Except both of my Ex-wives never showed their true "colors" until after we were married.
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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[uoyommeheader]Quote from ronleeseberg:
Too often the guy is good enough until they are married and then she expects him to change. Too many get the man to the alter and then try to alter the man. If you did not love me the way I am, then why did you love me?
I'm sorry but I have a difficult time trying to understand why anyone expects to change their s/o..you should have discovered if you're compatible before going further into the relationship..if not then why not move on to finding the right one for you..trying to change anyone just sets the relationship up for failure..it doesn't work trying to change anyone..my Mr right should fit me like a glove (metaphorically speaking)..
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purplerider1200
South Bend, IN
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I've found plenty that want to do that. Or want to push the boundaries.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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Except both of my Ex-wives never showed their true "colors" until after we were married.
Very true. Sometimes that is the case.
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
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No. I'm usually myself on dates. Most men like me. I don't like them, that's usually the problem.  I've grown very picky in the last 5 years after dating some horrible men. At this point a man will have to be fascinating in a lot of ways in order to gain a first date and especially a second date with me. 
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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No. I'm usually myself on dates. Most men like me. I don't like them, that's usually the problem. I've grown very picky in the last 5 years after dating some horrible men. At this point a man will have to be fascinating in a lot of ways in order to gain a first date and especially a second date with me.
Well I guess that leaves me out, explains a lot, I'm pretty average.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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Well I guess that leaves me out, explains a lot, I'm pretty average.
Average is good...a**holes are not.
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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Average is good...a**holes are not.
Really????
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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Really????
Yes. Some women like myself like average. Why is that hard to believe? I think the men who jump right in and tell a women how awesome and wonderful he is are the ones who in real life are a-hole conceited bastards.
Average is good. Go to work, have some hobbies and is loyal to friends, lovers and family.
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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Yes. Some women like myself like average. Why is that hard to believe? I think the men who jump right in and tell a women how awesome and wonderful he is are the ones who in real life are a-hole conceited bastards.
Average is good. Go to work, have some hobbies and is loyal to friends, lovers and family.
Some how I wish the women in my area read this. 
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mboots31
Albion, NE
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Some how I wish the women in my area read this.
That seems to be the going rate in this state.
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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Tell me about it.
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purplerider1200
South Bend, IN
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The ones that will accept average, I think are all taken. Like the good guys that women look for.
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areyoumyking
Madison Heights, VA
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I myself prefer the average man,they are not stuck on themselves.They are the ones that long for a relationship with unconditional love, respect and honesty. The above average guy is stuck on himself and thinks he is God's gift to women.
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jr6908
Columbia, MO
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I just try to be myself n go with the flow
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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I myself prefer the average man,they are not stuck on themselves.They are the ones that long for a relationship with unconditional love, respect and honesty. The above average guy is stuck on himself and thinks he is God's gift to women.
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cavie59
Enid, OK
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Apparently not far enough, I am still single and dateless.
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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Yeah, me too. I feel like the white crayon most of the time.
Back on track now. I figure if she likes me as I am...great, in not....oh well.
At my age I will adapt, but change....not so much. So I guess if I ever impress another woman again......maybe this time it will be forever.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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I figure if she likes me as I am...great, in not....oh well.
At my age I will adapt, but change....not so much. So I guess if I ever impress another woman again......maybe this time it will be forever.
Good attitude!
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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I'm much better in person. I can use both hands, terrible typer.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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Apparently not far enough, I am still single and dateless.
Hang in there
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john052
Langley, BC
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Every Woman, I meet, always end up attached...
Been Single & dateless since Dec 1999
Impress..?
Flowers & poetry
I'm a Romantic
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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I can do without the poetry on a date. Its ok if the guy is artistic and writes, but I just want to read his stuff and not have it read to me at a candlelight dinner.
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luckylouie42
Cedar Grove, WV
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poetry , GET REAL. 
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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Ok, I'm going to be serious now. First date would be a movie, or a meal, or both.
