| 7/16/2014 9:08:39 PM |
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giovanita1
Miami, FL
48, joined Oct. 2011
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Not once but twice, i had this kind of dates.
The guy kisses me at the end of the date...so i figured, there is chemistry. Well, after the date ends, ?? I never hear from them.
Mind you, i behave like a lady during the whole date. No sexual inuendos, no slutty comments or flirting. Just a clean chat, getting to know the person. Kidding around here and there. So, What gives?!!!
Is a kiss the new trophy of the dating game? If he dod not like me, why did he kiss me???
Any input from the guy's point of view?
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| 7/16/2014 10:00:28 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
50, joined Jul. 2013
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Maybe it's a courtesy thing, probably
didn't feel a chemistry while yall was out on a date, since u had that done to u more than once u might want to stop the kissing and just give that person a hug and thank him for a nice time
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| 7/16/2014 10:07:27 PM |
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tjl503
Portland, OR
35, joined Dec. 2012
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Your guess is as good as ours, he was probably so pumped by that kiss that he was texting all his friends on his way home and, boom. Head on collision with a semi, dead on impact.
Maybe he realized that he shouldn't cheat on his gf/wife, he met another girl, something about you he wasn't interested in. He kept you on the sidelines by giving you a kiss just in case. I could go on forever. It's called rejection, it sucks, it happens to the best of us. If a guy doesn't call you back after the first date don't think about it twice, it's his loss.
Kissing is definitely not the new trophy of the dating game. That would be f**king your brains out.
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| 7/17/2014 3:20:01 AM |
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tg_surpher
North Highlands, CA
36, joined May. 2013
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I guess you show no interest,so the kiss was a last ditch effort for sex
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| 7/17/2014 9:44:02 AM |
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mei_bankai
Middletown, OH
22, joined Jun. 2014
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ah the nice escape he was most likely only after your goods just to shy to say so up front due to u being so lady like as u have stated he would have felt like a jerk to try and get that from u
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| 7/17/2014 12:55:10 PM |
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pike45
Omaha, NE
62, joined Feb. 2009
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Mabe you had bad breath. Next time you a breath mint.
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| 7/17/2014 1:11:47 PM |
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righttwix
Fort Garland, CO
48, joined Oct. 2013
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"First of all, if you can not take rejection, don't contact me."
But you make threads about when you're rejected?
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| 7/17/2014 1:55:31 PM |
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keyboardkat
Oklahoma City, OK
41, joined Feb. 2011
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"First of all, if you can not take rejection, don't contact me."
But you make threads about when you're rejected?
Uh oh....
Snaaaaap!
But seriously, the kiss was not a escalation of affection, it was the end of the engagement.
Its a nice way of saying "see ya later fish!".
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| 7/17/2014 6:54:00 PM |
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hurryme
Bloomingdale, GA
51, joined Mar. 2011
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I would have called you back. I think, I mean if you didn't go nutso on me.
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| 7/17/2014 10:26:08 PM |
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giovanita1
Miami, FL
48, joined Oct. 2011
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I was not rejected. He kept insinuating we had sex, but i kind of pretended i did not hear. In fact it seems like rejected him.
What happens is that he seemed like real "boyfriend" material so i didn't want it to be a "hook up". I kept my cool and was hoping for a 2nd date.
We kissed passionately. it was mutual, no doubt.
But i do not expect a kiss if the other party doesnt like me. I understand that.
this is why all of this is so weird.
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| 7/17/2014 10:32:55 PM |
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giovanita1
Miami, FL
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if the date didnt work out for him, fine! but why does he have to kiss a person he doesn't like?
I have been asked for a kiss at the end of the day from someone I didn't like. My answer has been : no.
This is the reason I ask the opinion of a guy. Because his actions were opposite.
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| 7/17/2014 10:52:50 PM |
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def_diff
Marietta, GA
50, joined Dec. 2011
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You don't have to like someone to be attracted to them. Could be as simple as that.
