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no1gmom
Colorado Springs, CO
54, joined Nov. 2012
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Mine fall off I didn't feel it. I thought I lost it but my mom found it in the bed I was sleeping in. Ill be putting it back on when I go to visit again. It's been almost three years and I hate it.
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| 2/10/2013 9:10:30 AM |
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jacquimac
Yorktown, VA
47, joined Feb. 2013
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I always wore my ring on the right hand. When he died I wore his ring on my left. Its been two years and I have taken his ring off and put it in the medicine pouch that I wear around my neck every so often.
No dreams or anything that moving on is OK, I just at some moment let myself be okay.
My honest wish for every emotionally struggling widow is to allow the pain to melt away without feeling guilty. True love doesn't invoke guilt. 
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| 2/10/2013 8:10:32 PM |
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ladybug081947
West Columbia, SC
69, joined Feb. 2013
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try wearing it on your right hand that way its with you always....
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| 2/10/2013 11:50:34 PM |
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wmeagletigger
Concord, NC
60, joined Feb. 2013
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It was about 2 months for me... I was wearing a pendant with a portion of her ashes for about a year.
I had to let go of her to move on... We had a beautiful relationship and loved each other deeply.
I have no guilt about this... I'm thinking that is why it is easy for me.
I'm going to say that there is no wrong answer to your question... just be true to yourself and be as happy as they would of wanted for you... as you would have wanted for them.
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| 2/17/2013 3:54:31 PM |
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flowersatkp
Seattle, WA
93, joined Feb. 2013
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I will never take mine off.
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| 3/8/2013 9:01:25 PM |
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63justlooking
Ventura, CA
53, joined Jan. 2013
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Wore mine almost a year. Just kept hurting to answer questions. Recently removed it and put our rings away. I miss him all the time. But thought it might help me move forward.
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| 3/10/2013 10:26:47 PM |
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vida60
Norman, OK
56, joined Jul. 2012
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we both took our rings off within the first five years of our marriage, we felt we didn't need the symbolic sign of marriage, we knew we were married to each other, it's really your own choice and how only you feel about the taking off the ring.
Don't let anyone tell you that there is a certain time to take it off, I don't see anything wrong with wearing it until you yourself pass, rather or not there will be another love or not. just my opinion of course.
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| 3/13/2013 9:49:31 AM |
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barneypen
Fort Worth, TX
54, joined Mar. 2013
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My first post here...my husband past a little over a year ago...I have my rings still on where they go and I have his on my hand too...but I wear lots of rings and always have...right now I have 14 rings on...each of my rings have a story in my mind....I still twist his ring when missing him...not sure if I will ever take them off....I guess I would prolly have to be getting married again to do it and not sure that I will ever do that at this point....I feel that it is up to each person.
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| 3/18/2013 1:18:22 AM |
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honeysweet40
Oklahoma City, OK
45, joined Mar. 2013
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I was married for 19 years we have three children he has five total I took mine off when my husbands fell off he had cancer and died in three weeks I took our rings and wore them around my neck when he died a friend took me out and this guy walked up to me the bar we went to was quiet not a lot of people anyways he walked up to me and said pointing at my chest what r those I daid boobs lmao I forgot I had our rings around my neck thats when I knew I would b ok I gave our rings to my oldest daughter I hope I made u guys lauph sorry thats just me I do miss him tho
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| 3/18/2013 10:59:06 AM |
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mexblkmxd
Petal, MS
28, joined Jan. 2013
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I still wear mine
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| 3/20/2013 9:20:05 PM |
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singledad_42
Warwick, RI
47, joined Mar. 2013
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My story is kind of crazy. I had been struggling with the decision to take it off or leave it on. On the one year anniversary of her death, I went up to the mountains in Wyoming to spread her ashes near the radio tower that the family owned (they ran a radio station) where her mother's and aunt's ashes had been spread years before. While up there, I fell off a rock and jammed my left hand ring finger, and it started swelling fast so I had to take the ring off and put it on my right hand. It took 2-3 months before the swelling went away, but obviously the ring stayed on my right hand...
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| 3/20/2013 10:14:26 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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I didn't. I will when, and if, I become involved in a meaningful relationship.
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| 3/21/2013 10:38:04 AM |
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hugandakiss_xo
Merritt, NC
62, joined Jul. 2011
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Didn't wear one but just a few yrs.
