| 2/25/2013 10:08:36 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
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Is this how the dating thing works? The first 2 dates you meet in public and the third date he invites you over to watch a movie at his place? Is this the new normal?
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| 2/25/2013 10:11:56 AM |
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kit101964
Wautoma, WI
51, joined Jul. 2009
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In his mind, the third date probably equals sex.
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| 2/25/2013 10:13:11 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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In his mind, the third date probably equals sex.
Is this the way guys in general feel about the third date?
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| 2/25/2013 10:15:58 AM |
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yetskimama
Walterboro, SC
65, joined Sep. 2011
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I don't know,did he ask you??? Be careful..
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| 2/25/2013 10:16:39 AM |
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kit101964
Wautoma, WI
51, joined Jul. 2009
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hard to say. I'm not a guy, but when I was dating, I preferred to find out if we were compatible in that way early on in the relationship.
Many of us at our age, have come from sexually dysfunctional marriages/relationships and are looking for overall compatibility. Not just conversation over dinner.
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| 2/25/2013 10:16:48 AM |
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ohdannyboy59
Arlington, TX
56, joined Sep. 2012
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My only rule: There are no rules. I've met women who by the third date, I'd say yes to something like that. And I've met women I would not have asked. Each person is different and each two people together certainly are.
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| 2/25/2013 10:17:15 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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I don't know,did he ask you??? Be careful..
He just said he wants to watch a dvd.So you think I should ask him if he wanted to have sex? Lol
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| 2/25/2013 10:18:43 AM |
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kit101964
Wautoma, WI
51, joined Jul. 2009
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He just said he wants to watch a dvd.So you think I should ask him if he wanted to have sex? Lol
Only if that's what you are looking for? Just beware it could be on his mind when he suggested his place.
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| 2/25/2013 10:20:46 AM |
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onnightwings
Raleigh, NC
53, joined Dec. 2009
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If you are not comfortable w/ that possibility....then say so. Talk to him, not us.
"Sure, sounds like fun. But I should be honest & say that I'm not comfortable being intimate w/ somebody this early on. I'm not sure if that's what you had in mind later on, but it would probably take a bit more time for me to get to that level. Just thought I should be straight w/ you, I hope you aren't offended by my candor...I do enjoy your company."
Pretty simple.
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| 2/25/2013 10:22:30 AM |
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fly0010
Fort Worth, TX
36, joined Sep. 2012
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No one can answer that for you. How did you feel about him , his character from your first 2 dates ? If the compatibility is there then I would suggest go for it .
Even if it leads to bedroom aerobics , what's the big whoop ? It's not a bad thing to want to have sex.
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| 2/25/2013 10:22:40 AM |
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doireelyneedasn
Ann Arbor, MI
28, joined Feb. 2013
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Is this the way guys in general feel about the third date?
I never heard of this "rule" until my most recent ex.. personally, is just go with what you think feels right, and be careful.
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| 2/25/2013 10:25:27 AM |
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1976irishguy
Eastlake, OH
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A lot of women think just because a guy asks you to come over we only have one thing on our minds. I think that's what makes us guys look like the bad guys. If he's really into you then go over and watch a movie. If he tries and you're not ready then speak up. If he gets pissed off or an attitude then I'd walk. But it doesn't mean that's what he wants.
We aren't all the same!!
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| 2/25/2013 10:25:28 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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Just go with your comfort level. Just because you go to his house doesn't mean you have to have sex with him.
If you're not comfortable at any point while being there then just leave (or just decline the watching movie date in the first place and suggest something else).
If he wants to get to know you and not just have sex with you, he'll understand. If not then you know that's all he wants.
Yeah, I guess I could go to his place and leave at any point.And if I leave halfway and he never talks to me again I'll know what's really important to him.
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| 2/25/2013 10:28:15 AM |
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fly0010
Fort Worth, TX
36, joined Sep. 2012
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Is wanting to have sex with your date such a bad thing ????
Like geez 
I feel for the dude and wasted time if you ask me.
Personally I would not want to be with any women that looks at sex that way or have some sort of time tables
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| 2/25/2013 10:28:17 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
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No one can answer that for you. How did you feel about him , his character from your first 2 dates ? If the compatibility is there then I would suggest go for it .
Even if it leads to bedroom aerobics , what's the big whoop ? It's not a bad thing to want to have sex.
What I'm worried about is, is that all he wants. Just sex?
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| 2/25/2013 10:29:48 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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A lot of women think just because a guy asks you to come over we only have one thing on our minds. I think that's what makes us guys look like the bad guys. If he's really into you then go over and watch a movie. If he tries and you're not ready then speak up. If he gets pissed off or an attitude then I'd walk. But it doesn't mean that's what he wants.
