| 5/4/2008 6:17:49 PM |
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mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 43
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I really appreciate that it was very sweet of you to share but in all honesty i am not hurting. I was hurt when he did not think enough to make me a priotrity in the middle of conflict comming at him to simply just touch base...one sentence thats all it would have taken just let me know I am valued and that includes in the midst of your own troubles you do not put people you care about to the way side...like I said if your are in a relationship its not to be done like that...hurting now...no...it stopped as soon as my male freinds reminded me of how I am worth repsect and they are right.if i were like somany women that I know of it would be different then i would not be worth the respect but I am different i love big and even when day1, day,2 day3, passed by my first concern was him I wanted him to know he could resume to freindship mode that I would understand, I wanted to make sure he was comfortable and knew Iwas a person with a big heart and am unselfish and would have no vainty involved with it...but by day4 fear guided my brain and I had stopped thinking with my heart the daily "I will call" and no delivery was just enough to pull away from my heart. It will be foolish should he think with his head here but it will not hurt me. I have dealt with my truth of how I could have handled it differently I have no idea if he has faced his circle of responsibilty but we dont grow as people if why put all the blame on someone else. I am heartful sorry for hurting him. Thats my big concern, I am certain it shocked him. i had talked to two male friends that wensday night who had pretty much told me to not compromise myself and that I am a person of value and some other details about drawing lines of boundaries that set our standards for respect. Thats one of the reasons Iam so dammn selective when dating men, I can find guys who dont put women first everywhere...I want to be a treasure to them as they will be tome...i really thought this was it and what he decides to do here will show me who he is. its as simple as that. I love him regardless of his choice to forgive me for breaking it off and write it off as a miscomunication mishap and get us back to the place we were before he did not call or he will let deceptive perception cloud his vision of the women i have been here along and forget my values of life and focus on the failure...sometime we drop the ball...no big deal you learn and pick the ball back up and put innto action. I will be disappointed in myself as well as him should he not proceed forward with me...him for not being the man I saw him tobe and me for letting my brain do the thinking.
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| 5/4/2008 7:03:08 PM |
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cinnamongirl65
St Catharines, ON
age: 42
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Mindy, even though i don't really kno u i feel a closeness to u as i can relate to ur heart and mind i have a mirror in my bedroom that ilookat everyday as i walkin my room...It is beautiful,gold ornate frame that has etched on it..."Sometimes the heart can see what eye cannot" and how very true that is in so many paths we take in our lives.There is no question in my mind that u kno ur self worth girl ! You are comfortable in ur own skin as u should be...We all get stronger as journeys we take might challenge us by times...There are some who become callous but we are not ,we still feel withour heart ,love with our soul and smile with our eyes...We are truly blessed to be inthe minority and have these qualities that all posess..everyday is a new day with new hope,new dreams and the chance of a new life..keep the faith Mindy..it's right around the corner !!!!
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| 5/4/2008 11:49:34 PM |
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mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 43
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its all good...yeeha!!
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| 5/5/2008 2:48:33 AM |
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cinnamongirl65
St Catharines, ON
age: 42
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Mindy by ur yeehaw does that mean u had contact??? I wish all the best for u girl!!!!
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| 5/6/2008 6:16:20 AM |
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mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 43
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so far its fine...we just have slowed down and thats fine....I am way cool by that....i am glad to just see that he sees sometimes shit just happens and no need for blame, a lot of people fall into that, i think he might of thought thats what I was saying, butit was not...it was not about the days as much as was the thought behind the lack of action...When I problem solve I dont f*ck around with with the bullshit that happened i like to get to the root and pull the weed to prevent it from growing back and taking over
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| 5/6/2008 6:29:43 AM |
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crimson_tide
Florence, AL
age: 32
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I think people like that bring it on themselves. They probably really fall for a girl or guy, then initiate all of the togetherness conversations, I love you's etc etc. Then all of the sudden they feel obligated or trapped like they are already in a deep relationship which they have beefed up in their own mind, and end up running. I'm sure there's a technical term for this situation. 
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| 5/6/2008 1:14:53 PM |
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mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 43
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well not in every case, not in this one but good point....besides its not about feeling trapped its about common respect. i can handle wanting out, no biggy all my ex boyfriends are friends because I always try to makle it comfortable for them to understand being an ex does not mean you cant have some form of relationship and yeah it changes desire goes away no big deal, but respect and value should be practiced at every level even at the level of no longer interested, thats not rocket science... PERSONALLY Imy theory says that when your use to being single your use to just looking out for yourself and there is an adjustment period where you have to relearn what it is to be thoughtful of that other person, its not that tough....you just have to leanr to see how beautiful they are for who they are and give a shit. pretty simple...wow that was harsh....lol ok but see the overall concept care about others and it comes back to you in a good way.
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| 5/6/2008 5:27:18 PM |
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cinnamongirl65
St Catharines, ON
age: 42
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I agree with what u have spoke of Mindy...do what is right for u and time will play it out ..Follow ur heart !You can always talk 2 me anytime..
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