| 4/29/2008 6:11:00 PM |
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deniceo4392
Springdale, AR
50, joined Apr. 2008
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Ok,Be nice and be honest. 
Doesn't it scare  you to date someone who has been married more than once? I mean what happened to being married  and taking the vows seriously, I know that there are circumstances for being divorced I'm living one.  But the thought of dating someone who has done it 2 or more times is a turn off. Thoughts of why they couldn't hold a relationship goes through my mind or maybe they have commitment issues?
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| 4/29/2008 6:20:12 PM |
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hotmomma39
Grant, MI
48, joined Apr. 2008
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You need to find out what happened.....I was married three times, all of them cheated on me....my first ex, the day after I moved out, his g/f moved in, the second one, i moved out on a saturday, that sunday i went to get my things and that night he went home with a woman we worked with, my third, he was just a plain jerk from the day we got married, he left me for a woman who is 23 yrs old with an 8 yr old son and she works in a bar where he met here, go figure. She had the nerve to call me and ask me to take him back!!! He's her problem now!!! So, I am just plain cautious now, look for ALL the signs, everything. It sucks but if you want a relationship, you have to take your chances and go with the flow, and WATCH the signs (if any), of all the negative things you see....... Good Luck to you 
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| 4/29/2008 6:23:46 PM |
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honestinlov4u
Abington, PA
69, joined Apr. 2008
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or maybe they keep marring the same type of person...I have been married three times
1) to young and stupid - my fault for the most part
2) alcoholic - she never showed it till our honeymoon cruise over new years - asked for a drink and was drunk from then on....
3) a needy person with major issues - was sexually abused by adopted dad and physically my adopted mother - thought I could help.
Last two I do not consider my fault. First one I consider myself mainly responsible...
So what is the reason and YOUR take on it OP??
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| 4/29/2008 6:24:45 PM |
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onelife2live
Janesville, WI
53, joined Feb. 2008
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Twice for me...sorry for the turn off...
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| 4/29/2008 6:30:47 PM |
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tfortexas
Big Sandy, TX
65, joined Feb. 2008
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You know what they say...The third times charm
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| 4/29/2008 6:32:52 PM |
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tara7c
Westerville, OH
59, joined Mar. 2008
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I feel that it's more important to discuss with the person what happened in the relationships and what they learned from each marriage...rather than merely focusing on the number of times married. You can learn alot about a person by discussing this topic...and often, you can see attitudes emerge that are not desirable OR perhaps they can express mistakes they made...that they acknowledge and regret and do not want to repeat.
I would be more interested in someone who had been married two or three times if the reasons for divorce were understandable (they were abused or cheated on for example)...more than someone who had been married once...but the reason they divorced was because THEY cheated or abused. 
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| 4/29/2008 6:34:07 PM |
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collegekidunot
Winnsboro, LA
57, joined Feb. 2008
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never been down that road. dated a guy who was 8 yrs. younger than me. his first two wives left him due to the fact he would not hold down a job and was a free loader. love is blind, deaf and dumb! i'll never trust anyone as long as i live!
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| 4/29/2008 6:42:23 PM |
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l2kids44
Lanesville, IN
54, joined Nov. 2007
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It really does depend on the circumstance. I suppose I'd be leary, but as someone stated earlier, third times a charm
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| 4/29/2008 6:44:26 PM |
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onelife2live
Janesville, WI
53, joined Feb. 2008
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Who says that person you might date is divorced twice because of their choice...non-judgemental here...jmo
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| 4/29/2008 6:52:38 PM |
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grobs
New Braunfels, TX
47, joined Mar. 2008
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I'd would hope that they learned something from the past marital experience. Take your time to get to know the person.
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| 4/29/2008 7:02:20 PM |
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thebestman
Atlanta, GA
43, joined Dec. 2006
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I prefer to date someone who's been married twice than a pretty woman
who's never been married in her late thirties without any kids RUNNNNNN.
