| 8/19/2011 12:16:45 AM |
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imluvingit
Brooklyn, NY
31, joined Aug. 2010
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Every guy i met on here does not go on dates ..atleast not with me . They always say meet me at my place to hang out or i invite them to mine. Is it the guy i go for ?or is it me ? Am i not dateable i dunno WTF ?! 
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| 8/19/2011 12:27:15 AM |
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vancerr
Boiling Springs, SC
45, joined May. 2011
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Meet up in public. You should not ever meet someone at Your home anyway. They should being willing to do dinner. Even guys have to eat.
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| 8/19/2011 1:32:05 AM |
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dafoxhung
Brooklyn, NY
37, joined Oct. 2010
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No two people who don't know any thing about the other should meet in the home. I believe it's best to meet in public. A picnic, diner, museum and dinner are great places to meet and date.
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| 8/19/2011 3:53:03 AM |
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venichhe
Brooklyn, NY
33, joined May. 2011
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I wonder why, is it because you go to their place, or you invite them?
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| 8/19/2011 7:08:15 AM |
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carwashshawty
Elmont, NY
34, joined Mar. 2011
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| 8/19/2011 10:52:21 AM |
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skeeter344
Sheffield, MA
32, joined Jun. 2011
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i haven't went on a date from anyone here but i usually take a girl out to dinner and a movie. atleast out in public. going to someone's place is better left until further action. never know if they are stalkers or not at first.
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| 8/19/2011 1:12:54 PM |
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babytazzusmc
Bronx, NY
37, joined Mar. 2011
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yes its the guys you go for. the ones that you ignore are the ones that will respect you like a queen and understand that the first few dates should be at a neutral location
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| 8/20/2011 3:25:13 PM |
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meetme28269
Mooresville, NC
71, joined Apr. 2011
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OP
Tell me you are not inviting strange men to your place when you have children living at home.
What is wrong with you?
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| 8/20/2011 5:12:12 PM |
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mickeyminn
Milwaukee, WI
30, joined Aug. 2011
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Yeah...inviting first dates to your home or going over theirs is not a good idea. Most likely, these guys are only interested in one thing. I think you can take a guess on what that is. If that is not what you are looking for, then move on. Also, try to present yourself as a young woman who likes to be respected, who would like to go out on a public date, and meet some like-minded gentelmen's with class. Hope this helps! Good luck! 
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| 8/20/2011 6:43:12 PM |
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alekk3
Brooklyn, NY
44, joined May. 2011
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Every guy i met on here does not go on dates ..atleast not with me . They always say meet me at my place to hang out or i invite them to mine. Is it the guy i go for ?or is it me ? Am i not dateable i dunno WTF ?!
If you don't wanna go over to a guy's house or apartment, why go? If you don't want a guy over at your place, why invite him? Does inviting the guys over to you place involve sex? Or do you go over to the guy's house to have sex? If so this might be one of the reasons you're "not dateable."
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| 8/20/2011 9:33:34 PM |
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goldie_rai
Louisville, KY
47, joined May. 2011
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Every guy i met on here does not go on dates ..atleast not with me .
When you say "at least not with me", it makes me wonder if you think that these same guys would take another lady on a real date in public. If you expect them to take someone else, then why not have the same standard for yourself?
Try to be honest with him in the first few emails about what you expect a date to be like, let him know that you won't fall for a hook-up disguised as a date. It will take the pressure off of you so that you can focus on getting to know the man sitting across from you.
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| 8/21/2011 5:33:23 AM |
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cdukshnow
La Mesa, CA
49, joined Mar. 2010
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I'd, in my experiences, say about 20% actually wanna meet. Well the women that is. No idea about men but from what I am seeing in these threads it's around the same.
Thom
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| 8/21/2011 8:01:46 AM |
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nettiemoore
Kingston, NY
66, joined Aug. 2011
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@skeeter334:taking a note that there is no photo
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| 8/21/2011 9:04:12 AM |
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ctr916
Roseville, CA
54, joined Aug. 2011
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What about after you invite them home or go over their place to hang out; in my opinion, after you have "sealed the deal" so to speak, and have become, at least a girl friend with benefits, there is no reason not to go out and have a good time doing something you both may enjoy. In my opinion, that option is not counter-intuitive and you should already be more comfortable with each other as well, like friends with benefits.
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| 8/21/2011 11:12:15 PM |
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imluvingit
Brooklyn, NY
31, joined Aug. 2010
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I dont think its me..i dont think they take any girls out on dates. Its the guys i chose..Ive done both Ok with the first guy we were talking..I liked him and yeah he did talk to me about having sex and I agreed to it ...ugh  At the time I just thought yeah we'll have sex and it'll develop into something more later...HUGE HUGE HUGEEEE mistake. I instantly became the sex buddy . I got tired of it and changed my number . Sex without love is just dirty to me...I felt nasty both times!
