I have always tried to be polite and kind and answer any and all messages I receive, as well as have initiated a lot of messages (always polite). I have been disappointed several times in the answers I've gotten and in the profiles I read (what there IS to read). It isn't all roses here, ladies.

No pictures (basic attraction is still a fact of life and there is indeed a lid for every kettle, so relax and post that picture you are so afraid of--you want to see us, don't you? Turnabout is fair play), outdated pictures (this was you when you graduated high school twenty-five years ago, right? Anything more recent?), negative profile info ("I will NOT date a man who has a mustache or has ever considered one or knows anyone who does!" --okay, that was a slight exaggeration, but I wouldn't text a b*tchy woman who gives a first impression like that).

Tell us something ABOUT your interests, skills, aptitudes, interests. What makes you tick? What makes you YOU? Why are you unique? Give us guys some starting point, okay?

On my profile, I told who I am, what makes me tick, what I'm looking for and a lot more. A woman can feel she knows me somewhat once she's read my profile (and I had to edit to make it in less than the allotted 5,000 words at that.) I was open, honest and showed humor as well as sincerity and seriousness. I showed that I will never be a bore to the woman who sees me for who I am. I will make her laugh everyday and tell her of my love and devotion everyday. Ladies, that is what you want, isn't it? A man who can communicate, make you laugh, will cry with you, watch your chick flicks at times, cook with you or for you and will admit when he's wrong? And you keep asking where all the good men are...we are here, but you have to trust, just one more time!

I'm not a long time member here and was about to give up and think that most of the women were duds who couldn't see beyond the artificial age limit they'd set for themselves. And then I found a few good women who were willing to chat online, text via cell phone and know they could be safe in letting their hair down for a nice man. We aren't all players, but I have been surprised by how cold many of you ladies are--maybe you have players, too, amongst you?

Just last night I had an amazing conversation with a special lady here that I want to meet. She managed to fire my imagination, accepted me for who I am (both the naughty and the nice) and managed to melt my crayons in short order. I truly enjoyed myself for the first time in so long. Honesty is where you begin. No games, no wasted time. I ask questions and I will answer any question truthfully. You must be willing to do the same. Don't make us guess, okay? We are not mind readers and we don't think the same way you do, ladies. But we are not all players.

I am a sincere man who loved being married, didn't want a divorce, and is romantic to the core, although imperfect in many things. I don't have a great head of hair or lots of money, but I will make sure you never get bored and you will know you are loved everyday. And when I pleasure you, it will be ALL for you and you will be spoiled for any other man, ever again, because that is how much I love, when I love, who I love.

There, ladies, Now YOU go tell us something about YOU in your profiles and maybe there will be more fires lit here in the days to come. Wouldn't that be nice?

Steven