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| 7/17/2014 10:54:02 PM |
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righttwix
Fort Garland, CO
48, joined Oct. 2013
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Or he figured he had gone out with you anyway, your hot and he might get to score, we don't have to like a womans personality to want to f**k her
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| 7/17/2014 11:35:36 PM |
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keyboardkat
Oklahoma City, OK
41, joined Feb. 2011
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if the date didnt work out for him, fine! but why does he have to kiss a person he doesn't like?
I have been asked for a kiss at the end of the day from someone I didn't like. My answer has been : no.
This is the reason I ask the opinion of a guy. Because his actions were opposite.
OK,that sounds more like a hail Mary from him.
He knew you didn't want to hook up, so he kissed you passionately to try and change your mind.
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| 7/18/2014 6:56:14 AM |
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giovanita1
Miami, FL
48, joined Oct. 2011
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Thank you for your reply.interesting to see a man's point of view.
We women think so different. We are worlds apart.
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| 7/18/2014 9:35:56 AM |
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maggiemagpie
Santee, CA
44, joined Mar. 2012
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Maybe you still had food on your lips. Was this a dinner date?
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| 7/18/2014 10:07:52 AM |
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mrtemaster
Fort Lauderdale, FL
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No, it is most defiantly not a trophy. Sometimes the kiss just doesn't fit. If it doesn't feel natural it can ruin the whole date.
Additionally, as good as things appear during the date, when you replay it in your head you notice little things that tell you to "stay away". I do think that they should at least tell you though. It sucks to just be left hanging.
I will say I've been kissed when I wasn't interested and you don't want to make someone feel flat out rejected by ducking them.
Also, why can't you just send them a text and ask if they want to go out again. I've found that I can say I had a great time and lets do it again, and then I never hear from the woman. I assume she is not interested. You may just be having bad communication and not a lack of interest on the second date. Do they know you are interested in seeing them again? As a guy I can say that I don't want to guess. Just tell me.
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| 7/18/2014 12:22:32 PM |
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righttwix
Fort Garland, CO
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Thank you for your reply.interesting to see a man's point of view.
We women think so different. We are worlds apart.
The old men from mars women from venus reality
In plainer terms I see it as different motivational factors, all of it driven by sex on both sides but for a man
We provide safety, support, housing and other life expenses (don't go off like I'm a chauvinist, men do make more money, women do most of the shopping) etc.. to earn the sex they want
For women, they give sex for the things a man does, once they get the safety, etc... the sex starts, one niters excluded of course
In his mind he had provided food, and entertainment, looking for payoff, you didn't feel safe or secure so didn't give it and he bailed
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| 7/19/2014 2:22:10 PM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
45, joined Sep. 2011
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I have the problem of overthinking things and you might be overthinking this situation. Obviously they weren't into you and maybe thought the last kiss you would jump there b0nes.
The guys who truly like you will hold out and kiss you when the time is right.
Chalk it up and move on.
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| 7/19/2014 7:13:37 PM |
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giovanita1
Miami, FL
48, joined Oct. 2011
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No. But if idid have food in my teeth. Why would he kissed me? Your comment makes no sense.
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| 7/19/2014 8:15:31 PM |
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righttwix
Fort Garland, CO
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if you were talking to me I said nothing about food in your teeth,
I was referring more to the way we are naturally programmed as men are suppliers and women are nurturers and the differences in how we react based on that unconscious instinct
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| 7/19/2014 9:24:58 PM |
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mscool64
Moreno Valley, CA
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I agree on the part of he wanted more. and didnt want to spend any more money on dates not getting the more he wanted.
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| 7/20/2014 4:15:37 PM |
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bayviewguy
Los Fresnos, TX
59, joined Sep. 2011
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You do know it is perfectly ok for you to call him, ask him out. Make it some place you can afford. Pay. Do the guy's trick in picking a place you both could kill time in, in a fun way in case somebody is delayed. If you still like him, then call him after that second date, again and boldly arrange making love, when, where, how. A guy melts when you do that, believe me. Darlene, Anna, and Jean did those sorts of things and they add up to over 20 years of fun great relationships.
