| 3/26/2008 8:35:19 PM |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 44
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He's probably using her as a sex puppy HARLEY. All he wants is her body, not any part of her life. Sounds like a sex buddy deal to me. At least on the guy's end.
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| 3/26/2008 8:35:35 PM |
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luvzhugz12
Richardson, TX
age: 42
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JMO but sometimes when you first meet the 'bad' boys they are fun and exciting, like spontaneous activities and the likes. Whereas the nice guys are low key, more quiet and although in the long run probably much better for us don't always give us that sense of excitement. Sadly, that 'fun' guy is short lived and you quickly find out what an asshole he is, but by then you have attachment issues. Mind you, this is just my view based on past experiences.
Maybe not all women choose these men for the same reason, but I do know for me, I'm learning that the 'nice' guy may be a little more low keyed but longer lasting...more like a slow burn 
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| 3/26/2008 8:35:44 PM |
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tulsatoby
Carthage, MO
age: 44
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Ok she just need a c*cktail or two and a middle finger!To tell him to straighten his ass up!But I have found those kind of guys dont so kick his ass to the curb babe and go on with it!
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| 3/26/2008 8:37:32 PM |
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tulsatoby
Carthage, MO
age: 44
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I think you nailed it luvs! Thank You!
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| 3/26/2008 8:40:11 PM |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 44
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LUVZ, You sound ENLIGHTENED! Only took you 42 years to figure that out.
Me TOO! 44 years to learn about relationships and to figure out what I really want in one.
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| 3/26/2008 8:42:32 PM |
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luvzhugz12
Richardson, TX
age: 42
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Now let's hope it doesn't take us another 40 years to find our 'slow' burn LOL
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| 3/26/2008 8:43:46 PM |
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sea_wench1
Chandler, AZ
age: 55
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Got in my truck and drove away...enough was enough..but my story is quite different...( wink ) Sea
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| 3/26/2008 8:45:32 PM |
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harley68
San Antonio, TX
age: 39
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Thanks for the comments y'all. I really would love to hear from the ladies on how they have walked away from the assholes in their past too.
But that's not to say that all comments aren't welcomed.
BTW - my friend is a wonderful woman! I really hate to see what she is going threw!
My advise to her just hasn't been enough.
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| 3/26/2008 8:47:47 PM |
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smilin_bob
Broadway, VA
age: 47
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I am not a lady, but I did sleep at a Holiday Inn Express last night..
OK. Men do this too.. they hang onto something, even though it is not good for them.
They know they have SOMETHING.. it is NOT what they want, but it is better than nothing.
The person that decides to move on will have made up their mind that the little crumb here or there they *do* get out of the relationship is NOT fulfilling enough. They will realize that as far as the relationship is concerned, they are starving.
It takes internal strength, and a need to preserve self-respect that causes someone to move on.
People will change when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.
Everyone has their own threshhold of where that point is.
I hope your friend finds her self-respect and internal strength soon.
When I walked away, she was pissed.. said that 'I could not leave.. she was not done with me yet.' It took police intervention.. they took her away from my door after I warned her to leave me alone.
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| 3/26/2008 8:49:38 PM |
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simplman4right1
Sarasota, FL
age: 51
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rethinking this a bit...
This lady already knows what to do but just isn't doing it.
She's complained to her friends about all the problems Harley listed.... how else would Harley have this info if she hadn't been told about it??
From a friends point of view... I would request this lady refrain from telling me about her relationship problems.
They're her problems and Lord knows I have problems of my own.
Sometimes tough love will cause people to get off the pot and do what they know should have already been done....
Either way... I wouldn't want to hear about it??
JMO... going with what little I know about this situation.
(Harley... you could just get Criss to make his ass dissapear.... permanently.... LOL)
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| 3/26/2008 9:02:38 PM |
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harley68
San Antonio, TX
age: 39
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I'll call Criss Angel now!
One more thing to simpl- we as women try to find strength from talking to our friends. It feels better when we can release or vent our problems. It helps us to re-think and gives our friends the permission to be brutally honest with us. However, it doesn't always work out the way we'd hoped.
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| 3/26/2008 9:17:45 PM |
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singlesweetnes
New Bedford, MA
age: 38
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shes letting sex dictate what shes doing no pu intended. he just wants to have his fun and go home . also he probably has someone else on the side. if u dont think so than u r sadly mistaken, he gets away with everything else why not that.tell your friend to dump that zero and get herself a hero.   drink to that.when shes done do this  :laughing 
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| 3/26/2008 10:09:12 PM |
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sweetiepie1977
Jacksonville, FL
age: 30
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I personally, have only dealt with this issue once. I tend to dump a man if I feel he is using me or mistreating me.
I have only had 1 man treat me like I was everything one moment and then nothing the next.....and I gave him a couple of chances but finally ended up just breaking all ties with him. If he were to call me today, his name shows up as "DONT ANSWER"....so I wont be tempted to answer.
So, I will NOT wait for any man, worship any man or even be everything he needs me to be unless I feel HE is worthy of such attention.
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| 3/27/2008 1:32:03 AM |
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alex_192
Sarasota, FL
age: 55
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it is easy to unertand her
she want sex
and she is paying for it
she pays with her food, and her relationship with her kids
some might consider it a cheap price
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| 3/27/2008 1:43:19 AM |
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mosplace
Boulder City, NV
age: 46
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Its not easy but with friends and family help I did it. Men like that attack the "self" the woman feels worthless "nobody else will have you you are to dumb, ugly, worthless, lazy" whatever hurts. I had a hotline counselor ask me once which was worse physical or verbal abuse and why. I told her which one even tho both are bad and I have had both so I do know.
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