| 1/8/2014 9:07:38 PM |
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miss_alaina
Minneapolis, MN
20, joined Sep. 2013
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I'm a girl, so I obviously want more than just sex or one night stands.
Don't get me wrong.. I love sex as much as the next person, maybe even more so but I want more than that. I want someone to call mine and will be dedicated and loyal to me.
I've talked to some really cool guys and I've told them straight up that I'm not looking for just a hookup and if they are I'm not the girl for that.
They always tell me that they like me and want to potentially date me.. So I hangout with them and one thing leads to another and they fall off the face of the earth. Or really clingy/annoying guys who obsess over me get what they want and they stop with all the sweet messages and such.
I understand they got what they wanted but damn, just be straight up with me instead of leading me on.
My point is it almost seems impossible to find someone who actually is seeking a long term relationship these days. I just want to know if any guy out there is actually still interested in relationships.
Since sex got easier to get, love got harder to find.
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| 1/8/2014 9:13:45 PM |
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redsox322
Killeen, TX
34, joined Nov. 2012
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Because all men think they deserve a ten otherwise they won't committ. WAY LIFE IS
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| 1/8/2014 9:16:31 PM |
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outhere925
Antioch, CA
33, joined Apr. 2013
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Its the bats that make it hard for you op
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| 1/8/2014 9:58:51 PM |
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niterydah
Houston, TX
44, joined Jan. 2013
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........sex is always easy for a girl to get thats not new......just ask your self why i keep picking the same type of guys over n over again with the same results .....so your not looking for love ....your looking for a guy to love you .......n no giving him vajaja is not gonna make him love you either because im sure he had 20 or more vajajas before you n he didnt fall in love with them either.....try to figure out why you always pick the guys that lie to you when you honestly answer that question you will make a better choice of guy next time
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| 1/8/2014 10:05:05 PM |
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claudius5
Petaluma, CA
65, joined May. 2009
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Some men feel the same way. Just saying and not all men or women feel like they deserve a 10. The only absolute is death.
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| 1/8/2014 10:13:39 PM |
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sweetnika2408
Las Vegas, NV
24, joined Oct. 2012
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Since sex got easier to get, love got harder to find.
 I agree with you 100%.
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| 1/8/2014 11:06:46 PM |
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lil_flirt007
Kansas City, KS
32, joined Jan. 2013
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I honestly think this happens to girls a lot, I know its always my story to and just like you I don't understand what went wrong. if a guy is not interested in you or does not have feelings for you its not hard to be real. you know lots of guys are so quick to send you pics of their d*ck but when it comes to having balls, well they don't really have any. can't even be honest to a girl, its sad. 
Keep your head up, The right guy will come along. What i am starting to understand is we have to quit chasing after the wrong ones so the right ones will have a chance.
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| 1/8/2014 11:28:05 PM |
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shoubetter
Kansas City, KS
30, joined May. 2013
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We all get in our own way at times . Everyone is guilty of it . Some people look for a type , big mistake . People tell you who they are ... Believe them . Even nice men want to sleep with an attractive woman . Look at the way a man treats other people . It IS a reflection of the way he will treat you . I'd settle for a 10 in personality and a 6 or 7 on the exterior . Everyone thinks attraction ( looks) are important . No exceptions ! It comes down to if its a priority to them or not . Most times people get exactly what they want . They've taken ownership of that and that's what they get . Evaluate a mans behavior . Believe his actions and NOT his words . It's not hard but , you have to be patient . Relationships to let's say driving . Bad things are more likely to happen when you rush 
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| 1/8/2014 11:31:12 PM |
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liljerry2182
Kansas City, MO
32, joined Aug. 2012
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It's not hard or difficult you can't act like a none who give in or give up
On Love is the main thing it's All their an been there waiting to happen.for years yep. Holla  
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| 1/9/2014 12:03:40 AM |
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tjrut
Colorado Springs, CO
32, joined Jul. 2013
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Rofl hears another post on the same subject. Women see to go after the bad boys.and over look the nice guys. I seen it a lot.
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| 1/9/2014 12:49:49 AM |
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vegasvegas35
Saint Louis, MO
41, joined Mar. 2009
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Your 19. Work on you right now (college, trade school, etc, then career, etc.). The guys will always be there but you won't always have your youth. Worry about you first. Worry about them later. Don't worry about getting tied down to some guy at such a young age. Trust me. You only get to be young once.
