lordlibra
Towanda, KS
41, joined Feb. 2012
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Since my wife died in 2006, I've been in a pretty deep hole. I dated one woman who couldn't stand who I was afterwards. She eventually got rid of me. My fault. I attached myself to her as a form of "replacement." Seeing the aftermath of what my wife did to herself has been burned into my mind. All the blood. The rifle. And now, I'm in another relationship. We've moved in together, been a few years, now. And I'm on meds to deal with what happened. It changed me & I can't do anything about it. It's getting to where she can't deal with it. She knows everything, but she still wants it all to be "her!" I made the mistake of trying another relationship. And I wasn't fit for it. And it's hurting her. Bad. What can I do? To spare her what she's going through? And to help myself at the same time.
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vida60
Norman, OK
56, joined Jul. 2012
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Personally it sounds like you keep wanting to re-live the past, and you might want to seek advice from a professional counselor, they do have a way of listening and advising in a way that will help you seek and get some comfort and stop re-living the past.
Remember, the past is gone, today is a present, and tomorrow is a gift
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4nurse
Dahlgren, IL
39, joined Aug. 2010
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I know exactly how you feel. I did close to the same thing once. My husband passed away in March of 2010. I had 3 kids and was so lonely. I started seeing this guy and he moved in he was a bum and didn't work. So I really was just supporting him. But I couldn't deal with the holidays alone. After the holidays I kicked him out only to discover that I was pregnant. So something good came out of it anyway. Have not dated since not had time lol.
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older_rh_sc
Rock Hill, SC
55, joined Dec. 2012
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Tell her how you feel. And if you think it's hurting her feelings send her on her way.
Seek help.
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msshirleym
Elkhorn, WI
73, joined Nov. 2013
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My late husband was an alcoholic long before he became so ill, but managed to cover it up and functioned relatively normally, if that's possible. Was into playing head games and verbal abuse. Towards the end, I just pretty much gave up. He was his own worst enemy, and I realized long ago, you can't make another person happy. You need to find happiness within yourself first.
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