| 3/15/2014 8:42:49 PM |
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older_rh_sc
Rock Hill, SC
56, joined Dec. 2012
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I want to go out, (dinner / movies) but not sex. I find this feeling strange.
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| 3/15/2014 9:36:48 PM |
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pammywammy19594
Houston, TX
58, joined Jan. 2014
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I feel exactly the same way. I'm lonely and bored sitting at home, but not ready for sex yet. Don't know when I will be, but I need to do something besides cry. ..
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| 3/16/2014 7:23:35 PM |
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older_rh_sc
Rock Hill, SC
56, joined Dec. 2012
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I'm glad it happens with others. I didn't want to be the only one with those feelings...
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| 5/30/2014 8:45:20 AM |
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lalunamoondeer
Bartlesville, OK
53, joined Apr. 2014
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I wont let anyone touch me either. I don't even want to date. I just want to be with him again. I do like going out with my friends but I think Im calling it quits as far as having another in my life. I don't think I could ever love anyone as much as I did him.
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| 6/1/2014 12:48:28 PM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
70, joined Sep. 2009
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laluna, You profile says you were looking for a man 50-65. Which way is it?
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| 6/2/2014 8:12:36 AM |
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lalunamoondeer
Bartlesville, OK
53, joined Apr. 2014
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My profile states that I am looking for likeminded friends of the Wiccan path to chat with. I like to keep my friends within my age group.
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| 6/6/2014 10:30:27 PM |
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newdirection6
Wellsville, OH
63, joined Nov. 2007
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I had those strange feelings for a long time. I would meet a guy thought he was the one. Then it turned out he wanted a place to live and support.
 Well this past December my mom past and I sent a e-mail to a long 5 year friend I met on Yahoo Chat. We met one time and it didn't work out at the time. Well his mom passed away in January. He called and met for lunch in January .. It was a different time in both of out life. We both lost our moms. He was a caregiver to his mom too.
That lunch was a nice lunch. We are still seeing each other. He was never married. He understands me. We talk about our life we had in the past. We are living for the future. So I just might be getting married sometime. He is a church going man and don't believe in shacking up. He wants me forever.
So it was a strange feeling meeting again. But it worked out for the BEST.
We got to let our walls down and explore these strange feelings. You might be surprised of what you fine. You only live once 
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| 6/7/2014 11:31:34 PM |
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ladiebugg55
Redding, CA
62, joined Jun. 2012
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My profile states that I am looking for likeminded friends of the Wiccan path to chat with. I like to keep my friends within my age group.
so, you're wiccan?..what type?..
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| 6/8/2014 11:56:47 AM |
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lalunamoondeer
Bartlesville, OK
53, joined Apr. 2014
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I am an Eclectic Witch. 
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| 8/8/2014 1:08:01 PM |
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miss_kaitie
Vidalia, GA
61, joined Jul. 2014
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I know how u feel so I don't even post my picture cause of guys just looking for sex.
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| 8/8/2014 5:19:30 PM |
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sensuousnsassy
Republic, MO
44, joined Jun. 2014
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Sometimes you just have to give your feelings reign.
I hid myself away for years, for fear of not being ready, never finding that again, just unsure. Finding friends helped... Friends lead to more. But not the right one for me yet.
Don't define another relationship by your last. There are no guidelines... Each is different. You know you better than anyone. Make yourself your best friend first.
Being lonely is part of this. But if I can, I know anyone can.
Good luck!!
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| 8/10/2014 3:57:31 AM |
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mjohndeer
Lehigh Acres, FL
46, joined Jul. 2014
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It has been two months for me and i am going crazy alone how do i get over my dream com true if you nice people on here can help me i would be so great full thank you
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| 8/10/2014 11:45:08 AM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
70, joined Sep. 2009
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It has been two months for me and i am going crazy alone how do i get over my dream com true if you nice people on here can help me i would be so great full thank you
Two months? Really? What did you expect? Did you think that when your S/O died that you would immediately be okay? You haven't even begun to heal. Part of the healing is feeling all the loneliness and everything that goes with it. You haven't even started going through the "terrible firsts." You have to go through the whole thing. It won't get better in the first two months. You barely are realizing that this terrible thing has happened.
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| 8/10/2014 1:50:15 PM |
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sunnydee7777
Clermont, FL
67, joined Aug. 2011
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Two months? Really? What did you expect? Did you think that when your S/O died that you would immediately be okay? You haven't even begun to heal. Part of the healing is feeling all the loneliness and everything that goes with it. You haven't even started going through the "terrible firsts." You have to go through the whole thing. It won't get better in the first two months. You barely are realizing that this terrible thing has happened.
