| 4/15/2008 9:25:03 AM |
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southernbo62
Edmonton, AB
age: 45
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let me get this str8 a message that has beenaround for yrs hurt his tender feeling oh
no him needs a sugar tit
baby girl i love your ablity to go on like that way togo and pls dont change 
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| 4/15/2008 9:31:07 AM |
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ptriley
Staten Island, NY
age: 47
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It's just a message.He's looking way to far into it.Maybe he's not getting a clear message!JMO
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| 4/15/2008 2:08:23 PM |
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roket
Casa Grande, AZ
age: 51 online now!
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You actually raised some serious issues with the cute message and then your discussion post here. You said he was controlling. But if you two were together then at some point you tolerated his controlling ways. I am guessing you actually gave up an inordinate amount of autonomy. A healthy relationship is not co-dependent. It is however INTER-dependent, co-operative. If there was the "controlling" you say then the INTER dependency was lost. If it ever really existed. In doing so you nurtured habit patterns with him that probably weren't healthy. You would have given up a certain autonomy (I mentioned before) and decision making privileges and even rights.
So here is your gift from me. Don't worry about what I or anyone thinks of that message. It is YOUR message. YOU decide. You wanna keep it. Keep it. You want to change it. Change it.
Practice being autonomous and when you meet that next great love, you will be able to share interdependency. I think you will love that. It's filling and sexy and fulfilling and satisfying and makes the heart flutter in a way you will NEVER grow tired of.
IMHO
[Edited 4/15/2008 2:09:54 PM]
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| 4/15/2008 2:27:38 PM |
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liberty2choose
Intervale, NH
age: 37
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Thought that was great...just wish I had thought of it.
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| 4/15/2008 4:46:09 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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I'd say: "debi- you're ex is a control freak and a master at manipulating you to suit his pleasures. Joke him if he can't take a f*ck!"
Move on and leave the message on YOUR phone - to be YOUR choice.
Or change your number - lol!
That will really piss him off!
By the way - I DO like the entire concept behind your message...I think that's WAY cool.
Wish I had thought of it myself a few times in life...
and it certainly seems easier than phoning and saying "hey, I know we've been friends for 10 months but I don't think I want to call you back any more....."
Those long drawn out good byes can be so...tedious!
Sweet!
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| 4/15/2008 8:26:20 PM |
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debi01
Pasco, WA
age: 49
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Thanks roket, I have been working on being more autonomous since our 1st split, which lasted 18 months. Also think that is why, when we tried again for 5 months, that it just was not working. Thanks again 4 words of encouragement !
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| 4/15/2008 8:43:52 PM |
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debi01
Pasco, WA
age: 49
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Gonesailing Thank you for your comments!!
You hit it on the head with your control and manipulating comments!
We were together for 29 years and married for 23+ of those years.
Sometimes I have to stop and realize I am not the person he thinks I am or the person he
wants me to be. I am just me without his consent!!!!! Living my life for me the way I
want!!!  
So much happier than I have been in a very loooooooooong time!
My phone message will stay as it is until I am ready to change it!!
Thanks again for your comments!
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| 4/15/2008 8:56:20 PM |
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proracer1
El Cajon, CA
age: 28
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That message is a piece of work, don't get rid of it, till he moves on.
Best of Luck,
pR 
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| 4/15/2008 9:02:34 PM |
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blackiris026
Idaho Falls, ID
age: 25
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definitely keep it. its his loss not yours. if he doesn't like it then he can not call you
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| 4/15/2008 9:09:04 PM |
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bfstx
Hunker, PA
age: 32
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is it that big of a deal to change it n did you put it there to be funny at his expense and if you have children together you two are always going to have a relationship of some sort together so why not try its just a answering machine ask him to record the message for your machine and see what he would say himself about the situation the others only luagh because most people find humor in other peoples pain instead of makeing changes intheir own lives
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| 4/16/2008 4:56:33 AM |
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debi01
Pasco, WA
age: 49
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bfstx, I put the message on cause I thought it was cute!
We have 2 kids together, and when the time comes that we both need to be present for our kids I will be friendly towards him. Will he do the same or continue to throw fits because he has no control and is unable to manipulate us anymore. I believe this is just another one of his fits, trying to do as he has always done. In the past I would do what he asked, easier than putting up with the fits and being ignored. But, I have changed and want what I want for me, don't care what he thinks.
But thanks for the comments
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