| 3/14/2008 1:30:18 PM |
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kgearly1021
Valdosta, GA
age: 47
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Will ya'll take a look at this girls' profile-
I am just looking for a friend to hang out with. I just got out of a serious relationship so I really just want to take it slow. I have a little boy that will be two in May. He is my life. I am needing to just get out and have a good time and try to keep things off my mind. I can't really do the partying right now because I have a baby on the way in April a little girl. Both my kids are by the guy that I just split up with. He is just not ready for the family thing he is into partying. I don't know maybe one day I can find the right guy to take his place. I need a real man that will love me and treat me and my kids right.
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| 3/14/2008 1:31:27 PM |
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pwin_here_n_now
Annapolis, MD
age: 38
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Paul: Well Said! Though young and a mother - You are in the vicious cycle of a controling relationship. His commenting that it is all you is not true - Yes you need to work on yourself with a counselor - take responsiblity for your choices and learn that only thing / person you can control is yourself and your decisions.
His blaming it all on you - telling you that you are the problem is how it starts. His tranference of denial and blame is how he makes you second guess yourself. He tears you down to make him self feel self important and justified - This also allows him to not have to evaluate himself and get real.
Time for you to grow into the woman you were meant to be! Bless you in your decision. Listen to your gut. It is there for a reason for its existance and has a very wise voice- if you choose to listen to it.
peace!
P.Win
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| 3/14/2008 1:42:28 PM |
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yunvs
Columbus, OH
age: 34
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the only way to get away from that feeling is find another man, and why is ppl bashing her for asking a question not once but multiple times she posted the thread if u dont wanna see it get out, thats what i would do, and what if it was your daughter would u still give her the same advice? o nevermind some jackasses are stupid enough to do just that..
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| 3/14/2008 1:46:40 PM |
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steph_23_1110
Livingston, TX
age: 23
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Thank You
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| 3/14/2008 1:48:32 PM |
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misssmatch
Cleveland, TN
age: 51
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this thread is making me dizzy...sorry...
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| 3/14/2008 1:58:42 PM |
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looking555
Paris, TN
age: 44
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I would find me someone eles!!!!!
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| 3/14/2008 1:59:35 PM |
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leelo_1979
Cincinnati, OH
age: 28
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Steph, i understand that you love him and that you have kids together but, you don't need some one tell you that it your faulth when he's the one coming back to you and saying i love you, unforuatly honey that just means that he lonely and can't get any any place else. its harsh but true, if it was me i would give him a test, to see if his heart is really true!
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| 3/14/2008 2:02:27 PM |
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steph_23_1110
Livingston, TX
age: 23
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what kind of test what do I do to find out if he really does care
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| 3/14/2008 2:03:09 PM |
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crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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Don't test him...that is the last thing you ever want too do
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| 3/14/2008 2:11:49 PM |
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yunvs
Columbus, OH
age: 34
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tell him u love him but your not goin to change and u wouldnt ask him to change and if he cant get over an arguement that is goin to happen in every relationship he needs to let u go and stop hurting each other, and ask him if he enjoys the making up part... if he truly loves u he will try to make it work
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| 3/14/2008 2:49:46 PM |
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forestrose
Calgary, AB
age: 55
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Well, if you are nagging at him all the time, it could be because you are unhappy and consciously or subconsciously, you are blaming him for it.
Some people love each other, but cannot live together because of unresolvable differences.
You should both get into professional counselling, and if he won't, go by yourself. You are very young,
and the worst thing you are going to do is 1. get a man who will replace him because you are lonely - this won't
be fair to anyone, because the new guy is only a replacement, not chosen because love, but rather need.
2. after baby #2 pops out, you and daddy temporarily are happy, and make baby#3.
Your children need sensible people to put their interests first, and parent them well, either together or apart. That can't happen while you are over-involved in the drama of your relationship. Perhaps you can plan your life and set some goals, such as schooling - perhaps by correspondence, so you have something else to stimulate you. Read books to learn something new.
Last thought: the hurt can only stop when you move past the cause of the pain, you aren't anywhere near broken up yet.
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| 3/15/2008 1:41:55 AM |
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babygirl63
Holden, MO
age: 44 online now!
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sweety, if ya just think he loves you, then he probaly don't. this guy is doing nothing but playing head games with ya, and your allowing him to keep controlling your life. it needs to stop. the only ones that will be hurt in the end. will be the kids. there are to many fish in the ocean to settle for all the pain and hurt that your feeling. but it will be you and only you that can stop it. best of luck to ya dear. love don't have to hurt, remenber that
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| 3/15/2008 1:51:13 AM |
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truegrace
Hagerstown, MD
age: 52
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you need serious canceling, and be tough enough to say stay away
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| 3/15/2008 1:55:41 AM |
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amirror
Manchester, NH
age: 29
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Would you get back with him if you didn't have kids with him?
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