| 8/23/2011 8:35:57 AM |
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jess141
Rockville, MD
age: 23
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i feel like this guy that i have been talking to/dating is trying to get with other girls and talking to other girls. however he wants to go exclusive with me and is saying that he's smitten and head over heels for me yet he goes out with other girls. why?
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| 8/23/2011 8:37:48 AM |
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jtech123
Elkwood, VA
age: 19
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7 out of 10 girls are like that also though ???
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| 8/23/2011 8:38:03 AM |
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goodman4sum1
Reading, PA
age: 43
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Because you don't know how to pick the right guy.
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| 8/23/2011 8:41:14 AM |
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hybriddate
Los Angeles, CA
age: 28
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Lol..
I kinda like what this article says.. so I'll refer it to you to read.
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0IBX/is_1_10/ai_106059247/
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| 8/23/2011 8:43:01 AM |
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marias3girls
Springfield, MA
age: 33
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Because you don't know how to pick the right guy.
 don't generalize! NOT all guys are players... More are NOT!
[Edited 8/23/2011 8:43:32 AM ]
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| 8/23/2011 8:45:23 AM |
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debi1964
Riverhead, NY
age: 47
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Because some guys if not most usually use the lower head as a role model.  it sounds to me like he's just keeping you around incase something better comes along.  run girl run!
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| 8/23/2011 8:49:08 AM |
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jess141
Rockville, MD
age: 23
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right but he wants to go exclusive.
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| 8/23/2011 8:49:19 AM |
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oneforyouonly
Sylvester, GA
age: 23
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don't generalize! NOT all guys are players... More are NOT!
thank you! were not all players. i think the op just needs to see that there are guys out there who actually care about the feelings and love.
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| 8/23/2011 8:55:02 AM |
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debi1964
Riverhead, NY
age: 47
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right but he wants to go exclusive.
. But he's seeing other girls. Ok yeah he wants exclusive rights to YOU, but he can run around like an un-neutered dog. No sweets, that's not a keeper. Like I said, "RUN"!!!! 
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| 8/23/2011 8:55:43 AM |
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jess141
Rockville, MD
age: 23
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yikes.
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| 8/23/2011 9:07:44 AM |
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jess141
Rockville, MD
age: 23
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everyone is a player in there own little way.
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| 8/23/2011 9:12:21 AM |
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7inchdom
Chattanooga, TN
age: 36
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If he wanted to be exclusive then he would not be dating other girls!
Have you done anything to stand your ground about being exclusive?
Dont be upset with the player if you're the cheerleader!
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| 8/23/2011 9:14:01 AM |
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oneforyouonly
Sylvester, GA
age: 23
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everyone is a player in there own little way.
ok if "everyone" is, then why did you specify men then? cause i know more females who play than dudes. 
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| 8/23/2011 9:15:25 AM |
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jess141
Rockville, MD
age: 23
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alright
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| 8/23/2011 9:16:32 AM |
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veniteadoremus
Baton Rouge, LA
age: 26
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Either talk to him & see what he has to say.
Or..
Move on.
My vote? Move on.
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| 8/23/2011 9:17:17 AM |
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oneforyouonly
Sylvester, GA
age: 23
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just saying though. it seems like, in my experiences, the harder i try to please women, the more i get played.
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| 8/23/2011 9:17:26 AM |
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jess141
Rockville, MD
age: 23
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Either talk to him & see what he has to say.
Or..
Move on.
My vote? Move on.
whys that
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| 8/23/2011 9:22:48 AM |
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scoot85
Pauls Valley, OK
age: 26
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right but he wants to go exclusive.
Actions speak louder than words...js
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| 8/23/2011 9:23:47 AM |
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jess141
Rockville, MD
age: 23
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yeaaahhh idkk
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| 8/23/2011 9:27:38 AM |
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claudius5
Petaluma, CA
age: 61
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Either talk to him & see what he has to say.
Or..
Move on.
My vote? Move on.
Good advice. If you had done this from the beginning, then you would probably not posted this thread.