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| 1/9/2014 1:15:26 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
59, joined Apr. 2011
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I'm a girl, so I obviously want more than just sex or one night stands.
Don't get me wrong.. I love sex as much as the next person, maybe even more so but I want more than that. I want someone to call mine and will be dedicated and loyal to me.
I've talked to some really cool guys and I've told them straight up that I'm not looking for just a hookup and if they are I'm not the girl for that.
They always tell me that they like me and want to potentially date me.. So I hangout with them and one thing leads to another and they fall off the face of the earth. Or really clingy/annoying guys who obsess over me get what they want and they stop with all the sweet messages and such.
I understand they got what they wanted but damn, just be straight up with me instead of leading me on.
My point is it almost seems impossible to find someone who actually is seeking a long term relationship these days. I just want to know if any guy out there is actually still interested in relationships.
Since sex got easier to get, love got harder to find.
I'm going to break this down piece by piece to enlighten you and show you how little you know.
1)..Sorry, there are gils who just want sex too....there always has been. There are men who do want relations. So you cannot generalise just because your girl all girls are the same or want more.
2)You want someone you can call yours, dedicated to you....New Flash, when a guy is serious....SO DO THEY....make sure you give back what you want.
3)you tell them your not just looking for a hook up, but from the sounds of it, you have sex real soon....so you give that impression.
4)Many if you hang, then get that sex right away or too soon...will disappear...some because you had it that early feel your too easy and can' be trusted for a relation to be loyal...sometimes its because men don't hang if the sex isn't that great, or if they don't get feelings...why should they?
Clingy guys cling, hard to shake them off...thats why they are called this....getting what they want, then leaving is not their forte'.....there must be another reason.
5)....Don't lay this trip on others, you have a mind, use it...don't believe everything people tell you, don't depend on others to do everything or be everything....if you want more, then wait till you find out how they are, use your mind and common sense...depend on yourself, not others.
6) since the main advent of womens rights, and rights in general...women wore skimpier clothes, changed the way they acted, lost a lot of what men liked in women, besides sex...porn came out, Maddonna and ones like her, the image of women from the venue's of music..T,V,...Movies...only relates women and sex..little else...who's fault it that?...women played these parts..not men.
So men your age were raised seeing only this image.....ad that to a few other things...women lost a bit of there credibility, boys your age see that in general.... and think "what else you got to offer"....I don't see women protesting this image...so it must be okay with the.
Lastly, men don't usually go out and seek a relation,...they live life, then when real feelings happen....then they want a relation....thats called being real.
To seek a relation for just the sake of it, create a wishlist...then just want it with anyone who doesn't just want sex....expect them to worship you......is not being real.
The other thing is...not all guys bail because they got the sex....if you put conditions of a relation on him, after this sex....thats not being upfront either....if he feels cornered into that....or if he decided you are not the one for that, or didn't get feelings...well, why stay? just to have a relation with just anyone...hardly.
Quit blaming others...its up to you to make whatever happen use the tools to do this....being smarter, your brain, common sense....and waiting if you need to...till you know the real deal.
In our society women changed first...men followed their lead....sex was always easy to get, its just more out in the open now.
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| 1/9/2014 1:50:40 AM |
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doktorabstracto
Cocoa, FL
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Why? Because there's not much good about a relationship in and of itself. And I'd sure rather be alone than in a bad one. You want ownership evidently. We are not livestock although we do like to be ridden properly.
What makes a relationship any good, is the people in it. If a guy wants you and keeps wanting you then he'll find a relationship tolerable. Maybe even like it. If nobody does, well, you can't blame the world. The answer is probably closer than you like to think. Like, there'd better be something besides "I want, I want, why do I have to  ". But in a society of mediocre consumers it seems that sometimes, that's all there is.
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| 1/9/2014 4:06:05 AM |
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tommy20102010
Saint Paul, MN
23, joined Jul. 2013
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Not all man want a 10 or Just sex. keep looking you'll find a man for you not a little boy at just want to get you out your pants
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| 1/9/2014 4:11:30 AM |
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forumfriendly2
Norfolk, VA
38, joined Sep. 2013
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another 19 year old looking for a home and family in another 19 yr old..because guys that young just love settling down
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| 1/9/2014 4:15:28 AM |
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greekusurper
Tucson, AZ
27, joined Feb. 2009
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Miss Alaina I feel for you. I know what youre talking about and the real answer might surprise you. You probably wont beleive it, most women don't. But if you want to know why guys do that, ill tell you.