It was off when he died
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| 3/22/2013 2:04:12 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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| 3/23/2013 3:15:24 PM |
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cadman10
Grissom ARB, IN
56, joined Mar. 2013
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I dont think anyone's wrong for not taking off the ring. Been 1 year today I lost my wife, after almost 25 years. Ring still on. Also been there long enough not to want to. Maybe someday, but not soon
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| 3/23/2013 4:18:53 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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| 3/30/2013 4:39:32 PM |
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katie172
Lebanon, PA
71, joined Mar. 2013
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I still wear mine. My husband died very unexpectedly last June. I also wear his wedding ring on a chain around my neck and his pinkie ring on my right hand. I gave his other rings to our son. I have decided to wear my rings at least a year and then I am not sure what to do. Guess I will have to wait to see how I feel. We were together 42 years. It is hard to think about taking it off.
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| 3/30/2013 5:58:52 PM |
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purpledragon54
Branson, MO
33, joined Mar. 2013
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It has been 3 yrs. since my husband died and I still wear my rings. I just moved them to my right hand. We were married 28 yrs.
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| 3/31/2013 5:04:58 PM |
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mr_profession
Philadelphia, PA
42, joined Oct. 2012
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I took it off my finger on the one year of her passing and started to wear it on a chain around my neck
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| 4/17/2013 8:04:27 PM |
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bgbw33
Pineville, KY
56, joined Apr. 2013
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My husband has been gone two yrs this past Feb. We were married 35 yrs. We were as close as two people can be and we did everything together. I took our wedding band off, the day I made the funeral arrangements. I gave it to my husband so he would have part of me with him. I miss him terribly everyday. But life goes on, and we all have to learn to deal with it in our on way and time. With Gods help we can do it.
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| 4/18/2013 8:36:18 AM |
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funcuban4u
Greensboro, NC
52, joined Jan. 2013
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I took mine off at the funeral and buried it with her....
I went on a mission to find those responsible..
so I figured if I did not survive and was killed also she would give me ring back when we saw each other again..
she was killed by drug dealers in NYC..wrong place at the wrong time...
I got mine though..
went after them all.....and I got them all...
paid my dues...almost 10 yrs in prison...
and would do it again..don't f**k with me and mine.....
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| 4/18/2013 10:16:02 AM |
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barb61270
De Witt, IA
64, joined Nov. 2011
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My prayers are with you for your loss in such a tragic fashion. Wishing you peace.
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| 5/31/2013 7:46:33 PM |
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blessedbyjesus
Shelbyville, IN
55, joined May. 2013
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After about 2 months I moved it over to my right ring finger. It is there for several reasons. My husband is gone, but not forgotten. I am widowed, but still have hopes of meeting someone else down the line. If the time comes that I do meet another special man and it is headed for something more serious that just dating, then and only then will it be placed in a keepsake box in my jewelry box so I can take it out and look at it when I need to. I believe it is a personal choice, no one else can dictate when it is right to remove it. 
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| 6/2/2013 8:10:47 AM |
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irishgirlohio49
Steubenville, OH
53, joined Apr. 2013
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I still wear mine and my engagement ring also, its been 17 months but I'm not ready yet?
When I can take it off and feel ok I will.
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| 6/5/2013 6:17:19 PM |
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mguar
Wayzata, MN
68, joined May. 2010
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I wore my wedding ring only on the day of our marriage. I don't believe in wearing jewelry. I don't object to others who wear it however I reserve the right to not wear any..
I do have an objection to the women who practice serial monogamy and have a sizable ring collection that they wear to display their skill at getting men to marry them.. The record I think was held by my mother who could wear a wedding ring on nearly every finger when she wanted to display her skills..
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| 6/9/2013 6:24:12 AM |
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somebody54
Sequim, WA
58, joined Apr. 2013
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It took me 31/2 years and the only reason I have taken it off now is because there is a crack in the band and I didn't want to loose the 1.3K diamond in the center. My husband and I were not married when he gave me the ring. He gave it to me on the day I discovered I was pregnant with our son, I was 44 years old and had given up on having another child. I finally agreed to marry him one month later after being together for over seven years.
The ring was a token of his love and I plan to have it repaired and start wearing it again.
If I meet someone else and marry again or the ring bothers them, I have two hands. Moving on and letting go does not have to include forgetting or abandoning anything you have loved well in your life!
Don't do anything if it doesn't feel right. It's about you. And it isn't anyone elses business whether you wear your ring on your finger or have your nose pierced and wear it there (more people might notice though!)
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| 6/18/2013 5:17:08 AM |
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sasmith1963
Chapel Hill, NC
53, joined Aug. 2012
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I smashed my finger about a year and half after she died and had to take it off because it was swelling up fast. I may not have ever done it otherwise. If I could meet someone that would understand I would start wearing it again. It was my promise to her. I value it.
