shellykate
Duluth, GA
age: 23
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I really think it's silly to say that one gender is less likely to commit than another. I know just as many girls who refuse to commit as I do guys. It has everything to do with the place in your life you are. Those who are afraid to commit to loving someone else haven't really committed to loving themselves.
Personally, I think it seems like more men are afraid to commit because women (and I include myself in this category at times) are more likely to b*tch about the lack of commitment from the men in our lives. In society, it is much more socially acceptable for a woman to complain about the lack of commitment than for a man to do so.
As you can see from this thread alone, there ARE men out there who want to commit. You just need to find someone who is in the same mindset as you.
As for why women go after the "bad guy," it's the same reason men go after the "b*tch." We all want what is least attainable until we realize that the least attainable isn't always the most fulfilling. Getting to the place where you realize this isn't easy, but when you figure out what real love is all about, your heart is more open to it and you'll begin to attract the right type of people.
And yes, I realize that I am still single, and this would seem to disprove my theory, but I've just started to acknowledge my own self-worth, both in and out of relationships. I know that there is someone who is willing to commit to me and who will not only be my partner in love, but my partner in life and belief. All I've got to do now is be patient. Love comes when we least expect it, and often in the last place we'd think.
And Kumo, kudos to you for saying what I've been dying to say on here since I joined. Ignorance is the most unattractive thing in a person.
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