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classicsfan
Charlottetown, PE
age: 51
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Alone - no. With a partner - not for now.
Last fall, I moved in with my parents and I don't see bringing a woman here and I don't see leaving here as long as they need me.
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| 5/2/2008 3:22:04 PM |
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pajaroxxx
Los Angeles, CA
age: 18
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hello i don't plane to be alone. it good have a family it not ganna work if we plane ours life alone it ganna be sad we must look some until we fine some one
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| 5/2/2008 3:34:40 PM |
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29tootsie
Brightwaters, NY
age: 59
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Hmmmm. sounds like the way I feel. How do you counteract a lifetime of being told that when it's time -- the right one will come along. In the supermarket - fixing a pipe in your house, responding to a sad post...whatever - If there is any truth to a purpose for life - wouldn't that be part of it?
I guess not!
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| 5/2/2008 3:37:35 PM |
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onelife2live
Janesville, WI
age: 43
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Do I plan on being alone?...No, but it seems like it is my desitiny....
[Edited 5/2/2008 3:38:10 PM]
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| 5/2/2008 3:38:43 PM |
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magicmanooo7
Pineville, LA
age: 34
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It really doesn't matter to me..lol..but i dont think i will!
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| 5/2/2008 4:11:31 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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Ted - a great deep thinking thread...however I think I want to toss one more factor into the "out of our control" pool that impacts or influences our path and our choices upon it...
We reproduce. It happens. Now some can attest to the failure of modern science in preventing this from occurring but in certain situations - most everything is capable of failing. The result a child comes into the world.
This child - itself- has little ability to make it's own choices, because it at it's young age is controlled by the adults in it's life, as well as by it's own body's conditions. (Here I am referring to someone who is born with out the ability to reealistically say - "I can DO anything, or BE anything or GO anywhere")
Not all people born have all the freedom of choice.
When one becomes a parent, the obligation to be a parent to this life you created becomes real. And, I think, for most - without end.
There are some who would argue or debate that, but for me I then question what type of person that person IS inside.
One does not stop being a parent. Ever.
And sometimes things, in spite of what you hope or dream or wish for - simply cannot be altered.
And then one must evaluate pragmatically what matters MOST to them as an individual.
For myself that's a question of the best parent I can be to a disabled child with out options?
Or a self-centered woman who wishes not to remain alone on her own path.
The choice for me is so easy to make inside my head and my heart.
It's living with that aloneness after accepting that - this is the obstacle and the challenge.
But that's just for me and my situation, and the truth of all you have asked is that each person has to evaluate and then accept that what choice they make may ultimately make them alone on their life path.
At that juncture you pray there's a God who listens and is willing to SEND someone via Fed Ex...or a Dating Site....
or you buy a cat, a dog, or a beta fish
or you buy toys and become a porn addict who talks to themselves...
One does what one must, true?
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| 5/2/2008 4:14:25 PM |
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bry11ca
Wappingers Falls, NY
age: 43
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1 word - HOPE
another less tangible . . . FAITH
Bry 
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| 5/2/2008 4:28:53 PM |
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im_vika
Brooklyn, NY
age: 32
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I don't really plan on being alone...I think I am beginning to be at piece with the thought that it IS a possibility. There is still some hope left that I will find him, or he will find me....At the same time, I know I will not settle for someone simply because "time is running out". I still try to give someone new a fair shot, but the more people I meet, the more discouraged I feel...
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| 5/2/2008 4:31:52 PM |
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soulcrazy
San Clemente, CA
age: 38
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Trust me... he IS out there... its a matter of timing! Vik... I didn't settle either. He is the most wonderful man I have ever known! Your Mr. Right is out there. You will find him when the timing is right!
[Edited 5/2/2008 4:34:35 PM]
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| 5/2/2008 4:32:07 PM |
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goodforfun51
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 53
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My observation regarding the subject is more simple actually! Far too often we equate not having a partner as being alone. There are may fantastic means of filling one's life while there isn't a "counterpart" within our lives.
Can we foresee our destiny? I submit a resounding, NO!!! For the very same reason that we never see a newspaper headline that a prognosticator has won the lottery!
We do however have the means by which to control our destinies by how we go about our lives and who we allow into them. The better they are begats the best within us. Hence, there is never a need to feel that alone is a forever need nor option!
Tis a choice made distinctly between the left and right ears!
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| 5/2/2008 4:35:48 PM |
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im_vika
Brooklyn, NY
age: 32
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Trust me... he IS out there... its a matter of timing! Vik... I didn't settle either. He is the most wonderful man I have ever known! Your Mr. Right is out there. You will find him when the timing is right!
Yeah...that has always been my problem...
Cajun
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| 5/2/2008 4:35:50 PM |
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seetrose
Fremont, NE
age: 35
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No I don't plan on being alone forever. Mr right is out there somewhere, I just need to find him
  
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| 5/2/2008 4:43:29 PM |
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tedric
Anchor Point, AK
age: 67
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I may have screwed up by including the questions at the end of my original post. The principle idea behind this thread is aimed at determining whether something in our past (childhood, or whenever) may have set our minds to accept "failure" in our relationships to the extent that we might subconsciously sabotage our chances. There are many valid reasons some of us live alone ~ Gonesailing's are an example. But, I'm talking about the little and big hurts that cause us to use more caution, which can lead to us not giving our all in a relationship; which, in turn, most often leads to failure. In that respect, are we planning our future to reflect the belief that we are meant to be alone?
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| 5/2/2008 5:09:54 PM |
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tara7c
Westerville, OH
age: 49
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The principle idea behind this thread is aimed at determining whether something in our past (childhood, or whenever) may have set our minds to accept "failure" in our relationships to the extent that we might subconsciously sabotage our chances... But, I'm talking about the little and big hurts that cause us to use more caution, which can lead to us not giving our all in a relationship; which, in turn, most often leads to failure. In that respect, are we planning our future to reflect the belief that we are meant to be alone?
Hi Ted.
I understood what you meant because it was just recently pointed out to me that I sometimes subconciously sabotage relationships...most likely due to a previous bad relationship. I didn't realize that I was even doing that...but have become more aware of it. It's a scary thought that one can do that without being aware of it. Fortunately, I am talking with a very special person on here that had the courage to point it out to me and help me work through some of that. I am thankful that they have been honest with me and understanding...they saw through my unconscious "sabatage" efforts and were honest enough and understanding enough to bring it to my attention so that I can be aware of it and make effort to change it so that I don't subconsciously sabotage relationships.
I definitely don't want to "plan to be alone" because I know that I am not meant to be alone as I have much to bring to a relationship...much to offer.
The better they are begats the best within us
Goodforfun51...I think that's very true. 
Thanks for the thought-provoking thread Ted. 
[Edited 5/2/2008 5:12:33 PM]
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| 5/2/2008 5:13:21 PM |
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justlooking630
West New York, NJ
age: 48
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I don't plan on being alone but I'm not waiting for him to fall out of the sky.. I just got myself a dog instead ! I think you have to create a circle of great friends and see what happens if it happens it's a bonus but only if it the right one !
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