Well said Gdaddy.
The first year was a fog for me. First two months I think I was in total denial.
But 2 months is a drop in the bucket when it comes to our emotional healing roller coaster.
JMO and  to all
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| 8/10/2014 2:53:11 PM |
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heart_and_soul2
Sarasota, FL
60, joined Dec. 2013
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Gdaddy is absolutely correct. The reality of losing a soul mate is that we have to feel all the loneliness, despair, anger, guilt, and those ugly things that grief is all about. There is no easy way out. Time is your friend--I didn't want to hear that either--I wanted the pain to just go away.
At 4 1/2 years out,I am just now able to let go of the home we shared for over 20 years. Making a new start of "me" not "us." Part of this journey is finding the new "you."
It will get better--and you will be able to breathe again.
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| 8/10/2014 4:42:31 PM |
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sensuousnsassy
Republic, MO
44, joined Jun. 2014
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At 4 1/2 years out,I am just now able to let go of the home we shared for over 20 years. Making a new start of "me" not "us." Part of this journey is finding the new "you."
It will get better--and you will be able to breathe again.
5 years this September.. It's hard, lord above so hard. All the me, my, I and not we, us, our...
The two months... Sweet, sweet woman.....please.. Heal. Face your sorrow. Your pain is going to hit you. Remember, breathe. Even when you feel like suffocating... Close your eyes and breathe.
I truly never thought I'd be here. The pain is a little less, but forever there. I've learned it IS okay to laugh and smile.
I wish you all so much love and strength.
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| 8/10/2014 6:50:07 PM |
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mjohndeer
Lehigh Acres, FL
46, joined Jul. 2014
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Sorry i was hoping for a little help but not losing some one has made you all insensitive to see some one needs help that is fine thank you but no thanks
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| 8/10/2014 7:59:40 PM |
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heart_and_soul2
Sarasota, FL
60, joined Dec. 2013
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Sorry i was hoping for a little help but not losing some one has made you all insensitive to see some one needs help that is fine thank you but no thanks
I was not trying to hurt you in any way. I was telling you that you have to go through the bad to get to the other side. It will get better for you--It just takes time.
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| 8/11/2014 12:39:15 AM |
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mjohndeer
Lehigh Acres, FL
46, joined Jul. 2014
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Did not mesn to sound like an a** but all i want to do is get help so i can say i am dealing with this loss so if you or any one in here can talk to me great but i know the only pesrson that can help are people that have gone through this thanks again how do i keep going
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| 8/11/2014 10:04:30 AM |
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lailani1958
Hemet, CA
59, joined Jul. 2014
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Sorry i was hoping for a little help but not losing some one has made you all insensitive to see some one needs help that is fine thank you but no thanks
I believe that most everyone here, if not all, HAS lost someone! Two months is a very short time. I did not see that anyone who responded to you was being insensitive to you. We all know exactly what it feels like to lose someone. Take all the time you need to grieve and don't beat yourself up for your thoughts or feelings.
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| 8/11/2014 3:47:46 PM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
70, joined Sep. 2009
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There is no help this soon into loss. You're probably just now realizing you're without your S/O. This is when it starts. You aren't going crazy or anything like that. Every thought you have is typical. You're just beginning. You WILL make it. You're just looking for a "cure" right now and there is none.
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| 8/13/2014 12:44:13 PM |
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miss_mistylight
Franklin, GA
55, joined Sep. 2013
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There is no help this soon into loss. You're probably just now realizing you're without your S/O. This is when it starts. You aren't going crazy or anything like that. Every thought you have is typical. You're just beginning. You WILL make it. You're just looking for a "cure" right now and there is none.
So true, none!! soon you learn to live again, then you learn to breathe, you relearn how to live. This life is tough, but it is life.
Grief is tough, support groups help a lot.
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| 8/14/2014 5:01:30 PM |
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ann1236
Luthersville, GA
65, joined Jul. 2014
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Did not mesn to sound like an a** but all i want to do is get help so i can say i am dealing with this loss so if you or any one in here can talk to me great but i know the only pesrson that can help are people that have gone through this thanks again how do i keep going
day by day sun rise sun set and ask yourself what would she want you to do,
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| 8/14/2014 5:43:55 PM |
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sensuousnsassy
Republic, MO
44, joined Jun. 2014
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Sorry i was hoping for a little help but not losing some one has made you all insensitive to see some one needs help that is fine thank you but no thanks
I'm confused... "Not losing someone?" This is a WIDOW/WIDOWER forum, people here have lost more than a non widow/er.