If she has never been married without kids and looks pretty, there are some skeletons. Who wouldn't marry a good woman that looks pretty. Again, she has to be a good woman.
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| 4/29/2008 7:08:09 PM |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
62, joined Jul. 2007
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well why not??? gees..things happen in life that we aren't always in contol of ..could be misplaced trust, poor choice in mate, health or drug issues...never judge someone till you've walked in their shoes..JMO
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| 4/29/2008 7:09:13 PM |
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thumper1264
Mount Vernon, IA
52, joined Feb. 2008
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Been there done that....... Would hope that it wouldn't be held against me, it takes two to make it and two to break it!
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| 4/29/2008 7:19:44 PM |
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a_keeper
Elizabethtown, KY
52, joined Aug. 2007
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I have been married twice and its like this everybody makes mistakes. My first marriage I was to young and wanting to get away from my mom and dad!! Thats why I have been taking it slower this time. I might have some issues with wondering why some people have never married and being in their 30's and 40's etc. jmo
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| 4/29/2008 7:36:15 PM |
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noredneckhere
Knoxville, TN
57, joined Apr. 2008
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They aren't married in their 20's and 30's 'cuz they didn't make dumb mistakes
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| 4/29/2008 7:46:55 PM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
46, joined Apr. 2007
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the past is just that.im thinkin,maybe they learned from their mistakes.but each situation is different.maybe they're trading up? what's wrong with that
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| 4/29/2008 7:49:40 PM |
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misssmatch
Cleveland, TN
60, joined Mar. 2008
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we all make mistakes, use poor judgment, etc...we do what we think is right at the time...i have met some very good people who have been divorced more than once..i'm one of them 
how can you post someone's private email content? isnt that wrong?? sheesh...i hate when people do that..
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| 4/29/2008 7:58:42 PM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
46, joined Apr. 2007
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i agree......thats kinda private.there are other ways of getting a point across.use them!
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| 4/29/2008 7:58:54 PM |
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pichick712
Aston, PA
59, joined Jan. 2008
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I've been married twice, both husbands were abusive. I am not sure I will get married again, there is no need to but it doesn't diminish me as a person. It should not diminish the man either.
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| 4/29/2008 8:14:21 PM |
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kenny_aust
Queensland
Australia
74, joined Apr. 2008
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Nothing wrong with it at all
We are all humans and will continue to make mistakes
Keep trying just maybe the right partner will come along
I believe,we should part as friends ,never forgetting the love we once shared
You might think you are the Apple of everyones eye,but not everybody likes Apples, some prefer peaches or even Broccoli...lol
You Go Girl and give it your best shot
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| 4/29/2008 8:16:45 PM |
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dreamweaver68
Cape Coral, FL
49, joined Apr. 2008
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Hi there
My name is Sheryl and I am new on hear. I was married for 18 years at the age of 19. I have been divorced for 3 years. My ex decided to go with a 19 year old. He was 43 at the time. I believe things happen for a reason. I would not mind dating someone who was married twice already. Just be careful before you become number 3. Take your time and don't rush it. I believe that life has someone for everybody. It is just a matter of time when you will find the person that makes you happy.
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| 4/29/2008 8:22:24 PM |
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hotmomma39
Grant, MI
48, joined Apr. 2008
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when i was married to him, i had one job and that didn't make him happy, he wanted me to have no job, so i had no job, that didn't make him happy either. he wanted his freedom and he was controlling. his last marriage (with kids, his own kids) i found out he broke her jaw and smashed a beer can in her face. he was controlling and very verbally and mentally abusive. So, to answer your question, i am not the one who is controlling, he was, i stayed for 1 1/2 yrs to make it work, a waste of my time.
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| 4/29/2008 8:23:05 PM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
46, joined Apr. 2007
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Hey Wiley guy stop brown nosing I can do what I want when I want so shove it where the sone doesnt shine!!! Your opinion doesnt mean doodlie!!!
brown nosing? am i missing something
everybody's opinion means something,whether you like it or not.you wouldn't post unless it was so...would you?i believed you already made your point.it doesn't mean anybody is going to agree with you........no matter what you post.i still say it's tacky to post th email since it had little bearing on the outcome.your post was simply marked at 1 person.
as far as your statement.......you can do what you want when you want.i thik we've all heard that before!