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| 8/23/2011 9:31:52 AM |
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smiley1960x
East Aurora, NY
age: 51
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So you imagine something and you want to know why it's true for everybody? How about you step back two, and figure out "if" before you start in with the drama.
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| 8/23/2011 10:02:57 AM |
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fun2bchattin
Hedgesville, WV
age: 44
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There are tons of great guys out there. Dump the one you have and go get one.
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| 8/23/2011 11:49:10 AM |
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treyp25
Abingdon, MD
age: 22
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HONESTLY FEMALES ARE EQUALLY THE SAME AS GUYS BUT THEY ARE SNEAKIER THEN SOME MEN...
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| 8/23/2011 12:00:08 PM |
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jammil
Valdosta, GA
age: 28
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Considering that you OP are Bi and still possibly look to play while in a relationship by abusing the system thinking that just because you can't get pregnant from a girl having sex with you that that's all cool. Women are the worst players because they most often take services and goods while ripping the hearts out of their victims...
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| 8/23/2011 12:03:13 PM |
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99finesilver
Milwaukee, WI
age: 22
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He's a fool and don't know what he's missing out on if he doesn't date you
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| 8/23/2011 3:17:45 PM |
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tonycash718
Arlington, VA
age: 23
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OP all guys aren't players you gotta figure out who he is while talking to him LOL
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| 8/23/2011 3:22:41 PM |
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nene_enchulao
New York, NY
age: 26
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whys that
WHY ARE YOU SO HARDHEADED?
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| 8/23/2011 3:28:53 PM |
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bluecougareyes
Chelan, WA
age: 67 online now!
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right but he wants to go exclusive.
"" right but he wants to go exclusive ""
Until he no longer needs you !
What people say is one thing !
What they do is another....Only respond to what he dose and pay no attention to what he says or promises.
Find a new guy now... your already wasting your time with a loser... and that exactly what he wants you to do !
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| 8/23/2011 3:29:14 PM |
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75scott
Parker, CO
age: 36
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right but he wants to go exclusive.
How did you answer?
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| 8/23/2011 3:30:19 PM |
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eyelanboi
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 23
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HEY JESS! I say drop the zero and get with the hero! 
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| 8/23/2011 3:31:07 PM |
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neo52
Tallahassee, FL
age: 54
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Jess Dear ,,,your friend has a thread about this same subject ..
Ya might wanna talk with her about the issue ..
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| 8/23/2011 3:56:45 PM |
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jokerzwyld
Saint Paul, MN
age: 44
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BOTH sexes are players  just not all are Dump his ass Stay Single Sister!! 
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| 8/23/2011 4:18:13 PM |
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lll83
Columbia, MD
age: 27
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Guys only players to those who accept it...
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| 8/23/2011 4:21:52 PM |
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epichairday
Durand, WI
age: 46
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everyone is a player in there own little way.
....you've proven yourself many times in your threads and posts and pictures. You're no angel. Nor very intelligent. The answer again is YOU!
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| 8/23/2011 4:25:21 PM |
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bigchief423
South Pittsburg, TN
age: 33
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everyone is a player in there own little way.
Not true. Only those who refuse to grow up, or are not capable of committing... selfish.
[Edited 8/23/2011 4:25:34 PM ]
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| 8/23/2011 4:54:42 PM |
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celebratelife39
Brandon, FL
age: 39
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Yes, both sides can play. Lets move on.
Really, this is a trust and vulnerability issue. We have all been there. We want to believe in the best and put our hearts and trust out there in good faith.
Then, we see new friends pop up on pages or know there's contact occurring while things are exclusive.
So, communicate fears without being judging. I look at it this way, I put myself out there to trust and respect.
If I walk away hurt, atleast II was loyal. They have to know they are lying cheats and will suffer a loss of belief in honesty in themselves.
As for me, I grow in honoring morals and feel better about myself.
