| 3/27/2008 4:54:24 PM |
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cece123
Madison Heights, MI
age: 47
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As one strives to fulfill the solicitudes of private advantage... as the leading dispute over addiction for passion. When irresistable desire becomes a burden, we become enslaved in our own irrational acts. Confused by the intoxicating effect, we ease into it's comfort's, only to lose our resistance, and there we go again.
Withdrawal and abandoned... shodowed by himiliation, rejection and disappointments, which can impair one's tolerance due to the lack of harmonious agreement. We impair ourself by denial, because we were weakened by guilt and shame and not inspired to shield ourself from lifes blows. That's life... from the book of hard knocks.........
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| 3/27/2008 5:29:24 PM |
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drumrman
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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i'm still in the: i can't believe i let her in my life stage. 
...but i'm feeling, much better. 
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| 3/27/2008 5:32:24 PM |
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icedsnow63
Broken Arrow, OK
age: 44
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 drummr...and i'm glad you're with us...still
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| 3/27/2008 5:33:57 PM |
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drumrman
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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but i'd much rather be somewhere else. sorry.
 
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| 3/27/2008 5:38:23 PM |
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theone41
Portland, OR
age: 42
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hello i just had a break up and i am not doing so good but i am trying to be strong and please try and do the same
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| 3/27/2008 5:48:05 PM |
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icedsnow63
Broken Arrow, OK
age: 44
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WEll forget i mentioned it then drummr
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| 3/27/2008 5:54:35 PM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 60
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Bella, we met on aol in 2000 and came to Florida in 2001. My divorce was final January 29, 2008!
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| 3/27/2008 5:56:13 PM |
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drumrman
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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iced. don't b mad at me. i'm sorry. 
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| 3/27/2008 5:57:26 PM |
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ronn657
Stoughton, MA
age: 55
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I feel your pain Drum.. Mine called me Saturday just to hurt me again from Florida after 8 Months saying oh I'm sorry I dialed the wromg number
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| 3/27/2008 6:06:38 PM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 60
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Stay strong, Ron, and know that all of us here on this thread are with you! I still am dealing with the ex...he wants to do joint return, I agree, then he sits on his hands. Meanwhile, I had given him copies of the property taxes on MY house! I am going over to where he is "parked for the moment" this weekend and don't care if his short, fat girlfriend is there or not. I want my tax paperwork back so I can file married/filing single because I don't trust the bastard!
BTW, you KNOW I will be all dolled up to piss them both off! 
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| 3/27/2008 6:11:18 PM |
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coppermare
Grady, AL
age: 48
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My steps didn't quite go like that but some of the ones that did were to the most extreme degree. I'm afraid from what my family and friends say, it changed me forever! Thanks for the post though. It's good to at least know there are others out there that go through it.
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| 3/27/2008 6:13:01 PM |
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drumrman
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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ronn, sorry to hear that. my x has all of the sudden found god. now, she's put me on her mass emailing group for religeous, bible-thumping recovering drunks. yeah...just what i was looking for in my life. i knew there was something. boy...i'm so glad she found me. (sarcasm)
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| 3/27/2008 6:19:16 PM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 60
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OMG Drummr, she was a bible thumping drunk?????? Let me ask you a Dr. Phil question: was that working for you?????
On a serious note, although you want to, don't read her mail, and if you can, BLOCK HER.
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| 3/27/2008 6:23:00 PM |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53
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 I'm sorry that you're still feeling blue, ronn..somethings I did years ago, that eventually helped me move thru the stages were walking 6 miles a day, talking talking talking (god, my friends were awesome), no drinking, no smoking, no sex, no dating..just living clean and healthy..(ok, sometimes boring but my body loved it)..and making myself smile even when i didn't feel like it, allowing myself to cry for 10min at nite, never during the day..and after awhile, it got hard to even cry for 2 min!..the months got easier as i moved past all the pain and heartaches..and most definately, NO CONTACT...why let a fresh cut bleed all over again? hope some of this helps..
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| 3/27/2008 6:27:53 PM |
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forestrose
Calgary, AB
age: 55
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Shock stage: Initial paralysis at hearing the bad news.
Denial stage: Trying to avoid the inevitable.
Anger stage: Frustrated outpouring of bottled-up emotion.
Bargaining stage: Seeking in vain for a way out.
Depression stage: Final realization of the inevitable.
Testing stage: Seeking realistic solutions.
Acceptance stage: Finally finding the way forward.
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