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| 4/29/2008 8:27:07 PM |
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datdardood
Murray, KY
55, joined Mar. 2008
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ok I know this is out of place and to those that are bothered by it I am sorry but I just gotta say this. THERE IS NO REASON FOR INFEDELITY! NONE, NADDA, ZILCH! If your heading that way in your mind then you need to get out of RELATIONSHIP you already in first!
YOU OWE THAT TO SOMEONE!
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| 4/29/2008 8:27:50 PM |
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hotmomma39
Grant, MI
48, joined Apr. 2008
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thank you for sticking up with me, someone needs to turn that a**hole in............
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| 4/29/2008 9:03:02 PM |
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quick2wit
Port Saint Lucie, FL
50, joined Apr. 2008
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things happens to people to grow apart. ihave married twice. one we got married young and just grew apart, the second one abusive. i did not have committing problems or issues. just the wrong people at the wrong rime. my first i was married 8 years and the second 14 years we tried.
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| 4/29/2008 9:05:18 PM |
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tlc4u46
Santa Barbara, CA
56, joined Jan. 2008
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Third times a charm?
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| 4/29/2008 9:12:50 PM |
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cajunmister
Kinder, LA
67, joined May. 2007
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Probably no third time. I have a unique effect on women; that I've married or just date for a while. They get fat and go nuts. Wish that was exageration!!! You have to know us to understand. No never cheated tho had the offerings.
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| 4/29/2008 9:14:05 PM |
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cutiered_07
Forest City, NC
68, joined Aug. 2007
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Mistakes happen, dont judge someone unless you have walked in their shoes.......Now if we are talking 3 or 4th time, thats something to consider..Problem some were, need to check it out...
It takes two to hold a relationship together, cant dance by yourself....
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| 4/29/2008 9:15:42 PM |
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57rickie
Sioux Falls, SD
66, joined Dec. 2007
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3 here, and all were Cheaters. Don't go lumping everybody into your Cesspool. Some of us did take our Marriage Vows to Heart
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| 4/29/2008 9:21:35 PM |
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deniceo4392
Springdale, AR
50, joined Apr. 2008
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WoW, I can't believe the response to this question, Thanks you all I will definitely take all of your advice into consideration, I liked Sheryl's response. I have a biblical stand point to this I came from a very Christian up bringing and completely saved myself for the one I married, He divorced me after 14 years and didn't ask for a divorce nor believed in a divorce What can I say he found younger to be better. To each to there own. I however just took the vows very serious The whole For better or worse, in sickness and health until death did us part. I am just courious is there any one out there with those same values? I think today's society is messed up with thinking that "Why not marry if it doesn't work out we can act like teenagers and just Divorce aka Break up is what we called it in High School. I do know that there are reasons for divorce some for real reasons and other because they can't take marriage for what it was meant to be "COMMITMENT" I'm not here to judge anyone on them divorcing I just need to know that there are a few people with the same morals as me who has had there vows distroyed not by there choice but because they married someone who decieved them?
Thanks, for taking the time to help a lady Just understand
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| 4/29/2008 9:25:15 PM |
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begoodgirl
Spokane, WA
57, joined Apr. 2008
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Scares me more to date someone who's over 40 and NEVER been married.
But yes, it is a cautionary thing when someone has married more than once....
It's even more cautionary when they have married once or twice, had a couple kids out of wedlock by other people, lived with someone for a number of years....can you say "uh, get a clue?"
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| 4/29/2008 9:32:39 PM |
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blueyedbobbie
Poultney, VT
46, joined Feb. 2008
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considering i have been there done that; there is no problem with it for me. i don't judge people for things that happen out of our control. i don't think any of us that have been married and divorced whether it be once or twice go into it planning to divorce.