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| 8/23/2011 4:58:02 PM |
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countryboy33_33
Ijamsville, MD
age: 19
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well here is a honest response from a real guy and the answer is guys are really dumb and they make us real men look really bad.....
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| 8/23/2011 4:59:15 PM |
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bigchief423
South Pittsburg, TN
age: 33
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well here is a honest response from a real guy and the answer is guys are really dumb and they make us real men look really bad.....
No offense man, but you're 19!
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| 8/23/2011 5:01:31 PM |
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eve37731
Brooklyn, NY
age: 37
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Guys are players because women put up with it. When you see something is wrong your suppose to leave it alone. But most women put up with it and allow themselves to be treated any type of way. If he is playing you but wants you to be exclusive let him know that it goes both ways and if he does it anyway dump him. If you don't he's going to play you in the whole relationship. Your choice hurt a little bit now or fall in love and hurt a lot later.
[Edited 8/23/2011 5:03:36 PM ]
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| 8/23/2011 5:02:41 PM |
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hatari78
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 32
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No that you know the truth, the word "EXCLUSITY" is no longer moot
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| 8/23/2011 5:40:47 PM |
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vanir
Victoria
Australia
age: 41
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I resent this thread. My 14th level drow elven fightermage doesn't play.
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| 8/23/2011 6:29:41 PM |
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wjp5664
Fort Myer, VA
age: 24
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So I believe that I'm the guy being discussed here in this very thread, at least I think it is or this whole topic would be hypocritical by default. I have remained silent for the past few hours since I discovered this, as I wanted to see how things played out. I feel that I need to set the record straight. Now she may want to play all innocent, but honestly she has been talking to other guys the whole time we have been talking. She has serious trust issues because she assumes everyone is lying to her. We have been talking for over 2 months now and we stopped talking for a week due to her lack of trust in me. I have done nothing but be there for her every step of the way but unfortunately she seems bound and determined to be the victim in some conspiracy. Now don't get me wrong she is an amazing woman with a good heart but she has a number of issues she needs to workout. As you can see my account has been set to invisible, but hers has been active this whole time. During our week of not speaking, which for me was the end of us talking to begin with because trust is paramount in a functioning relationship, I spoke with a girl twice over those 7 days, while she met a new guy and has been speaking with him until a few days ago(supposedly). I was totally upfront with her about it and told her I would (and did) stop talking to the new girl. Now after begging me to give her another chance saying that she made a mistake she has begun to do the same thing again. Now I wish things had turned out differently but as stated earlier in this thread actions speak louder than words. So now everyone knows that not all guys aren't true to their word, as I know that your word is the one thing only no one but yourself can take away, as taught to me buy my hero and most honorable man, my grandfather. So this topic was started with half truths, as I was smitten and absolutely head over heels for her, but never once have I been unfaithful even in this period before we started to officially date.
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| 8/23/2011 6:41:13 PM |
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60freebird
Atlanta, GA
age: 60
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so did you agree to exclusive? If not, then you ain't exclusive and he's not cutting off his other opportunities.......either accept or quit b*tching!
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| 8/23/2011 7:05:23 PM |
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scruffiegirl
Gainesville, FL
age: 46
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Some studies have shown that the human animal just like many other species are not to be monogamous.
Some times its learned behavior other times its just a choice.
If he really liked you he would not want any one else.
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| 8/23/2011 7:13:51 PM |
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ab_grind_av
Orlando, FL
age: 24
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most men in our generation are screwed babe. They have no discipline. Women let them have what they want so they go do what they want. If you want to have a successful dating future, draw the damn line and tell him to f**k off. Have REAL standards. Dont just simply say,"well at least I'm not doing "such n such." You'll never make a thread like this again, I promise.
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| 8/23/2011 7:21:29 PM |
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wjp5664
Fort Myer, VA
age: 24
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Does anyone even read a few of the other posts before they say something?
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| 8/23/2011 7:32:34 PM |
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elle30
Houston, TX
age: 30
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It maybe b/c you allow it and are there when he wants you to be. It may sound cliche but ur a cute girl and shouldnt tolerate that. Goodluck honey.