I've not seen an insensitive post. I've seen very supportive , understanding people offer advice and help.
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| 9/19/2014 3:16:40 AM |
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dennismacklin
Knoxville, TN
43, joined Mar. 2014
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Am looking for love
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| 9/20/2014 9:42:32 AM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
70, joined Sep. 2009
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When the one you love so much dies, it plain ole hurts. The first few months is when you realize that it actually happened. Then it hits you, she/he isn't coming back. Dang what a realization. Then you are numb for a while but you go ahead and function. Then one day you find yourself smiling and laughing and feeling guilty about it. You progress on to where you realize that it's okay to feel something besides pain and grief. Some don't want to admit it because they love to hold a pity party but for the most part we don't. Those that do need other help. After you go through the terrible "firsts" then you start to really heal. It sucks big time but you lived through it and now it's time to progress. Don't rush anything and don't make any life changing decisions without talking it over with a close friend.
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| 9/21/2014 9:54:41 PM |
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marlotho
Slippery Rock, PA
61, joined Aug. 2012
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When the one you love with your heart and soul dies it takes a long time to get over it. It has been almost 5 years for me. Our anniversary is on 9-25 I have been having a really hard time the last few days. 2 months that is nothing it will get worse before it gets better.
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| 12/4/2014 6:02:49 PM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
52, joined Jul. 2014
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first thing idid was sex,good sex,about 4 in a row,,but als,,im not satisfied,i jusstwant on here with meforever,an sweet an laughter again,,just me an her,i know your out there somewhere,,,,,
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| 12/5/2014 10:39:38 PM |
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ladiebugg55
Redding, CA
62, joined Jun. 2012
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After 7 years I still dream about my late husband frequently..it used to be comforting in a bitter sweet sort of way, but now I'm wishing the dreams would stop..I wonder after so much time has passed, why I still dream about him so often..
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| 12/6/2014 10:38:31 PM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
52, joined Jul. 2014
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i have also anxiety disorder,my mind races ahead,an im a genious at things,but im not calm very much, i stumble into,,normal ,,peoples threads,,on ga,chat an regular dh.. unforgiveable sins it seems,,some get on my ass, others are very sweet,, they aint got a dam clue the hell,an grieving i go through,an others,they make me feel like a dam misfit,an i allready feel bad, some women say,,breathe,,slow down,type slower,an i wanna say, shut up, hurry up lazy ass,,get on the ball,lets move it faster o k,,,,,im thankful for some sweet women friends,very pretty an nice,,yes they like me an say o your cute an tall,an look good,im 6,,4 andbuilt to satisfy them,haha, but somehurt my feelins very badly,easily the meanest women on this ungodly dating site i ever seen,am so sorry to say,why cant us widowers get together,an talk,an eat an heal etc sometime from here in ga. ??/i love sex,,but its all just weird,am very good at satisfying in every way,,and i think im reay for the right one, midle age and medium,with a lotta humour etc,
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| 12/9/2014 9:59:18 PM |
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Ravenkat
Gilbert, AZ
64, joined Oct. 2014
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When the one you love so much dies, it plain ole hurts. The first few months is when you realize that it actually happened. Then it hits you, she/he isn't coming back. Dang what a realization. Then you are numb for a while but you go ahead and function. Then one day you find yourself smiling and laughing and feeling guilty about it. You progress on to where you realize that it's okay to feel something besides pain and grief. Some don't want to admit it because they love to hold a pity party but for the most part we don't. Those that do need other help. After you go through the terrible "firsts" then you start to really heal. It sucks big time but you lived through it and now it's time to progress. Don't rush anything and don't make any life changing decisions without talking it over with a close friend.
This is so true, I went through these steps as well. The terrible firsts were the some of hardest thing to go through. But then you start to live again. The one you lost will always be in your heart, and you will always love them. But then comes the day you will see something that will remind you of the person you lost, but you will smile at the memories that you both shared. That is what has kept me going. But will the pain ever totally go away, No it won't, but you will think of the good times more and smile.
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| 12/13/2014 9:44:31 PM |
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love2kiss8
Columbus, OH
26, joined May. 2013
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You probably just want the social interaction spending time with someone doesn't necessarily have to be sex. Go out with friends or with a a lady no pressure.