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| 4/29/2008 9:33:12 PM |
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collegekidunot
Winnsboro, LA
57, joined Feb. 2008
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i'm 48 and never married, been engaged, but i caught there sorry a** cheating. i treated them good, turn my back and i caught one in bed with a female bartender. been doing that ever since we've been together. i have no skelentons in my closet, upfront and honest. i rather make a career out of college than make a career of marriage! jmvho
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| 4/29/2008 9:50:04 PM |
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nicksterdemus
Bastelica
France
57, joined Oct. 2007
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)
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| 4/29/2008 9:53:19 PM |
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belladreams
Binghamton, NY
47, joined Jan. 2007
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Oh who cares, lets reverse it, Elizabeth Taylor was married eight times,and men didnt seem to care...Diamonds brought her luck, so maybe this site will bring me luck....
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| 4/29/2008 10:04:05 PM |
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cmjanew
Sayre, PA
58, joined Dec. 2007
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What's another hyphen?
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| 4/29/2008 10:08:30 PM |
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forestrose
Calgary, AB
64, joined Dec. 2007
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It happens. I don't think it would phase me if other things are in order.
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| 4/29/2008 10:13:39 PM |
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nicksterdemus
Bastelica
France
57, joined Oct. 2007
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Twice already eh?
Your once, twice, three times a lady...
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| 4/30/2008 1:31:12 AM |
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daddyduck
Splendora, TX
64, joined Dec. 2007
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People learn from their mistakes, what does that have to do with the next person if they've been married before. If you want to talk about difficult, how about the lady who married a man and he passed on. My friend just went through this wonderful lady, and looked like things were gonna go great, but they broke up because she wanted my buddy to fit the shoes left by her husband. It can't happen, you cant replace one person with another.
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| 4/30/2008 1:35:52 AM |
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classyguy333
West Fargo, ND
66, joined Oct. 2007
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Guess I'm not the only one, by the looks of it. I always ask the gal if it makes any difference. I somehow thought it would. Maybe I shouldn't worry so much about it. The first was a liar, and a credit card junkie. The second one died. Wasn't much I could do about that.
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| 4/30/2008 1:39:34 AM |
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kitkat1204
Crawfordsville, IN
58, joined Dec. 2007
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hell, got 3 down so far!
one-abuser
two-cheater
third-cheater and a loser!
wonder if there'll be a 4th?
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| 4/30/2008 1:52:22 AM |
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s83biker
Arvada, CO
57, joined Feb. 2008
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Been married twice myself.
1st - Cheater
2nd - Cheater
Well I heard....3rd times a CHARM?
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| 4/30/2008 1:21:15 PM |
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jaysinsp
Rowlett, TX
45, joined Aug. 2007
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People screw up people grow up Give the guy a chance but Id wait a few years + to walk in the church with him If I was you just to make sure
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| 4/30/2008 1:46:48 PM |
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gr8stwoman
Dingla
Nepal
98, joined Apr. 2007
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For me, it completely depends on the person and the reason(s) they were divorced. Personally, I don't like it when a potential partner won't take any responsibility for failed marriages... It is "public record" that my ex-husband is the epitome of an a** and yet, I'm wise enough to know that he wasn't 100% at fault. I have my faults too and some of those contributed to the fact that I'm divorced!!!
I've learned from my mistakes. I've been married once. My ex-husband was married 3 times and I turned out to be wife #4 (though I was too young/dumb and didn't find out until it was too late). If I were to consider getting married again, I'd make certain I knew the complete story.
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| 4/30/2008 2:28:34 PM |
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stacismom
Midland, MI
56, joined Feb. 2008
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I don't think the number of times you've been married necessarily needs to be viewed as a "bad" thing. I believe that all my exes have contributed something to my life. They have made me who I am today. I thought it was going to be difficult telling my boyfriend that I had been married three times before, but as he said, "It made you who you are today and that's who I love." Thank god for understanding people out there.