When we get horny, we lie. That part is beleivable, heres the hard part to digest: We beleive our lies when we tell them. In other words, we get horny and start beleiving that there is something there thats not there. Hold out, until you know them.
Ill get real personal here sweety. Ive been in love once, just once. And that girl made me wait for sex. We became freinds before we ever kissed. We made out for hours sometimes, getting very sensual...But sex waited. I was younger, very horny, and very desperate to get laid...but....I waited. Basically because she was worth it. I enjoyed kissing her more than i enjoyed f**king other girls, so i waited. And ill be straight up you miss Alaina, she was the best I ever had. Not because she was a tiger in the bedroom. because she wasnt. She was classy, and demanded respect when it came to her body. And when we did have sex, it was out of this world. We had become such close freinds that our sexual energy was perfectly in synch. She had truthfully become the most attractive woman in the world to me.
Having sex is fun, and as a guy I dont turn away when im propositioned by an atractive woman. Any single guy that tells you otherwise is lying or gay. But when I meet a classy woman that stands above the rest, if she asks me to wait, i will. Ill swear off sex until we know each other better.
Guys are hard wired to want sex. Our reproductive system is always active, yours only about 5% of the time. Imagine your horniest period of the month, and picture feeling that way constantly. Thats us honey! If you want more than just sex, offer something better...
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| 1/9/2014 6:21:55 AM |
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
47, joined Aug. 2013
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It's on both sides. Women & Men Wish I had the answer.
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| 1/9/2014 7:53:39 AM |
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greekusurper
Tucson, AZ
27, joined Feb. 2009
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. I respectfully disagree. I just want love.
Thumbs up romeo...Ladies, get real. There are tons of decent men. If you cant find us....You are bad at looking.
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| 1/9/2014 8:43:24 AM |
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soflwill
West Palm Beach, FL
54, joined Jan. 2012
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There is no group of people that are all the same, so nothing is obvious. Also as a guy I have found the same to be true with many women. It happens to all of us. Just yesterday a woman I've been seeing introduced me to her husband 
When we met she said she was single. People lie, there not all looking for the same things, that's the reason you date people to find someone compatible.
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| 1/9/2014 9:04:42 AM |
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ucandewit
Vonore, TN
47, joined Mar. 2013
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Everybody Lies-House
I do agree with the fact that many men feel the same way. The dating sites have created many female playas(women that want to be the bachelorette) that don't want to commit. That is not to say all ladies are that way because they aren't. But all men aren't either. Some of us are looking for someone to be committed to.
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| 1/9/2014 9:19:39 AM |
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smthgabouther
Wilmington, DE
34, joined Dec. 2012
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Idk, was beginning to think it was a conspiracy, then the guy I've been seeing was finally ready to take it to the next level.
It can suck sometimes, but don't accept trash just to no longer be single. You may regret it.
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| 1/9/2014 12:45:13 PM |
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sum12see
Alhambra, CA
31, joined May. 2013
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Welcome to the love boat....
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| 1/9/2014 2:05:28 PM |
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sum12see
Alhambra, CA
31, joined May. 2013
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. I respectfully disagree. I just want love.
I was just pulling your leg...
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| 1/9/2014 5:51:54 PM |
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baileybug32
Sacramento, CA
34, joined Mar. 2013
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Cause you are talking to boys not men!
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| 1/9/2014 5:53:16 PM |
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mr_ctr916
Roseville, CA
51, joined Aug. 2013
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Because, it may seem to some guys, that if a woman is good at letting us miss our turn for free even when have very low numbers, they can't be very serious about a serious relationship in modern times.
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| 1/9/2014 5:59:32 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
59, joined Apr. 2011
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Why is finding a guy who wants a relationship so hard?
Why would you want a guy who likes a hard relationship?
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| 1/9/2014 7:04:34 PM |
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agapeamore
Lombard, IL
27, joined Dec. 2013
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You're still a teen. You don't even know what the hell love is, yet. Enjoy your youth and get as much d*ck as you can now before it's too late.
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| 1/9/2014 7:25:21 PM |
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baileybug32
Sacramento, CA
34, joined Mar. 2013
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You're still a teen. You don't even know what the hell love is, yet. Enjoy your youth and get as much d*ck as you can now before it's too late.
She is right!!!!