Good night kiss would be ok. If there could be a solid connection, might take a couple of months, then see where it could go. We're all adults here. We should all agree what the ultimate goal is, so why rush. If it turns into long term, you have the rest of your lives for the fun stuff.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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If it turns into long term, you have the rest of your lives for the fun stuff.
Heck i want compatibility And fun (and i do not mean sex) from day one. Why wait?
I only want to impress someone with my personality and show them who i am and what i want out of life, let's hope he does the same.
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up2youandme
Chandler, AZ
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As far as the moon and back ...that is to say I have no limit ..if my insides tell me I can't survive the day without thinking of her then I put all the resources at my disposal to get her on a coffee date or at the very least a word , then the sky is the limit. ..
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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Heck i want compatibility And fun (and i do not mean sex) from day one. Why wait?
I only want to impress someone with my personality and show them who i am and what i want out of life, let's hope he does the same.
Damn it, I'm still in the wrong state.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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Damn it, I'm still in the wrong state.
I am finding a lot of guys i want to meet...unfortunately they all live thousands of miles away.
I am stuck with the bad boy 'pants around their lower a** cheek' thugs.
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dodge_ram_it04
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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I am finding a lot of guys i want to meet...unfortunately they all live thousands of miles away.
I am stuck with the bad boy 'pants around their lower a** cheek' thugs.
Yeah they're here too, their problem is obvious.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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Hell I got nothing to brag about.
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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Hell I got nothing to brag about.
I would argue that. You have a sense of humor, and appear to be above average intelligence.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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I would argue that. You have a sense of humor, and appear to be above average intelligence.
I'll agree
But I have nothing in life. I have crappy job and a car. Like i said nothing to brag about
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
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I haven't done anything to impress anyone. I guess that's why none of my dating relationships have worked out.
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purplerider1200
South Bend, IN
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If your car moves, and you have a job that pays some money, then you are ahead of those who don't have that. That's something, even if you don't like it.
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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If your car moves, and you have a job that pays some money, then you are ahead of those who don't have that. That's something, even if you don't like it.
Absolutely. last GF was on disability, food stamps, had lazy kids. I'll never do that again. Even crappy cars can be made better, even Fords.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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Even crappy cars can be made better, even Fords.
I am lucky at least I have a Toyota.
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upina_tree
Crestwood, KY
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I am guilty here. I am not even looking for a relationship right now. I just go to lunch or church with a couple of female friends for basic socialization away from work. But I find myself trying to boast and impress. I find myself feeling like I want to be of significance, or a little special. It is like I want them to see me higher than I feel about myself.
This is not who I want to be. If I ever have a special loving bond again, I don't want these charactoristics. I want to be able to treat her as an equal partner on all levels. I don't want to be center stage and let her ever feel insignificant.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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@utree^^^
When I talk to others I feel a bit sad, especially when talking to a date.
I feel I am nowhere in life. For 44 and have nothing to brag about. I haven't traveled much, my job sucks, divorced, I have no kids to talk about, I rent a room and my car has reached 304,000 miles.
Not that I would brag anyway about myself to impress someone. I just feel I can not bring "it" to the table. What can I offer someone?
I do volunteer my time for the forest department. That's all
I got to brag about.
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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Bragging is another form of lying. I just tell it like it is. If I impress someone...great, if not....oh well. Love me/hate me, it doesn't matter. Because at the end of the day....the only human I have to answer to.....IS ME.
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upina_tree
Crestwood, KY
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You have everything pink! Life is living. Living is everything. You have your own unique history. You have a heart that knows how to give through volunteerism. That is a unique class in itself. You bring smiles to a community of people by sharing in these posts. Girl, you have so, so, so much.
Men are different beings. We bring different things to the relationship. Ours tends to be a more mechanical mind. We feel accomplished by bringing a smile to your face and by providing for those we love.
Your tools are much different and very much appreciated. Women tend to be the nurturer. You bring a tender heart and patience to the relationship. I don't really want a lady who doesn't need me, or who can fix the car better than me.
