the guy that i was talking to that made me laugh, we have been out on 4 dates now
my husband died of cancer CH is a cancer survivor he understands what i went through he lets me talk about TE, he has seen pics and he talks about his ex. CH treats me as good as my husband did
i don't feel as lonely anymore, i feel happy, and special.

I know the feeling. You r lonely so u try going out. All that happens is u get guys wanting to bed u down. I am at a lost as u are. I ask what happened to a real Christian Men...

It has been a year & 3months since I lost my husband of 41 years. I am more lonely now than ever. I miss most someone just to hold me in two strong arms.

My wife died in May this year. I work from home, so I don't have the opportunity of interacting directly with people during the day unless I have a client meeting somewhere. My strategy for contact is I have supper at a different friend's house one evening a week so I don't wear out my welcome, and I reciprocate. I joined a griefshare group at the local church that has been helpful, and I started yoga to release some of the tension I store in my chest and body from grief. Yoga has been a lifesaver. Not being able to walk out my office and be able to talk to my wife at home has been very, very hard and night times before bed is the worst time of the day. I am just trying to take it one day at a time. Some days are OK. Others, I cry a lot. If I had loved my wife any less, I'd hurt less, but my life would be the poorer for it, so it's a fair exchange. In the grief group I attend, there are several people who have lost spouses and what seems to be the common wisdom is that you have to find a way to live with your pain and being emotionally honest seems to be the key. I've found that not being able to get hugs and the lack of physical contact - the skin hunger - has been the hardest part of being a surviving spouse. It's too soon for me to be able to say if it'll get any easier any time soon, but I think if I hadn't taken the steps I have, I'd be in a much darker place. I wake up in the mornings and just try to have a good day. Some days it happens, some days it doesn't, but I always try to start the day with the goal of having a good day. My wife lived with cancer for a long time, so she believed in living every day to the full because she was never certain when it would return, as it did in the end. It was one of the lessons she taught me and part of why I loved her and I'm trying to put it into practice. I try to be mindful of my day to day activities, even little things, so that they are meaningful, for example, tearing lettuce for a salad. By being mindful of the things I do helps take me out of my head and displaces the grief a little. I find that if I take the time to slow down and am able to derive satisfaction from doing little things mindfully, then all the emotions - loneliness included - that come from loss are easier for me to to bear.