We aren't all the same!!
Good advice and wish more guys thought this way.
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| 2/25/2013 10:30:00 AM |
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fly0010
Fort Worth, TX
36, joined Sep. 2012
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If that's the case then don't see him anymore , you have already formed an opinion about him. If you are not willing to give it a fair chance then why even try ?
Sorry Op it's not him , it's you .
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| 2/25/2013 10:30:31 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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Movie and a little 
Make him wait a little longer 
Do you make them wait longer?
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| 2/25/2013 10:30:48 AM |
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cattlenhorses
Duncan, OK
51, joined May. 2012
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Just jerk the rug out!
Tell him NO!
Any date should be ladies choice!
He can scamper back to his crib.
You do have the upper hand, Keep It!
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| 2/25/2013 10:31:07 AM |
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1976irishguy
Eastlake, OH
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Well lets see here's how u tell, if you want to sleep with him and you do then you don't hear from him he just wanted sex once. If you keep seeing him and its all about sex I would ask questions. If he doesn't seem like he is into you for more than just sex then you have you're answer!!
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| 2/25/2013 10:31:28 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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If that's the case then don't see him anymore , you have already formed an opinion about him. If you are not willing to give it a fair chance then why even try ?
Sorry Op it's not him , it's you .
Well I would give him a chance, maybe, I'm thinking about it.
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| 2/25/2013 10:32:34 AM |
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1976irishguy
Eastlake, OH
39, joined Oct. 2012
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You're over thinking to much.!!!
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| 2/25/2013 10:37:03 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
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You're over thinking to much.!!!
Well, that's how I am I'm a thinker
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| 2/25/2013 10:37:43 AM |
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klassy_klown
Bakersfield, CA
47, joined Apr. 2010
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Is this how the dating thing works? The first 2 dates you meet in public and the third date he invites you over to watch a movie at his place? Is this the new normal?
Yes, every couple that dates does exactly this. On the bright side, woo hoo girl, you are gonna get some!
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| 2/25/2013 10:38:15 AM |
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fiery_beauty
Antioch, TN
57, joined Nov. 2010
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from desigal2012:
What I'm worried about is, is that all he wants. Just sex?
Well, there are two ways to find that out. (aside from just asking him because he could lie).
Sleep with him. If he asks you out again and starts dating you, he didn't want just sex.
Don't sleep with him. If he does the same, he didn't want just sex.
Of course, he may still dump you once you finally do sleep with him.
Personally, I wouldn't worry about it. If I'm into the guy, and if I choose to be intimate with him, (or not), it's not going to be contingent on what HE wants out of it, but what I want out of it. And I don't want, nor expect, a relationship with every guy I meet or every guy I may or may not have sex with. I neither use sex as a bargaining tool, nor a threat.
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| 2/25/2013 10:38:21 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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I've had women at my house and cooked for them or watched movies.
Sometimes sex happened, sometimes it didn't. It was never the goal to do such.
I've had women utterly shocked that I didn't attempt to while others basically tackled me to do it. I'm more of a homebody at times (or I was broke, it happens) and enjoy the space of my own at times.
Nice, I guess I should keep an open mind about him.Maybe he is really a nice guy.
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| 2/25/2013 10:38:37 AM |
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settee_m
Dallas, TX
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I would take it as a huge compliment that he felt comfortable enough with you to invite you to his home....it's a good sign he's interested...
You've been on two dates with him, did you get the impression he would force you do something you don't want to do?
I may be naive, but just because a man asks you to come over and watch dvd's at his home on a third date, doesn't mean you are required to have sex with him....
The option is yours to go to his house and indulge in sex, or to just enjoy being in his home...
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| 2/25/2013 10:41:24 AM |
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cali8zice
Albany, NY
51, joined Oct. 2012
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Is this the way guys in general feel about the third date?
You never had a third date?
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| 2/25/2013 10:42:43 AM |
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klassy_klown
Bakersfield, CA
47, joined Apr. 2010
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Is this how the dating thing works? The first 2 dates you meet in public and the third date he invites you over to watch a movie at his place? Is this the new normal?
Yes, every couple that dates does exactly this. On the bright side, woo hoo girl, you are gonna get some!
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| 2/25/2013 10:44:16 AM |
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1darksavior
Far Rockaway, NY
54, joined Mar. 2011
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Is this the way guys in general feel about the third date?
no i like to cook so coming over has not 1 thing to do with your cookies , i just think im a better date at my place or your unless you want to hear me talking about how bad the food is (restaurants suck the food is never good )or how i can cook better , plus some of us men practice safe sex meaning i like to know who i am sleeping with .
