Judging others is what we do. If we didn't judge others we'd just go pick up the first one that comes along. I do know that most come to these date sites passing over everyone except those who look like movie stars and get burnt out pretty quick because they get rejected. It's easy to get dates if you lower your standards and expectations to a level of reality. As for physical appearance I pretty much expect someone who we are mutually attracted to each other to be physically comparable in appearance and physical condition. I just can't see myself with some 20 year old hottie no more than I can see myself with someone who has a lot of physical limitations. As for what I deserve... absolutely NOTHING... I don't think anyone has a right to think they deserve one above another, but we do have a right to want the one we can't live without.

I understand where you're coming from but I also think truth is sometimes a hard fact of life. I do have some limitations and I've dated women with various disabilities with no problems. Matter of fact, some who have accepted and learned to live with disabilities are stronger and do more than a heck of a lot of perfectly capable people I know. I love to see people who have a great attitude and overcome the prejudices against them with their outgoing nature. To me the biggest handicap I've run into is people with screwed up attitudes.

this is what I have always said Tom, a LIE with one day catch up with you, so need to lie about anything,and another saying is " if you don't want to know the truth. don't ask the question" I will always tell you the truth to what ever question one may ask, so be ready for it if you ask. JMO!