I have wondered at this for years.
What many women never realize is that it doesn't take jumping out of airplanes, hanging off of cliffs, running into burning buildings and chasing bad guys to make a person honest and straight forward. That is something a person either has within them or not.

I would like to point out a couple things that might help you avoid your situation in the future. BEFORE you find yourself sitting and waiting and being strung along; don't date the kind of guy who would rather drunk with his dip-shit friends.

I realize that women tend to go for those 'bad-boy' types rather than the honest, hard working guys, but that in it's self is the problem on both sides of the gender gap. Women insist on turning a blind eye on the straight shooters and migrate to the pansy assed, party animals who treat them like crap, and then blame it on the men because the guys they are dating can't say things like they are, or lie, cheat and manipulate.

If you want to find a guy who is straight forward in all aspects of his life there are a few questions you can ask to determine if he is honest and straight forward or a waste of your time.

1.) Does he own a car?
1a.) If so, does he push it or drive it?
1b.) Are the tires newer than the stereo or speakers?
1c.) Can he change a tire?
2.) Is he employed?
1a.) If so, how long at current employment?
2b.) How long at previous job?
3.) Does he have a bank account? (Amount in the account doesn't matter.)
3a.) Are his bills paid?
3b.) Is there a positive balance in his savings account? (again, amount doesn't matter)
3c.) Is the jewelry he wears worth more than the amount in his bank account?
4.) Where does he live?
4a.) How long has he lived there?
4b.) Does he rent or own? (If he is over 24 and lives with his parents or crashes at a friends place, walk away.)

Now these might seem like questions that all point toward money, but they aren't. The answers to the questions will help determine if the guy has any concept of responsibility and self accountability. The will also assist in determining if the guy spends more of his paycheck on partying and toys to impress women, rather than paying bills and establishing a foundation for the future.

Now most of these questions can be answered through observation and other might take time, but if at first observation the guy portrays himself as the 'bad-boy' type it is unlikely the answers to these questions will prove otherwise.