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| 2/25/2013 10:44:36 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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Now if you go over there and the movie he wants to watch is porn.....
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| 2/25/2013 10:46:17 AM |
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cali8zice
Albany, NY
51, joined Oct. 2012
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Well, that's how I am I'm a thinker
Please stop
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| 2/25/2013 10:46:54 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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no i like to cook so coming over has not 1 thing to do with your cookies , i just think im a better date at my place or your unless you want to hear me talking about how bad the food is (restaurants suck the food is never good )or how i can cook better , plus some of us men practice safe sex meaning i like to know who i am sleeping with .
It's nice when a man cooks for you and even better if you cook together.
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| 2/25/2013 10:47:30 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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I've actually used being able to cook (and well I might add) to my advantage.
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| 2/25/2013 10:47:37 AM |
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settee_m
Dallas, TX
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I don't think enough is ever said here about the third date....everyone is so caught up in what to expect on the first date...you're right, it's as if they never make it the third...or fourth....or seventeenth....
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| 2/25/2013 10:48:55 AM |
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fly0010
Fort Worth, TX
36, joined Sep. 2012
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I would take it as a huge compliment that he felt comfortable enough with you to invite you to his home....it's a good sign he's interested...
You've been on two dates with him, did you get the impression he would force you do something you don't want to do?
I may be naive, but just because a man asks you to come over and watch dvd's at his home on a third date, doesn't mean you are required to have sex with him....
The option is yours to go to his house and indulge in sex, or to just enjoy being in his home...
That's what I am taking about
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| 2/25/2013 10:49:01 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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I would take it as a huge compliment that he felt comfortable enough with you to invite you to his home....it's a good sign he's interested...
You've been on two dates with him, did you get the impression he would force you do something you don't want to do?
I may be naive, but just because a man asks you to come over and watch dvd's at his home on a third date, doesn't mean you are required to have sex with him....
The option is yours to go to his house and indulge in sex, or to just enjoy being in his home...
No he seemed like a nice man who respected boundaries.I don't think he's the kind of guy who would force me to do something I didn't want to do.
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| 2/25/2013 10:50:00 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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I don't think enough is ever said here about the third date....everyone is so caught up in what to expect on the first date...you're right, it's as if they never make it the third...or fourth....or seventeenth....
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| 2/25/2013 10:55:07 AM |
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settee_m
Dallas, TX
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Obviously, in the back of your mind, and hopefully his, you've thought about having sex with him....
In the privacy of his home, it might be a good idea for you to bring up the subject...discuss how you feel about it, release a little tension, and then enjoy his company....
No one likes a big ole elephant sitting in the living room...it blocks the television..
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| 2/25/2013 10:56:00 AM |
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fly0010
Fort Worth, TX
36, joined Sep. 2012
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Please stop
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| 2/25/2013 10:58:50 AM |
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onnightwings
Raleigh, NC
53, joined Dec. 2009
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In the privacy of his home, it might be a good idea for you to bring up the subject...discuss how you feel about it, release a little tension, and then enjoy his company......
What?
Actually talk to another human being, rather than wallow around in indecision & mixed signals, potentially blowing yet another budding relationship?
That's MADNESS! 
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| 2/25/2013 10:58:54 AM |
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jjay1970
Syracuse, NY
45, joined Oct. 2011
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Is this how the dating thing works? The first 2 dates you meet in public and the third date he invites you over to watch a movie at his place? Is this the new normal?
"normal"??? What's normal for Joanne might not be normal for Susie. Do what YOU want to do, not what the Joneses do, or what someone else tells you to do.
Movie and a little
Make him wait a little longer
Once again, you do what you're comfortable with. Are you looking for a potential lover or just another platonic friend? Waiting is great and all, but why deprive yourself, and worse, why risk being permanently friend zoned?
In any event, do what you feel comfy doing, however, you should know that if you don't show this guy you like him, he may move on thinking you're a waste of time.
Yes, every couple that dates does exactly this. On the bright side, woo hoo girl, you are gonna get some!
That's a positive way to look at it. Love the sarcasm in the first sentence. There is no "normal" - we're individuals and there's no rules to dating.
One lady I invited over for movies got pissed because I didn't take her to bed. I guess if you don't chase some women they get hurt thinking they're not attractive or something. Likewise, I wouldn't doubt some guys might feel "unloved", "uninteresting", etc. if the person they're dating never wants to kiss, hold hands, etc.
I would take it as a huge compliment that he felt comfortable enough with you to invite you to his home....it's a good sign he's interested...
You've been on two dates with him, did you get the impression he would force you do something you don't want to do?
I may be naive, but just because a man asks you to come over and watch dvd's at his home on a third date, doesn't mean you are required to have sex with him....