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| 6/18/2013 10:57:34 AM |
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joat111026
Port Saint Lucie, FL
53, joined Oct. 2011
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I'm not joking but one of the dogs took the wedding ring off the coffee table, 1 year after marriage. Never seen it again! I was upset, but there's nothing I can do about it! So he decided to take his off too, that didn't bother me at all. He passed away in 2009, 15 years of marriage!
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| 7/7/2013 8:34:51 PM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
51, joined Apr. 2013
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Still wearing mine after 6 months...along with the jewelry he gave me. I have even been on a few dates and none of them have asked about it. I know I said until death do us part but I am not dead yet...
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| 7/16/2013 5:17:36 PM |
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forward16
Charlotte, NC
69, joined Jul. 2013
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Not at all, I still wears mine, married since 1974 was together 2yr before marrying. If u feel comfortable with them it's fine
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| 7/16/2013 9:51:15 PM |
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spoiledxxrotten
Pocatello, ID
45, joined Jun. 2013
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It's a personal choice. I wore mine for several months after he passed, then put them in the box. When I feel that I'm sad, I take them out and put them on. Makes my heart feel better, then I will put them back. It's been 13 months since he passed so its all for comfort. Good luck 
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| 7/25/2013 1:49:24 AM |
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bellasnanny3
Memphis, TN
58, joined Jul. 2013
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My husband died 2 years ago in August. He suffered from terminal brain cancer. We were using hospice. On the morning that he died(1am) I took his ring off and mine off and put them on a chain around my neck. I have since started wearing his band on my left thumb and had the stone from my engagement ring placed in a pendant. I've found for me that I know in my heart when I'm ready to take another step forward. I just spread his cremains two weeks ago. It just has to feel right with me. I'm beginning to feel like its my house now instead of ours. He would not have wanted me to be so sad for this long. Slowly I'm emerging.
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| 8/5/2013 12:05:35 AM |
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tasgosa
Knob Noster, MO
62, joined Jul. 2013
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...When I scattered her ashes...on a hillside...
overlooking the flightline of the Air Force Base!
(I wore Both rings for years...on a Dragon Pendant I got for her last B-day...)
~ Look after our brave men, darling....I'll try to keep my Promise...!!"
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| 8/5/2013 1:17:50 AM |
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sharonipa
Coos Bay, OR
72, joined Mar. 2011
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Many years ago, it didn't fit anymore. I recently gave it to my youngest Grand-son who is getting married Sept. 7. He and his 'soon-to-be' wife will treasure it.
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| 8/24/2013 5:05:33 PM |
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peter638
Kendallville, IN
69, joined Dec. 2009
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I don't feel there is a "Right or Wrong" answer, everyone must Choose their time. I wore mine for over a year after my wife died. I started dating and felt it was time to put the "Ring" away. I was married almost 42 years when she died, I am still single over 4 years later, I don't mind being alone and am not Sure if I can Find someone to "PUT UP" with me LOL
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| 8/26/2013 5:58:22 PM |
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earthangelmay
Fort Wayne, IN
68, joined May. 2013
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I didnt start seeing other men for 2 years after my husband passed...the first date I went on I felt guilty like I was cheating on him(we had been married for 25 years)when I was getting ready for the date I took off my ring and cried like a baby...and I havent put it back on...its been over 4 years now and I still think I can still feel it around my finger at times!!!
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| 9/15/2013 2:28:45 PM |
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angelkissess82
Fort Madison, IA
34, joined Sep. 2013
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The first year my husband was gone I took mine on and off through out the year. I took it off for good on his one year passing. Even when I didn't wear it I still felt very married.
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| 9/16/2013 11:30:57 PM |
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softltouch
Denver, CO
48, joined Sep. 2013
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Then plain don't and settle your heart that it is ok He gave them to you to not to us. I however couldn't even bare to look at mine within minutes after his death. We used to lay in bed and play with our rings often and laugh cause his ring finger was smaller than mine LOL
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| 10/12/2013 11:21:07 PM |
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24milkduds
San Francisco, CA
58, joined Mar. 2012
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Im going on 2 1/2 years and still wear mine..I get asked..and my response is I'm widow not divorce..does that bother you!
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| 10/13/2013 1:41:05 AM |
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kermit13
Olympia, WA
35, joined Aug. 2008
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Took me two years to take it off. Then kept it on my dog tags. Girls didn't like it, but I did it anyway.