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| 7/31/2014 5:06:41 PM |
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forumfriendly2
Norfolk, VA
39, joined Sep. 2013
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she likes blonde guys with blue eyes...anybody seen one around here?
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| 8/2/2014 5:23:24 PM |
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ladybugruth58
Patton, PA
57, joined Feb. 2014
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if his kiss didn't make my panties wet, im not calling his a** back.
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| 8/7/2014 1:14:24 PM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
34, joined Jul. 2012
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I agree on the part of he wanted more. and didnt want to spend any more money on dates not getting the more he wanted.
This
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| 8/8/2014 12:26:34 AM |
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larena40
Lemon Grove, CA
43, joined Jan. 2014
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Being polite.
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| 8/8/2014 2:27:24 AM |
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ltlwing
Winchester, OH
52, joined Oct. 2013
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OK,that sounds more like a hail Mary from him.
He knew you didn't want to hook up, so he kissed you passionately to try and change your mind.
This....he didn't get what he was there for.No use pursuing what one is not getting.I have had this happen on more than one occasion. What I don't understand is your confusion by it,it can only be 1 or 3 things??
1...No attraction.
2...He got no play.
3...He is not looking for a relationship,but you are.
I think you dodged the bullet....be glad.
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| 8/9/2014 4:14:25 AM |
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
48, joined Aug. 2013
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Who knows why people do half the crap they do?
I've been told soooo many things over the years. I now only let actions dictate a person's true character.
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| 8/9/2014 10:37:32 PM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
49, joined Apr. 2013
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Haven't you ever kissed a man and it was not enticing? Awkward! Especially when they call you for another date and all you can think about is how bad the kiss was...ugh!
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| 8/10/2014 10:41:53 AM |
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fearless8841
North Pole, AK
42, joined Jan. 2012
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"First of all, if you can not take rejection, don't contact me."
But you make threads about when you're rejected?
Nice catch!
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| 8/10/2014 10:46:16 AM |
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testsignup
Springfield, VA
62, joined Sep. 2009
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Not once but twice, i had this kind of dates.
The guy kisses me at the end of the date...so i figured, there is chemistry. Well, after the date ends, ?? I never hear from them.
Mind you, i behave like a lady during the whole date. No sexual inuendos, no slutty comments or flirting. Just a clean chat, getting to know the person. Kidding around here and there. So, What gives?!!!
Is a kiss the new trophy of the dating game? If he dod not like me, why did he kiss me???
Any input from the guy's point of view?
Yag.
First, the answer, OP: guys kiss women on dates, including first dates, in order to FIND OUT things. Just like everything else we do on dates. We don't kiss you (or hold the car door, or pay for the meal, or wear cologne, or comb our hair) as a way to offer you a formal contractualized arrangement. We kiss you to find out if we like kissing you. Duh.
After reading your profile and this post, I think that clearly you very much DO want a contract.
I suggest therefore that the solution in your case is simple: since your expectations are unique and unusual and specific (you consider all kisses to be much more than a kiss, they are declarations of FUTURE intentions, not enjoyments of you in the moment), then write them out and have the guy read and sign BEFORE the date, that he understands your tight regulations. That should put an end to kisses that occur for reasons outside your narrow goals and rules.
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| 8/10/2014 11:55:08 AM |
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msreddbone45
Tampa, FL
52, joined Jun. 2011
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I heard this is supposed to be a sex site,not a dating site,Men think they are gonna hit it,but it doesn't always work out that way,women need to respect themselves,I been there in the same boat,I just shrug it off and move on,Have a Blessed day...
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| 8/11/2014 4:04:46 AM |
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mvlovemv
Bell, CA
27, joined Jul. 2014
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Not interested
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| 8/12/2014 7:05:02 PM |
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theringhand
Kalamazoo, MI
36, joined Jul. 2014
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I'd want to know how many dates you've been on in your career total so we could figure out a percentage of times it didn't happen, then we can determine if other people have been more or less fortunate than you so we can devote the compassion in the appropriate direction.
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