The second guy was always a loser but we were friends for months before we met so i invited him to my place.We never talked about sex at all...but once he got here he made it obvious thats what he wanted. He kept staring at my tits and a** all night and I was horny so i said f**k it .I actually wanted to have sex on both occasions so i cant really blame the guys but thank God he wasnt a psycho but he couldve been. I wouldnt do that ever again though .
I have to stop having sex so quickly it ruins things! 
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| 8/22/2011 6:11:56 PM |
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flagirl9027
Altamonte Springs, FL
37, joined Jun. 2011
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Don't go over there, suggest meeting at a public place. If he says No, then you should move on.
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| 8/23/2011 4:13:19 AM |
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dcharles5625
Yonkers, NY
37, joined Jul. 2011
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I don't what kind if guys you have met, but i like going on dates. Thus give you a chance to see how the woman reacts being out if there comfort zone and its the safe thing to do
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| 8/23/2011 6:20:33 AM |
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alekk3
Brooklyn, NY
44, joined May. 2011
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I dont think its me..i dont think they take any girls out on dates. Its the guys i chose..Ive done both Ok with the first guy we were talking..I liked him and yeah he did talk to me about having sex and I agreed to it ...ugh At the time I just thought yeah we'll have sex and it'll develop into something more later...HUGE HUGE HUGEEEE mistake. I instantly became the sex buddy . I got tired of it and changed my number . Sex without love is just dirty to me...I felt nasty both times!
The second guy was always a loser but we were friends for months before we met so i invited him to my place.We never talked about sex at all...but once he got here he made it obvious thats what he wanted. He kept staring at my tits and a** all night and I was horny so i said f**k it .I actually wanted to have sex on both occasions so i cant really blame the guys but thank God he wasnt a psycho but he couldve been. I wouldnt do that ever again though .
I have to stop having sex so quickly it ruins things!
Well you've answered your own question. I strongly believe and I don't think it's just my personal theory or an opinion, that most women, who “put out to soon” you will become a guy's "sex buddy." Men are funny creatures, yes, they “want” to have sex with you, but if you "put out" too soon, they “don't” want you. This is nothing new and has been going on ages ago. If women have a higher regard for themselves the likelihood men would follow suit. If you’re a “loosey goosy” men would treat you that way.
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| 8/24/2011 12:01:09 PM |
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angelofhonesty
San Antonio, TX
47, joined Mar. 2009
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They just want to get those panties...HELLO...really are you that damn naive. They don't want to invest the time to get to know you or be seen with you in public...that's just pathetic really and you actually go for this shit...Listen if you are going to be stupid and allow this to continue then hey what the f**k do you expect us to do about it!!! I'm sorry but if you are aware of something and don't do anything to change the pattern then you deserve actually what you get!! Bottom Line
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| 8/24/2011 12:38:53 PM |
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bluecougareyes
Chelan, WA
73, joined Nov. 2008
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Even guys have to eat.
Treat Him to a nice evening of fine dinning and a good bottle of wine....maybe go dancing after that... Then you will be a happy and satisfied women !
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| 8/25/2011 5:58:54 PM |
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kclady41
Kansas City, MO
47, joined Jun. 2011
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Sometimes i will let a man pick me up at my place if we been talking long enough. i have a hard tome meeting in public for i don't have a car. But i insist we go out and not hang out. for hanging out to men usually makes them think they are getting laid lol
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| 9/11/2011 6:59:10 PM |
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arocketman2001
Angle Inlet, MN
64, joined Jul. 2011
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Dating in new York city has to be a freaking money nightmare! Who can afford a car unless your a wiseguy, parking 600 per month gas if you can find it so you take a cab everywhere, unless you stumble onto "Cash Cab" that's costly, then where to go for dinner, lots of great food there, save up for it tho! I can tell you horror stories about where your grocery food supply comes from at Hunts Point, don't want to ruin dinner, lol it's a wonder they don't have incentive to go " out" you have to give them one you know like dangle a carrot on front of a horse...
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| 9/11/2011 8:08:13 PM |
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mystyle4u
Lisbon, ND
52, joined Aug. 2011
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I actually have met two people and dated from this site and they have picked me up and dropped me off @ my house if they had known the area I'd say meet in public. Both were very nice you kinda know just how a person talks what ther about and if ther true or just want to have sex. Good Luck to all.Everyone deserves a great person not a user. Theres enough of them out ther. tell them a date or forget it.
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| 9/11/2011 8:20:04 PM |
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d6racer
Hendersonville, NC
43, joined Sep. 2011
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Yeah, you do cause this yourself (or allow it).
If you keep giving it up easily, nobody will respect you.
There are plenty of nice guys out there start seeking them.
Never meet a guy at your place for the first date, or his for that matter.