The option is yours to go to his house and indulge in sex, or to just enjoy being in his home...
Yeah, if he makes you uncomfortable you can always leave. You also might want to give a friend or family member his address and phone number so they can check in on you. Figure out some code ahead of time. On one side, you want an exit strategy, and on the other side you want a "do not disturb, I'm getting some" strategy.
Good Luck and God Bless!
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| 2/25/2013 10:59:31 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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Seems like there's some haters on here, well I guess everyone is entitled to their opinion it's all good.
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| 2/25/2013 11:01:18 AM |
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creepmike
Willoughby, OH
32, joined Dec. 2012
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I feel like a gentleman especially if he pulls out my chair and opens the door for me
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| 2/25/2013 11:02:33 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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Yeah, if he makes you uncomfortable you can always leave. You also might want to give a friend or family member his address and phone number so they can check in on you. Figure out some code ahead of time. On one side, you want an exit strategy, and on the other side you want a "do not disturb, I'm getting some" strategy.
Good Luck and God Bless!
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| 2/25/2013 11:03:59 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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I feel like a gentleman especially if he pulls out my chair and opens the door for me
You feel like a gentleman?
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| 2/25/2013 11:06:02 AM |
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fly0010
Fort Worth, TX
36, joined Sep. 2012
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I feel like a gentleman especially if he pulls out my chair and opens the door for me
Huh ???
Hi Creep ,
Nevermind .....
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| 2/25/2013 11:06:04 AM |
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esmeraldar
Toms River, NJ
68, joined Jan. 2009
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As Danny said, there shouldn't be rules. Sometimes you want to and sometimes you don't. If you want to go to his place do it. If not you can always refuse.
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| 2/25/2013 11:08:10 AM |
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
52, joined Jan. 2013
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It depends entirely on what my comfort level is...and yours too.
cooking together is some awesome fun! or he can, or I will..whatevers!! 
[Edited 2/25/2013 11:08:29 AM ]
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| 2/25/2013 11:10:19 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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I feel like a gentleman especially if he pulls out my chair and opens the door for me
Well he did open the door for me on the first two dates which was sweet.
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| 2/25/2013 11:11:03 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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It depends entirely on what my comfort level is...and yours too.
cooking together is some awesome fun! or he can, or I will..whatevers!!
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| 2/25/2013 11:13:19 AM |
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misterwunderful
Devon, PA
45, joined Feb. 2013
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Might be the dude just wants to impress you with his culinary skills.
Of course he wants to take you to bed, because he's a male and our sexual orientation is to get some.
But don't assume that he assumes it's a sex date--the guy might be a perfect gentleman.
Go ahead and wear the sexy underwear though, just in case.
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| 2/25/2013 11:13:45 AM |
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barrydalmi
Baltimore, MD
53, joined Dec. 2007
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Yes OP, as you have been warned by other ladies. You better be "careful" and you better "make him wait".
You have stumbled onto a healthy adult male who has invested resources into you and may indeed be interested in ...gasp....sexual activity with an adult woman he finds attractive. 
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| 2/25/2013 11:15:04 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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Might be the dude just wants to impress you with his culinary skills.
Of course he wants to take you to bed, because he's a male and our sexual orientation is to get some.
But don't assume that he assumes it's a sex date--the guy might be a perfect gentleman.
Go ahead and wear the sexy underwear though, just in case.
No he doesn't cook, lol.
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| 2/25/2013 11:17:09 AM |
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damagedgoods43
Schenectady, NY
47, joined Aug. 2012
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I ask women over after the first date but not for sex. It's just comfortable for my medical pain.
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| 2/25/2013 11:17:29 AM |
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cali8zice
Albany, NY
51, joined Oct. 2012
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Movie and a little
Make him wait a little longer
Aw hell, we get like that there's no such thing as waiting! That's hot!
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| 2/25/2013 11:18:13 AM |
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cali8zice
Albany, NY
51, joined Oct. 2012
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No he doesn't cook, lol.
Order out and get like above
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| 2/25/2013 11:20:14 AM |
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cali8zice
Albany, NY
51, joined Oct. 2012
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Seems like there's some haters on here, well I guess everyone is entitled to their opinion it's all good.
I'm never hating just trying to be funny. I'm hoping you get some honey!!
Go for it!
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| 2/25/2013 11:21:05 AM |
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jjay1970
Syracuse, NY
45, joined Oct. 2011
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@jay
I don't date and not looking..
That's a shame. You're probably cool to hang with.
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| 2/25/2013 11:27:09 AM |
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desigal2012
Los Angeles, CA
49, joined Dec. 2012
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Thanks cali8zice !
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