about them.
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| 3/10/2008 12:52:09 PM |
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anne654
Springfield, MO
age: 53 online now!
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Back when I was searching profiles, several months ago, if the only interests, hobbies, etc. listed was sex, sex and more sex, bye-bye! While sex and making love are an important part of a good relationship, if that is all they are looking for, they are not looking for the kind of relationship that I am!
Even though I am an ex-smoker of 30 years, being around it does not bother me as long as I have fresh air to breathe, my daughter smoked and we lived together for several years.
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| 3/10/2008 12:53:44 PM |
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bonamassafreek
Spencer, OH
age: 52
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Deal breakers as far as profiles-
His friends list is all half dressed women tryin' to look sexy
His screen name is sexually suggestive
He lives too far away
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| 3/10/2008 12:57:47 PM |
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weaimtoplease
Donalsonville, GA
age: 58
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Cricket - Yeap, if you put down that you are a smoker, they pass you right on by. I suppose deal breakers mean different things to different people - ok, some may say distance is a deal breaker but if they find somebody that is over the distance that they really connect with that can change. Right now, there is only one real deal breaker and this will not change, no way no how - if he is an alcoholic, please pass on by. If they are a recovering alcoholic that could change things but I'm not even sure of that. And since I know all about alcoholics don't even try to tell me you are not an alcoholic, you are just a heavy drinker. Been there, done that, know better now and that will never change. That being said, I enjoy a glass of wine - not a problem. If you drink four half gallons a week of whiskey a week (that I know about) then that is more than a heavy drinker!
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| 3/10/2008 12:57:49 PM |
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cricket128
Ocala, FL
age: 56 online now!
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Thank you ladies...
MsDmarie - I just edit'd the original post so as to make it a little more clear...I'm talking about things in their profile - I certainly agree with you about dishonesty, etc., but that is not something (usually) that is discernable...
Anne and Bonamass...Really? Being a guy looking for a lady I certainly don't look at guys profiles...and therefore never realized there were guys who had stuff on their profiles like that...Guess it takes all kinds...
WeAim...gotcha...but that, like dishonesty, etc., is not usually something someone would put in their profile, is it? "Hi ladies, I'm an alcoholic - wanna go out?'...LOL..
Thanks for the input..
[Edited 3/10/2008 12:59:40 PM]
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| 3/10/2008 1:01:04 PM |
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weaimtoplease
Donalsonville, GA
age: 58
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Whoops! I'm pretty sure no one lists that they are an alcoholic on thier profile, do they? Guess, maybe I need to edit mine or you can just delete it. Not sure of anything that somebody would list would be a deal breaker. Sorry to mess up your thresad.
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| 3/10/2008 1:07:07 PM |
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cricket128
Ocala, FL
age: 56 online now!
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LOL...Not a problem WeAim...and I'm not one to delete anything - just wanted to make sure everyone understood what I was originally asking/saying...(does "clear as mud' come to mind?)..LOL... And, too, there are probably some women (won't use the term 'ladie's) that might even be looking for a heavy-drinker/partyer, so some guys might even say something like that in their profile...like I said, I've never looked at another guys profile...
Thanks all..
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| 3/10/2008 1:08:57 PM |
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shalah
Marshall, MO
age: 59
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ok if I look at a profile and he has on there that he is looking for women younger them myself. I move on
If he lives too far away I move on
If he has sex on the brain I move on
If he acts like the world revoles around him I move on
If he has no tolerance for other peoples oppenions then I move on
After talking to someone for a time you learn things about them. If a man seems to think that women are 2nd class I move on
I like men and I would hope that who ever I end up with will like women.
If it looks like he is wanting someone to support him I move on
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| 3/10/2008 1:15:36 PM |
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cricket128
Ocala, FL
age: 56 online now!
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Thank you, Shalah...good stuff...
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| 3/10/2008 1:19:22 PM |
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tn_tx_lady
Chattanooga, TN
age: 65
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His screen name if crude
His profile is sexually suggestive
He is looking for women 25-90
He lives too far away
His first contact is vulgar.
He has a friends list full of half dressed women
His topics and posts are from the sex and dating
His age, way to young
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| 3/10/2008 1:20:29 PM |
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mskitty57
Tucson, AZ
age: 57
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Age..don't want any youngsters
Non-Drinkers..because I like to go out dancing sometimes and would feel uncomfortable drinking with a guy who is sober. I take cabs when I go out so we can both have a good time.
Horndogs..they're pretty obvious
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| 3/10/2008 1:20:58 PM |
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msdmarie
Brunswick, GA
age: 55
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Sexually suggestive screen name and profile. - Sex is great but get to know me first. I'm not a piece of meat.
Overly romantic profile with poor English. - That's usually a scammer.
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| 3/10/2008 1:30:24 PM |
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cricket128
Ocala, FL
age: 56 online now!
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Good stuff, MsDmarie, TN_TXldy and MsKitty...thank you.
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| 3/10/2008 1:31:53 PM |
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goofynurse
Rolla, MO
age: 50 online now!
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His preferred age younger than me....
Sexually suggestive sign name
Agressive or prejudicial comments in profile
friend list of half naked younger women
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