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| 1/10/2014 8:34:41 PM |
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madein1983
Miami, FL
31, joined Oct. 2013
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My question is why is it hard for good decent men like myself can't find shit either, dam friend zone!
It's a lie when people tell you "your still young" bullshit, I've been looking for a while and age don't wait for no one, time goes by fast in life, when you find love hold on to it cause it's RARE to find now a days.
You can have all the d*ck in the city you want but one day you will get up and notice you have HIV, herpes, some disease that wasn't worth it just "for a little fun" even with protection.
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| 1/10/2014 11:45:32 PM |
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lovessmart
Corona, CA
55, joined Feb. 2013
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Since sex got easier to get, love got harder to find.
That's actually pretty profound.
I know you want to have sex, but you want it with a steady. The only way you are going to get that is if you wait long enough to get a better assessment of his character to see if he is just playing you to get you in bed or actually wants you for long term.
You'll make some mistakes, but you will get better at weeding out gamers. Good luck.
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| 1/11/2014 12:25:59 AM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
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19? Really and you're wondering why these little boys aren't looking for something serious? Ain't happening.
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| 1/11/2014 3:30:18 AM |
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mr_imperfect
Philadelphia, PA
52, joined Sep. 2011
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Because some men think they deserve a ten otherwise they won't committ. WAY LIFE IS
There I fixed it for you and btw that is not why girls yours and the op's age can't find a relationship built on more than near non stop f**king.
The reason why you have such a hard time is because little boys who only want you for sex don't grow up and mature into wanting a relationship based on a whole lot more than just getting their d*ck wet til they hit somewhere around early to mid 30's. So either you patiently wait til you hit your mid to late 20's where the idea of dating someone that old doesn't creep you out or maybe start looking at all the guys you friend zoned because they were not your idea of a hottie. You might be surprised how many nice decent respectful guys you I'll find in that group.
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| 1/11/2014 3:39:04 AM |
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mr_imperfect
Philadelphia, PA
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That's actually pretty profound.
I know you want to have sex, but you want it with a steady. The only way you are going to get that is if you wait long enough to get a better assessment of his character to see if he is just playing you to get you in bed or actually wants you for long term.
You'll make some mistakes, but you will get better at weeding out gamers. Good luck.[/quolte]
WRONG WRONG WRONG!!! So many men have caught onto the bullshit games you women play in thinking if you make a man wait for sex it means he wants you for more than your body that they just play right back qlong ,
I cannot begin to tell you how many females I know who thought because some guy they were dating for months without him pushing to get into her panties was the one and then BAM!!! the second she could no longer hold out for sex and she let him in her bed he never called again.
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| 1/11/2014 5:46:11 AM |
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gamerepairpros
Cleveland, OH
37, joined Dec. 2012
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Nowadays there'sno benefit to being Iin a relationship
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| 1/11/2014 8:00:20 AM |
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bit0honey222
Charleston, SC
50, joined Aug. 2013
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At your age, it prolly is. Young men aren't always looking to settle down....understandably. But you should consider this....to have what you seek you must be worthy of the same. Take your time...invest in yourself.
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| 1/11/2014 8:19:46 AM |
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ndpndnt14u
Spartanburg, SC
52, joined Jul. 2013
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Rofl hears another post on the same subject. Women see to go after the bad boys.and over look the nice guys. I seen it a lot.
If you are a nice guy and DONT try to sack them, they say you are BORING! If You DO try to sack them You are a typical man!
They like the one night stands for the no commitment sex if You ask Me broh.
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| 1/11/2014 10:22:19 AM |
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
61, joined Apr. 2011
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OP...
You said it yourself."Since sex got easier to get, love got harder to find."
Why not try holding off having sex until you both discover a real interest in a relationship.
Giving it up so easily doesn't inspire any man to reach for a relationship. He's already getting what he wants.
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| 1/11/2014 10:38:31 AM |
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barrydalmi
Baltimore, MD
51, joined Dec. 2007
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Because you are 19.
Because you have a Broken Picker and are using the wrong ciriteria to choose partners.
Get your education/skills/career and own life in order first and then find a partner- you will be "better" and they will be "better".
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| 1/11/2014 12:11:43 PM |
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mr_ctr916
Roseville, CA
51, joined Aug. 2013
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Because modern women are too good at letting us miss our turn while claiming to know how to be girl friends.