Meet someplace public and leave separately.
If he does not find that acceptable, then he is unacceptable.
These guys are solely looking for booty calls and what makes it wors is they are not even willing to buy you dinner for a piece.
I am a little old fashioned where I prefer to pay for the first date and most thereafter.
However, I do acknowledge modern times and will accept a women splitting the first date if she insists. Maybe offer to be a modern woman and start asking guys out dutch.
Good luck
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| 9/12/2011 12:15:54 AM |
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bonzibon
Vancouver, WA
58, joined Jul. 2011
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These men are on here to chat not date!
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| 10/14/2011 1:38:02 PM |
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saucey84
Visalia, CA
33, joined Aug. 2011
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Every guy i met on here does not go on dates ..atleast not with me . They always say meet me at my place to hang out or i invite them to mine. Is it the guy i go for ?or is it me ? Am i not dateable i dunno WTF ?!
omg, ur soooo right, im with u on that one! seems like guys dont like to date a bit before taking it to the nxt level. but u kno wat i think its all these easy hoes that make them like that. no offense b*tches just keepin it real! lol
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| 10/14/2011 1:48:32 PM |
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saucey84
Visalia, CA
33, joined Aug. 2011
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yes its the guys you go for. the ones that you ignore are the ones that will respect you like a queen and understand that the first few dates should be at a neutral location
thank u for that, ur right! a true gentleman will respect u & be patient
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| 10/14/2011 4:55:56 PM |
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cmart1234
Schertz, TX
25, joined Apr. 2011
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| 10/19/2011 10:37:54 PM |
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problem121
Bakersfield, CA
31, joined Aug. 2011
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why any guy you just met will take you on a date? who the hell are you to him? Just a stranger. So instead of b*tching, how about you ask him if he wants to go get coffee or eat, and you'll pay your share?
some girls on here just like to go on dates to get free food.
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| 10/22/2011 8:03:50 PM |
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tankerfa
Saint Johnsbury, VT
59, joined Dec. 2009
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shes nice looking.today you got to "let the right one know". Youll have to ask another women how but usually man would be to forward if hes not a druugy but still interested
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| 10/23/2011 8:35:58 AM |
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teensyfun
West Islip, NY
58, joined Feb. 2011
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I have found that most gentleman on here take the site name literally! We all have desires but come on what ever happened to appetizers? or Better yet they have no interest in meeting anyone, just on the site to play.
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| 10/29/2011 9:53:21 PM |
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geni200
Houston, TX
38, joined Sep. 2011
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great advice j
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| 10/29/2011 10:07:36 PM |
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keepalowprofile
Moose Lake, MN
54, joined Jul. 2010
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Try to date outside the Ghetto.
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| 10/29/2011 11:10:44 PM |
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glisteningsun33
Richmond, KY
39, joined Aug. 2011
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I get a lot of the same nonsense...'come to my place we'll hang out'...'I can come over there baby, we can chill'... No thank you. I want to go out and have dinner, take in a movie... and no man has to pay MY way. Guess what....I got over it...I'm putting on the red dress and taking myself out to a nice birthday dinner in a few weeks.... I don't have to have a man to go out. I've been known to catch a movie all alone too! I'm not afraid of my own company. Besides, guys today want the woman to buy his ticket, dinner and open the doors for him! I didn't burn my bra!
Ladies, don't be too proud to fulfill your own desires...
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| 10/30/2011 10:03:49 AM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
69, joined Mar. 2008
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I dont think its me..i dont think they take any girls out on dates. Its the guys i chose..Ive done both Ok with the first guy we were talking..I liked him and yeah he did talk to me about having sex and I agreed to it ...ugh At the time I just thought yeah we'll have sex and it'll develop into something more later...HUGE HUGE HUGEEEE mistake. I instantly became the sex buddy . I got tired of it and changed my number . Sex without love is just dirty to me...I felt nasty both times!
The second guy was always a loser but we were friends for months before we met so i invited him to my place.We never talked about sex at all...but once he got here he made it obvious thats what he wanted. He kept staring at my tits and a** all night and I was horny so i said f**k it .I actually wanted to have sex on both occasions so i cant really blame the guys but thank God he wasnt a psycho but he couldve been. I wouldnt do that ever again though .
I have to stop having sex so quickly it ruins things!
Ya think?????
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| 10/30/2011 1:03:45 PM |
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surraugeny
Lufkin, TX
38, joined Mar. 2011
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Set standards. The guy cannot do more to you than you allow him to. When they want to meet, you make sure they spend money on you. Keep learning from your mistakes and listen to the sound advice given.
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| 10/30/2011 7:05:04 PM |
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ericjasonp
Chalfont, PA
52, joined Feb. 2011
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No. Always good to meet for coffee first. If there is any chemistry, then go on a real date.
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