| 3/27/2008 6:30:09 PM |
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drumrman
Belmont, MA
age: 43 online now!
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susan, i don't read the emails at all. they get deleted and filtered in my junk email, and are cleaned out everyday. the religeous thing, well, she really got into it after the breakup. but she felt the need to tell me how she's found god. y? like he gets lost? hello  how i need aa, and jesus in my life. yes i do...if he can tell me what the lottery #'s r tomorrow night. 
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| 3/27/2008 6:35:27 PM |
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sweetbooj69
Salem, OR
age: 39
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Thanks for sharing your story Susan. I'm glad you found one good husband in this lifetime. At least you have the courage to give remarrying another try. I'm sorry your other experience didn't work out. Don't give up.
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| 3/27/2008 7:02:42 PM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 60
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Thanks, Sweet. I am never going to give up. If I had done that, I would never have met #1. However, having said that, and knowing that my divorce is still an open wound (8 weeks), I AM TAKING A BREATHER. My focus now is on myself, getting a job, reacquainting myself with my needs, not his, and spreading my love and affection to family and friends.
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| 3/27/2008 7:05:15 PM |
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coppermare
Grady, AL
age: 48
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Shock stage: Initial paralysis at hearing the bad news.
There is no news when someone disapears
Denial stage: Trying to avoid the inevitable.
What if they are enforcing the fact it is not inevitable?
Anger stage: Frustrated outpouring of bottled-up emotion.
Bargaining stage: Seeking in vain for a way out.
Same as above question
Depression stage: Final realization of the inevitable.
Two years
Testing stage: Seeking realistic solutions.
Acceptance stage: Finally finding the way forward.
These sort of stages make me wonder about women or men that lose loved ones in wars or as missing persons?
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| 3/27/2008 7:09:37 PM |
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gismo77
Houston, TX
age: 54 online now!
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hey you all well i enjoyed reading all your replys about your expierence i am german found out after 14 years thinking this would be for a life time fixed his house up made hime a nice home then bum over there you are single got told well is my house so i left crazy me let him have it all but the good think was for me i left and went trought 8 states and starting all over hope to remeber not to be so stupid again to believe a man to love me and then your life is crashing down and there you are alone well like to read all your expierence seems to help and get some advice in the same time my english is not the best in wriiting so forgive the misspelled word lo!
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| 3/27/2008 7:10:20 PM |
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bella2020
Lebanon, OH
age: 47
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Susan there are lots of people who will help u on here get though this Men and Women
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| 3/29/2008 1:14:58 PM |
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poet4you
Erie, PA
age: 56
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to think this depression has been going on for a year already, and know it will continue to get worse. I just need a break from it, just a short break. even when things seem like they're going a little better, BAM!...right back down again.
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| 3/29/2008 1:17:09 PM |
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57rickie
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 57
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I know the feeling poet4you....I moved out of his house in Oct, but we broke up in July... Good days and Bad here.
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| 3/29/2008 2:37:04 PM |
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txgurl1954
Copperas Cove, TX
age: 54
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Gee.......... I thought I was the only one feeling all those stages. Nice to know it's a universal recovery process. It's been three 1/2 years since my x dumped me,and married a co-worker, he is now my boss. Guess the advancement in his position was more important than I was, nepatism regulations, he couldn't move up being with me . Yea, it's still not a good situation as I am now the enemy even though the time I am forced to spend with him is kept stricktly professional by me. I have to remind him of that every now and then when he gets the urge to travel down memory lane. Some people are just so into themselves. Seeing him for who he really is has made my breakup much easier. I'm in the acceptance stage since I know I'm so much better than that.
Hang in there Susan, it gets better with time 
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| 3/29/2008 3:22:11 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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I think what's truly odd is I am experiencing some of these same feelings and I wasn't "INTO" him.
I have accepted that I am "grieving" the loss of hope for a good relationship and not this individual.
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| 3/29/2008 3:43:55 PM |
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passionatelady3
Red Deer, AB
age: 47
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Hi everyone, my name is Maria I live in Red Deer, Alberta Canada and I would love to thank you drumrman for the wonderful poem, and thank you susansheart for sharging your story. To everyone who is going through a rough time, I wish you much strength and inner peace, you will find a way to servive, your way, and in turn will be stronger from the experience.
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| 3/29/2008 5:31:29 PM |
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ladyofvictory
Madison, IN
age: 55
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susansheart, my goodness, that was well thought out and excellent teaching. (expression for church talk) i am impressed and i am sure that you may have helped many tonight. i have been divorced for 10 yrs and it is an emotional roller coaster. i had stopped long ago lovong him but it did not make anything easier.
a side note for me was i thought it would be easier on my adult kids than if they had been little. boy was i wrong. so it is not an easy talk but when you fionally come thru the fire, you are ok afterall.
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| 3/29/2008 5:55:01 PM |
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rturn2oz
Horsham, PA
age: 47
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Susan
WOW!! U R GOOD!! I TOO HAVE BEEN THROUGH A BREAK UP JUST LAST MONTH. Not to mention a really bad marrige of 24 yrs. But I believe the harder times u go through, the stronger it makes u! Thanks for sharing!! Good luck to u.
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| 3/29/2008 5:58:37 PM |
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jim71
Jacksonville, FL
age: 37
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i have 4 stages 1)beer 2)shot of whiskey 3)bottle of whiskey 4)falling off bar stool
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| 3/29/2008 6:40:26 PM |
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genie8211
Chickamauga, GA
age: 41
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Love the post at least I know Im not the only one that went though it(the crazy stage) I wasnt married but was in a serious living relationship and yes I finally relized I am worth more then he will ever know (and it will truly haunt him one day) so thanks alot for reminding us because even though some of us have moved on we still get those "what if" thoughts at times.
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