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| 10/15/2013 3:31:18 PM |
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beth0152
Cocoa, FL
65, joined Mar. 2008
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I took it off the day he died. It was a symbol of our union and our union was broken....until death do us part. I never put it on again to this day 8+ years later.
Everyone has to decide what is the right time for them. No one else can decide for them.
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| 10/16/2013 11:11:05 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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That is a purely speculative question, OP. Just because one is a widow or widower doesn't mean that they have taken their wedding ring(s) off.
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| 11/25/2013 12:44:54 AM |
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bacon_
Snellville, GA
55, joined Aug. 2013
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Never had a wedding ring, although we were married. Bought a ring the following week although I do not wear it.
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| 12/23/2013 6:02:45 PM |
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qlindar
Paradise, CA
65, joined Nov. 2013
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Like many have posted, I think it's a personal decision and each of us has our reasons on what feels good to us. I personally went back and forth and finally took my ring off a couple of weeks ago. My husband passed away in August, 2013. The two now are on the mantle.
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| 1/10/2014 10:27:33 PM |
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24milkduds
San Francisco, CA
58, joined Mar. 2012
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I just switched to my other hands after 2 1/2 years..when you are ready your know
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| 1/20/2014 11:54:59 PM |
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sabrinais
Palm Beach Gardens, FL
59, joined Dec. 2013
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I've taken mine off , felt naked, put it back on . It just feels right sometimes. It's OK I don't plan on dating , I'm pretty happy with me ..
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| 1/21/2014 9:20:57 AM |
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moonbeams73
Grand Rapids, MN
62, joined Sep. 2009
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I don't think there's any set time. I can't honestly remember when I stopped wearing mine. I think the heart lets you know when it's time. It's different for each of us.
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| 2/10/2014 10:45:24 PM |
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spoiledwidower
Hagerstown, MD
61, joined Jul. 2010
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after about 4 years, then I carried it in my wallet until very recently when it fell out and I nearly lost it... so now it is in the safe...
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| 2/26/2014 7:58:22 PM |
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edwardskc5qyn
Conroe, TX
54, joined Feb. 2013
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I'm still wearing mine. It just feels so comfortable on my finger. He's been gone for 3 years, but I still have his clothes in my dresser and closet. I guess if I ever meet someone again I'll get rid of them, but for right now his things just stay where they are and his ring stays on my finger.
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| 2/27/2014 12:09:30 PM |
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rainbow59631
Bloomington, IN
80, joined Aug. 2008
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You take it off when YOU are ready and you will know when. There is no set time.
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| 3/8/2014 3:00:01 PM |
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kiki2u
Romulus, MI
63, joined Jan. 2013
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Its still on left hand, differant fingers. To each his or her own.
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| 3/8/2014 3:09:34 PM |
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linda66125
Edison, NJ
62, joined Apr. 2013
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my husband past 3 years ago and I wear mine and his...
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| 3/13/2014 12:23:48 AM |
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kiki2u
Romulus, MI
63, joined Jan. 2013
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I took it off that finger, but still wear tbem on my left hand, but one on index finger and the other on me middle finger. My husband died in May 2010. I moved them about a month ago.
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| 4/4/2014 10:01:09 PM |
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spoiledwidower
Hagerstown, MD
61, joined Jul. 2010
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4 years or so.... still carry it in my wallet
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| 6/1/2014 8:17:54 AM |
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redlace63
Greenville, KY
66, joined Mar. 2014
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HELLO I LOST MY HUSBAND 2 YEARS AGO AND I STILL WEAR MY WEDDING RING I HAVE MINE ON FOR 34 YEARS SO THERES NOTHING WRONG KEEPING IT ON IF YOU WANT I WAS MARRIED FOR 44 YEARS I GOT MY WEDDING RINGS ON OUR 10TH ANNIVERSARY SO THEY AR SPECIAL TO ME GOD BLESS YOU
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| 6/13/2014 10:12:25 PM |
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myrasbubble
Festus, MO
48, joined May. 2014
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I just took my engagement ring off about 4 months ago. I still wear my necklace he gave me our 1st Christmas.
each in his/her own time.
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| 8/8/2014 10:39:22 AM |
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lailani1958
Hemet, CA
58, joined Jul. 2014
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My husband passed away a year ago this last April. I recently removed the Engagement ring (our wedding bands disappeared a few months after his death ), I felt it was the appropriate thing to do, as I am now here seeking a relationship with someone new. I agree it has to be when you are ready though. But, if you go to meet someone new and you are still wearing your ring, won't this at the very least make him wonder if you truly are ready to move on? I know I would feel this way if a man was still wearing his wedding ring. Just some food for thought...
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