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| 12/17/2014 8:28:24 AM |
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blaze3222
Dayton, OH
70, joined Jan. 2014
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In my case it was joining a group of people to be with others, I chose to join my local VFW and it has been a life safer for me, gave me people to be with and activities to keep my mind busy. I now feel like I have an extra family and people to turn to when it gets bad. Find something that you enjoy and keeps your mind active. It has been 3 1/2 years for me.
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| 12/21/2014 4:04:08 PM |
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littlebitkrz2
Augusta, GA
53, joined Apr. 2013
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Did not mesn to sound like an a** but all i want to do is get help so i can say i am dealing with this loss so if you or any one in here can talk to me great but i know the only pesrson that can help are people that have gone through this thanks again how do i keep going
I do understand! It;s more about needing to have comfort.
Physical Comfort
Everyone handles Grief "Differently".
Some can;t stand to be touched,
others Crave to be Held
I;m so sorry for your loss..
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| 1/2/2015 7:51:21 PM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
51, joined Apr. 2013
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I do understand! It;s more about needing to have comfort.
Physical Comfort
Everyone handles Grief "Differently".
Some can;t stand to be touched,
others Crave to be Held
I;m so sorry for your loss..
This...everybody has a different way of grieving and moving on...do what is best for you at the time.
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| 1/2/2015 9:54:11 PM |
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readyed60
Louisville, KY
57, joined Nov. 2013
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The first few months were numb and I was totally lost.
I know I got up every morning went to work. Tried to smile through the day.
As I drove home the closer I got the harder I cried.
After almost 2 years I still hurt and can still cry. I allow myself to do this because it is ok to.
I have made some small changes at my own pace.
Please know this there is not a time limit on grieving for the love of your life.
One day at a time may sound corny but it is oh so true.
That's all I have for now.
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| 1/8/2015 2:00:21 PM |
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sweetate2
Albion, IN
67, joined Jul. 2013
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I had those strange feelings for a long time. I would meet a guy thought he was the one. Then it turned out he wanted a place to live and support.
Well this past December my mom past and I sent a e-mail to a long 5 year friend I met on Yahoo Chat. We met one time and it didn't work out at the time. Well his mom passed away in January. He called and met for lunch in January .. It was a different time in both of out life. We both lost our moms. He was a caregiver to his mom too.
That lunch was a nice lunch. We are still seeing each other. He was never married. He understands me. We talk about our life we had in the past. We are living for the future. So I just might be getting married sometime. He is a church going man and don't believe in shacking up. He wants me forever.
So it was a strange feeling meeting again. But it worked out for the BEST.
We got to let our walls down and explore these strange feelings. You might be surprised of what you fine. You only live once
I was reading through because I have met a widower and we started dating about 6 mo. ago.... We are very close now and I am not sure he can ever really love me like he did her but then again I do not want him to. I am a different person... but at least he has opened his heart to feel again. It has been hard but I believe if you find someone that understands and that gives you time... You may find a new happiness
Love sometimes sneaks in where you least expect it....give it a chance.....
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| 2/1/2015 8:49:04 AM |
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txcountrymedic
Pleasanton, TX
39, joined Mar. 2014
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I probably dont have the right to post in this forum, but i have a question only widows can answer. My dad died when i was 5 and my mother never dated again. She is a very lonely woman. After raising 3 boys on her own. I am divorced and havent dated do to peoples lack of interest in me. I meet a woman that was a widow that needed help around her ranch and started working for her on the weekends. To me it was a way to keep my time busy and a little extra money for my kids. She asked if i would stay over to get a early start on the morning chores. She had a small bunk house so didnt mind. In the evening i went to eat and them bed. She stopped by to talk and we did, nothing heavy or bad just talk. The next morning with out warning i was fired and ask to leave right away. I ran into her a few months later and she said she tried to replace her husband with me. I have her a number to a shrink and walked away. Not good but that was messed up. Now i meet a friend from high school that called and asked if i would help her sons with some man style chores around the house, i asked why was her husband busy? She told me he died 18months ago. I told her i will help the boys, but i havent done it yet. Its only been a couple days but i do not know what to do. Does any one have any suggestions? 