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| 1/11/2014 2:12:42 PM |
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lovessmart
Corona, CA
55, joined Feb. 2013
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eader]Quote from lovessmart:
That's actually pretty profound.
I know you want to have sex, but you want it with a steady. The only way you are going to get that is if you wait long enough to get a better assessment of his character to see if he is just playing you to get you in bed or actually wants you for long term.
You'll make some mistakes, but you will get better at weeding out gamers. Good luck.[/quolte]
WRONG WRONG WRONG!!! So many men have caught onto the bullshit games you women play in thinking if you make a man wait for sex it means he wants you for more than your body that they just play right back qlong ,
I cannot begin to tell you how many females I know who thought because some guy they were dating for months without him pushing to get into her panties was the one and then BAM!!! the second she could no longer hold out for sex and she let him in her bed he never called again.
It's not a game. She wants sex, but with a guy that is going to be around. I didn't say hold out for months. All you have to do is make clear boundaries. You will not have sex on the first date (say so and mean it, this will weed out 90 percent of the pump and dumpers), and that doesn't mean a meet and great. Make a deal so he doesn't get to expect sex because he spent money on you. Ask to go dutch. Spend some time in person with them and make sure he has consistent actions over time. You guys do the same thing when you want a relationship. You are careful to see what she is about. You look for consistent actions over time. It doesn't have to take months, but you do hyave to get a sense of a person. Whatever you decide, just get good at seeing the character of a prospective BF/GF. Both men and women lose when you get 2 people together that don't want the same things. Start with honesty, and trust but verify that the other person is being honest too. This recipe works to get a steady relationship going.
I am sure that angers the pump and dump crowd, but as I have said many times, if that's what you want, put on a condom and get a prostitute and you won't hurt or deceive her. You can have what you want and not have to manipulate and lie. Honesty! What a concept.
Not all women being humiliated think dating is a game what-so-ever, so we have to take precautions. Sorry, but that's the cruel world we live in. And the same applies to men. You need to take precautions too or you will be used by some women. I wouldn't tell you guys not to take precautions. Why do so many men insist that women should just throw caution to the wind?
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laloo18
Shawnee, KS
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I wanna find my true love .. I hope so .. 
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| 1/11/2014 6:34:03 PM |
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mr_ctr916
Roseville, CA
51, joined Aug. 2013
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just get your girl friends involved to fornicate him until he clamors for a relationship, but don't forget to call dibs on it.
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| 1/11/2014 7:13:27 PM |
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tasgosa
Knob Noster, MO
60, joined Jul. 2013
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It's Not Hard, at all..!!
But...at 19...your choices are considerably limited by what age group you're
willing to look in...
and how many older guys look at women as Young as You..!!
I wish a few ~More Mature Women~ had that problem..!!!
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| 1/11/2014 7:16:34 PM |
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mg11223
Union City, CA
45, joined Jul. 2012
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i agree with what you are saying, i have the same problem. online and dating is hard. i want what you said, im not getting any younger.
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| 1/11/2014 7:18:41 PM |
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mg11223
Union City, CA
45, joined Jul. 2012
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thats not true either. they can always dump a woman for any reason, just like working they can always fire you.
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| 1/11/2014 11:11:36 PM |
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dadallalone2
Bethlehem, PA
44, joined Dec. 2013
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Okay well I hate to say this but your fat. No guy wants a fatty I can't say your ugly nor good looking to much fat in the way
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| 1/12/2014 6:56:08 PM |
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beyondbrunette
San Diego, CA
47, joined May. 2012
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I honestly think this happens to girls a lot, I know its always my story to and just like you I don't understand what went wrong. if a guy is not interested in you or does not have feelings for you its not hard to be real. you know lots of guys are so quick to send you pics of their d*ck but when it comes to having balls, well they don't really have any. can't even be honest to a girl, its sad.
Keep your head up, The right guy will come along. What i am starting to understand is we have to quit chasing after the wrong ones so the right ones will have a chance.
True that !!!! Ball-less ...! Lol
I think it's important for people to be upfront before begin dating and make sure they are both open to a commuted relationship
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| 1/12/2014 8:01:42 PM |
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ladypat81
Baltimore, MD
33, joined Jun. 2013
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It's tons of military guys on here looking to get married it seems.
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| 1/12/2014 8:26:56 PM |
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johngabel99
Conway, AR
31, joined Nov. 2012
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Perhaps you didn't pass the nut test.
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