You have much more than you are giving yourself credit for.
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upina_tree
Crestwood, KY
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Sorry...I just realized you are PICKY and not pink.
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purplerider1200
South Bend, IN
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Life is who you are. Not what you have. Very few manage to build a legacy that everyone remembers forever. Some try, and fail miserably. What's important is that you be you. Be someone that others can count on. The most piddly job may not seem like much, but if you do it correctly, and no one had to watch over you while you did it, You have true value.
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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Life is who you are. Not what you have. Very few manage to build a legacy that everyone remembers forever. Some try, and fail miserably. What's important is that you be you. Be someone that others can count on. The most piddly job may not seem like much, but if you do it correctly, and no one had to watch over you while you did it, You have true value.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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Bragging is another form of lying
You are right. I guess bragging isn't the word I'am looking for. And again I am who I am like me or not. My problem is I compare my life with others and get sad when i am not at their level. I am learning (slowly) that my life is MY life and my reality should be accepted as is. And its definitely up to me to change things. I feel a little lost sometimes.
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digitaldog
Grove, OK
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You are right. I guess bragging isn't the word I'am looking for. And again I am who I am like me or not. My problem is I compare my life with others and get sad when i am not at their level. I am learning (slowly) that my life is MY life and my reality should be accepted as is. And its definitely up to me to change things. I feel a little lost sometimes.
My Dear Sweet Ms. pickygirl72 ,  
Listen up Baby-Cakes, no need to ever feel lost about ANYthing...
Were I about 15 years younger ...
I'd already be at your place,
stretched out on your sofa asking:
" Hey Honey-Bunny what's for supper..?? "...
With me you life might be a LOT of things..
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BUT " lost "...
is NOT one of em..!!!....
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And the TRUTH be told..:
i is a lover not a fighter...
So if sex, food, or marriage is out of the question..
Then just send me money
and
 
-XoXoXoX-
 
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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You are right. I guess bragging isn't the word I'am looking for. And again I am who I am like me or not. My problem is I compare my life with others and get sad when i am not at their level. I am learning (slowly) that my life is MY life and my reality should be accepted as is. And its definitely up to me to change things. I feel a little lost sometimes.
OK, honestly stating things about yourself (honestly) is not bragging. I have found that listening to another person's story usually helps me learn something, and find common ground. You know things in common. I am trying to be serious here, not judgmental.
So, if we were sitting across a table, I would listen to learn about you. Not judge, but try to figure out if we had enough things in common to make a good go of it. Then maybe go further.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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No, average talking and learning about someone is no a bad thing. And if someone shows passion in what they do or proud of something they have accomplished well thats not bragging or being conceited.
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imlookin4sum1
El Cajon, CA
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Depends on who it is Right??
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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No, average talking and learning about someone is no a bad thing. And if someone shows passion in what they do or proud of something they have accomplished well thats not bragging or being conceited.
Exactly, this is what I was trying, and failed, to say earlier.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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^^^sorry for confusion
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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^^^sorry for confusion
All good, sometimes I get tongue-tied. I try to say nice things, and it comes out wrong.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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All good, sometimes I get tongue-tied. I try to say nice things, and it comes out wrong.
happens to all of us. We get caught up in the moment and sometimes things are said and then afterwards we say "oh f**k"
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jrbogie1949
Ventura, CA
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i'd go as far as being myself to impress someone. the first priority for any kind of personal relationship with me is ya gotta like who i am.
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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i'd go as far as being myself to impress someone. the first priority for any kind of personal relationship with me is ya gotta like who i am.
In agree love me/hate me, doesn't matter to me. I'm going to be me.
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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stargazzer
Creighton, NE
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i'd go as far as being myself to impress someone. the first priority for any kind of personal relationship with me is ya gotta like who i am.
Oh man you make it tough for the Ladys
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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We are all imperfect. Deal with it
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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Except me.....
OK seriously....my flaws make me interesting, some even call me "special".
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
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^^^yes you are "special"...
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