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| 3/18/2015 3:44:45 PM |
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budzbunny
Hermitage, TN
65, joined Feb. 2013
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Due to my late wife's health, we were celibate the last 25 years of our marriage...she died 5 years ago so I have been celibate for 30 years now, which was Not in my plans at all...but I have learned to cope...What did occur was that bonding, growing together, and love exploded around our marriage which made it so much stronger than sex alone could have...So YES I now crave sex frequently but I crave friendship and caring even more...if that leads to romance even better. But I will leave that choice to the woman...NO man has the RIGHT to demand sex...Women KNOW that we want it...so I leave it to the woman...I am happy either way...
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| 3/18/2015 3:51:16 PM |
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budzbunny
Hermitage, TN
65, joined Feb. 2013
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I am not Wiccan, But I am a Nature Steward of The Gnostic Christian faith...I hold very close beliefs to the Wiccans and have many Wiccan friends ... I buy a lot of my stuff at Wiccan stores, too.We Gnostics rely on Science, other religions, and philosophies as heavily as we rely on the Bible...we welcome people of any beliefs and NEVER try to convert anyone...We believe each individual must decide for themselves what they believe and what they do with their life...We do NOT change anyone just welcome them and accept them...
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| 3/18/2015 3:54:24 PM |
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budzbunny
Hermitage, TN
65, joined Feb. 2013
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Two months? Really? What did you expect? Did you think that when your S/O died that you would immediately be okay? You haven't even begun to heal. Part of the healing is feeling all the loneliness and everything that goes with it. You haven't even started going through the "terrible firsts." You have to go through the whole thing. It won't get better in the first two months. You barely are realizing that this terrible thing has happened.
I LOVE the term, "Terrible firsts". That describes it exactly...the first time I had to go in our favorite stores and places without my wife, I whisper her name to include her...After I leave that store the "FIRST" time...it has become MINE and not OURS anymore...I am fine after that...
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| 3/18/2015 3:58:03 PM |
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budzbunny
Hermitage, TN
65, joined Feb. 2013
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Gdaddy is absolutely correct. The reality of losing a soul mate is that we have to feel all the loneliness, despair, anger, guilt, and those ugly things that grief is all about. There is no easy way out. Time is your friend--I didn't want to hear that either--I wanted the pain to just go away.
At 4 1/2 years out,I am just now able to let go of the home we shared for over 20 years. Making a new start of "me" not "us." Part of this journey is finding the new "you."
It will get better--and you will be able to breathe again.
I, too, am 4 1/2 years out...I have loneliness anxiety and depression still...my late wife WANTED me to marry again so I feel perfectly fine in finding someone else...I live on the internet now talking all over the world , advising, relaxing, supporting various causes...it keeps me happy and alive.
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| 3/19/2015 8:35:51 AM |
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ariesheart56
Lebanon, TN
59, joined Sep. 2014
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Most men all they want is sex not me more to life then just sex good company is the best
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| 3/28/2015 4:01:01 AM |
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zoozzz
AndalgaláAustralian Capital
Australia
35, joined Mar. 2015
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I find sex without love is ultimately empty.
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| 4/2/2015 3:29:42 AM |
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ldyinred54
Buford, GA
63, joined Jul. 2013
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Well said Gdaddy.
The first year was a fog for me. First two months I think I was in total denial.
But 2 months is a drop in the bucket when it comes to our emotional healing roller coaster.
JMO and to all
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| 4/8/2015 4:28:57 AM |
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ilovepoodles55
Schererville, IN
56, joined Feb. 2015
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I had those strange feelings for a long time. I would meet a guy thought he was the one. Then it turned out he wanted a place to live and support.
Well this past December my mom past and I sent a e-mail to a long 5 year friend I met on Yahoo Chat. We met one time and it didn't work out at the time. Well his mom passed away in January. He called and met for lunch in January .. It was a different time in both of out life. We both lost our moms. He was a caregiver to his mom too.
That lunch was a nice lunch. We are still seeing each other. He was never married. He understands me. We talk about our life we had in the past. We are living for the future. So I just might be getting married sometime. He is a church going man and don't believe in shacking up. He wants me forever.
So it was a strange feeling meeting again. But it worked out for the BEST.
We got to let our walls down and explore these strange feelings. You might be surprised of what you fine. You only live once
Congratulations I am so happy for you
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| 4/8/2015 4:31:56 AM |
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ilovepoodles55
Schererville, IN
56, joined Feb. 2015
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I used to dream that my husband was calling me from heaven. Who knows maybe he was communicating with me ?
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| 5/10/2015 10:53:27 PM |
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leathernlace55
Grand Junction, CO
61, joined Dec. 2013
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That is exactly how I feel. I cannot think about myself with anyone but my deceased husband.
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