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| 8/23/2011 8:04:19 PM |
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millyx22
Suffolk, VA
age: 22
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If anything a female is more of a player than a guy
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| 8/23/2011 8:35:00 PM |
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kriszaba
Washington, DC
age: 19
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Cause human beings are animals.
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| 8/23/2011 8:35:10 PM |
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reeve2005
Fremont, NE
age: 36
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If he is a player then let him play! Just remember he is not your kid so you don't have to stay around and watch!
Stay beautiful
Stan
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| 8/23/2011 8:44:00 PM |
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babetheonlyone
Yakima, WA
age: 37
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Its not that guys are players its that there are to many people who are just out for one thing. ( that goes for both sexes) And they will say and do anything to get it. Ive been with alot of guys who in the end turned out to be nothing but players. A couple of them actually told me they were single when they were actually married. One even told me that the only reason he was with his wife was cause he didnt want to lose seeing his kids. Really he was just out for himself. I told him to take a hike I dont mess with guys who are married or have a girlfriend. Of course to this day he thinks he still misses me. What a bunch of bull! O he also lied to his mom about how he knew me.
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| 8/23/2011 8:49:08 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
age: 49 online now!
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8. Shoes on and you’re ready for the day.
No thanks necessary OP
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| 8/23/2011 10:40:33 PM |
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strpsearch99
Independence, KY
age: 31
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don't generalize! NOT all guys are players... More are NOT!
oou look great for 81. 
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| 8/23/2011 10:41:42 PM |
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purdibird
Nice
France
age: 75
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because it's all a fukn' game....
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| 8/24/2011 1:47:24 AM |
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trialanderror86
Clear Spring, MD
age: 24
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i wish i was able to do something about the "playing" that goes on. Men just as much as women are to blame. Men were probablythe first ones to do it but in todays society, both sexes are at fault. It pathetic because its always the actual good men and women who clean up the mess as friends. Than that person goes back to the same situation with someone different. Or even the same person. Figure out how you want your life to be and than figure out who would be the best to help make it a reality, never settle for less. Thats why i have been single for 3 years. I know what i want and will not let just anyone in my life
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| 8/24/2011 1:50:28 AM |
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bbw47reader
Frederick, MD
age: 49
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You're pissed because he's not exclusive before you go exclusive?
Am I missing something?
[Edited 8/24/2011 1:50:43 AM ]
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| 8/24/2011 2:21:20 AM |
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northphxhiker
Phoenix, AZ
age: 49
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its you dear, you can't pick them 
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| 8/24/2011 7:48:37 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
age: 56 online now!
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Op...it would have been nice to hear examples. For all we know...you told him, your not ready for that...
details are so nice.
Either way, not all men are like that, not all women are saints.
Why? ...just seek what you want, and understand there are pitfalls along the way, learn from them, don't let them ruin your outlook on life and people, or soon, you will be the problem of failure.
Right now at this young age, you think all men are the same...thats called being tainted, anyone tainted should be avoided at all cost.
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| 8/24/2011 7:59:37 AM |
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lovetosmile57
Cincinnati, OH
age: 54
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I must have missed something too, OP have you said yes about being exclusive or are you leading him on?
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| 8/24/2011 11:04:19 AM |
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cuddlyguy77
Kent, WA
age: 34
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wip or wjp, can't tell really,If you are the guy in this equation, I'll give you some advice. RUN!
Her issues, her insecurities will cause you to lose jobs with her calling constantly to check up on you, drive off freinds and family. She may get something in hwer head and try to stab or shoot you cause in her mind you did something to deserve it.
What she needs, going by her other threads, is NOT A DATE but an appointment to see a phsychiatrist or Phsycologist to work on her issues.
To the OP, until you BOTH say "I want to date ONLY you" then you are not exclusive and he is free to date ANYONE he wishes, same for you. So have you and he both said " I only want to date you"?
[Edited 8/24/2011 11:05:49 AM ]
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