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| 4/30/2008 3:21:38 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
54, joined Jan. 2008
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I become more cautious - the more marriages someone has under their belt. I won't lie about that.
But it can also indicate a real optimist and a romantic...
Just depends on the situation, but generally I probably would avoid a relationship with anyone who had been married more than twice...
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| 4/30/2008 3:26:14 PM |
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firstlight
Strasburg, VA
57, joined Feb. 2008
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I have been married twice. The first one for over 15 years, the second for 10. They night not have lasted a lifetime as many of us idealize but it sure seemed like they did.
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| 4/30/2008 3:31:14 PM |
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jewls363
Lincoln, NE
54, joined Jan. 2008
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doesnt matter who ya are,how many times you been married, the fact that you have never been married, 10 kids or no kids, we all have issues and some form of dysfunction goin on whether in our lives or in our minds. When you get into a relationship their dysfunctions become your dysfunctions and visa versa. The question here is "Can you look past that and see them for who they really are?" If you can live with that then what have ya got to lose? Hey its worth a try, but always get the facts and details before making a sound decision
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| 4/30/2008 5:15:07 PM |
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edmondo2
State College, PA
87, joined Oct. 2007
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it depends 0n how long marraige #1 lasted and marraige #2 lasted. if each marriage lasted say ten to twenty years, then there is some stability in that person. fist pray and then take the plunge hoping that marriage #3 is a keeper.
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| 4/30/2008 7:47:41 PM |
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goldpeach
Clarksville, TN
62, joined Apr. 2008
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I have been married three times and i think that you learn from your mistakes or his and try to pick some one for who you really want that really wants you because he could be a liar. or a womanize and reallly want your mama. you dont know. or he could like other things better then you. How many times doesnt matter its the reasons why were divorced. I belive in God and I dont belive in divorce but yet my husbands did. God knows I did try. NO i dont think dating someone who has been married twice has anything to do with dating him/her. If at first you dont succede try and try again. We dont always make the right choices God knows I havent. 
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| 5/1/2008 7:23:18 AM |
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kenb5b01
Northport, WA
53, joined Jan. 2008
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I have been married one time, for 14 years and I would be the first to admit that for the first 4 years after I divorced her, another relationship was the furthest thought from my mind. Had I entered one during that period I likely would have screwed it up because I was distrusting of women and probably would have been a control freak.
I think, at least for myself, I would consider the time span of any previous marriage or marriages and the intervals between them, more than the number.
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| 5/1/2008 11:25:16 AM |
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drumrman
Las Cruces, NM
52, joined Feb. 2008
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i'm old fashion when it comes to this matter.
u know: rock, paper, scissors....GUN!!! (now get out)
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| 5/1/2008 11:31:11 AM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
69, joined Mar. 2008
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I was Wife #3 and believe me when I tell you it was no charm! Sometimes the real person doesn't show up until after the vows are taken. As for me, he was Husband #2, the first one died.
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| 5/1/2008 2:51:48 PM |
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deniceo4392
Springdale, AR
50, joined Apr. 2008
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I like what Drummerman and Ken had to say, THanks Guy's Food for thought
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| 5/1/2008 3:22:59 PM |
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bradonshome
Shelton, WA
54, joined Apr. 2008
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ive been married twice..once for 12 years..he was a jerk..my second husband i was with him for 8 years till he passed away 2 months ago..will there be a third one..well we will see
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| 5/1/2008 3:34:53 PM |
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jaxflorida
Jacksonville, FL
62, joined Feb. 2008
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Another thought:
When you were in High School how many times did you or others you know go steady? I knew several who moved around being steady with different people.
How many times do people get engaged but don't get married? They may even live together for awhile. I've known several like this also.
Being married is a piece of paper. Yes the wedding, reception, honeymoon are great things to experience.
Someone I know at work is getting ready to be married. Others at work are asking her why. They are already married. They say being married becomes an ownership type thing and spoils the relationship.
To answer the question: I don't care how many times the person has been married. What's important is that he's with me and not interested in others.
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