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bevmelchor
Salisbury, NC
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I don't understand why some men make you think they really like you. you meet have dinner everything goes great he comes back to your house then we go back to his house. we talk twice a day for a month then we meet again I go out in the big truck with him on his job we have a great time have dinner later that day I spend the night get up and go to work the next day and then nothing absolutely nothing no text no call nothing ...what happened ???guess I'll never know why some men don't have balls to tell the truth and be honest at our age be honest we are all adults.
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| 11/22/2014 9:41:00 PM |
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truckerdaddy915
El Paso, TX
41, joined Feb. 2014
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That night you spend with him, did you summer his sausage?
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| 11/22/2014 10:08:06 PM |
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pickygirl72
Barrow, AK
45, joined Sep. 2011
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Who knows. Well if he decides to call/text you out of the blue tell him to go f**k himself .
You're to good to sit around waiting for this fool. Chalk it up as a few months of fun and let the hurt feeling go and move on. Good luck.
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| 11/23/2014 6:55:17 AM |
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theloser2123
Manassas, VA
24, joined Apr. 2014
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)
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| 11/23/2014 8:48:38 AM |
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
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I'm not a licensed, clinical, psychologist....I just play one on tv.
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| 11/23/2014 11:37:16 AM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
51, joined Jul. 2013
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Seem like he only wanted one thing,
Next time u go out on a date, make sure he's really into u, a month is not
a lot of time
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| 11/23/2014 11:38:53 AM |
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zimzane2
High Point, NC
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| 11/23/2014 4:18:35 PM |
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inde_5
Bonaire, GA
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I'm not a licensed, clinical, psychologist....I just play one on tv.
I'm on Jerry Springer , a lot.
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| 11/23/2014 5:09:24 PM |
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lisasjersey
Harrisonville, NJ
45, joined Jul. 2013
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Maybe he was in an accident or maybe he died.
Or maybe he thought you were bad in bed.
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| 11/23/2014 7:09:45 PM |
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
50, joined Nov. 2014
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I just don't know. Need more information. Did either of you have brown paper bags over your head? If he did....he's married. If you did....he used you for sex.
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| 11/23/2014 9:08:03 PM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
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some and most here arent adults,but the meanest cruelest heartless b*tches alive,no, never give a second chance or forgive if he,s sorry, i wouldnt do as he did nevr have, but i aint perect either, an why im on this vile place i dont know, yep everyones cold answer is screw him or whoever, ,,do to all people the way you wantthem to doto you, but thes e say do before he does to you, im gonna go an create a datin site for people that are nice,haha, so cruel.  what did happen to him,i lost it all,
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| 11/23/2014 9:09:50 PM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
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did he ever come back etc,what happened...
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| 11/23/2014 10:29:06 PM |
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bevmelchor
Salisbury, NC
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Thanks for all the responses. No I have never heard from him. I see him online so at least I know he is alright. His loss because I am one terrific chick. 
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| 11/23/2014 10:33:06 PM |
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b2cold
Elk Grove Village, IL
36, joined Mar. 2014
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How long? Don't take it so serious
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| 11/24/2014 6:43:37 AM |
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testsignup
Springfield, VA
62, joined Sep. 2009
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Ah come on. MOST of the time at least, it's not some sort of crafty plot. Most of us aren't that clever, no matter what we might pretend.
Complain all you want, that "we're adults," but come on. In my entire life, I have never even ONCE seen a parent train a kid to politely say "that suck sucked," nor are there any movies or plays or other such teaching systems, that present any society with a formal, relaxed, and universally accepted way to say "Oops! I was wrong, I don't want to have sex with you regularly after all!"
Face it. The ONLY things our entire society prepares us to do when we're disappointed with someone, is to yell insults at them, or sue them, or quietly walk away.
And by the way, I've directly witnessed a lot of people complaining after someone fades away like that, and I've also witnessed a few hardy souls who tried to "man up" and spell out that things weren't going to work out. And guess what? Only one in a hundred of the direct communicators got away without being punished for telling the truth.
I'm not saying that this is desirable. I'm with you, I'd like there to be a way to say "on second thought, never mind" without it feeling as though the person dumping you has thrown you into a pile of dung, spat in your face, and laughed as they chased after the next target. But unfortunately, on this highly competitive planet, that's just the way it is.
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testsignup
Springfield, VA
62, joined Sep. 2009
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Actually, there's another thread here where a woman is complaining because some guy told her (or her "friend") he "didn't feel a spark."
Perfect example of a case where someone tried to politely beg off, and as usual, they gets attacked and belittled for their thoughtful and direct communication.
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pike45
Omaha, NE
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He could have called, but he didnt. Life goes on. Forget about him.
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tchan1
Winston Salem, NC
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Just leave him alone and go find someone else because he is not into u he got into u once and now he's gone better luck next time
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| 11/24/2014 8:39:29 PM |
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4uijack
New Port Richey, FL
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I don't understand why some men make you think they really like you. you meet have dinner everything goes great he comes back to your house then we go back to his house. we talk twice a day for a month then we meet again I go out in the big truck with him on his job we have a great time have dinner later that day I spend the night get up and go to work the next day and then nothing absolutely nothing no text no call nothing ...what happened ???guess I'll never know why some men don't have balls to tell the truth and be honest at our age be honest we are all adults.
Do you still swallow?
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pickygirl72
Barrow, AK
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Glad you are staying positive about that situation. Sounds like you have good self esteem.
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| 11/29/2014 7:43:05 PM |
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s_tunn_a
Cope, CO
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| 11/30/2014 5:26:46 PM |
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miss_whitewol
Albany, IN
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Its happened to me a few times. Sometimes they just stop chating all together. The men om here talk a good game. But when it comes to meeting in person they dont have the balls to do it. Then cant tell u why they just stoped or dtood u up. U would think men in there 40''s and 50''s would be more mature. NOT.
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| 11/30/2014 6:33:12 PM |
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forumfriendly2
Norfolk, VA
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he probably thought you were really full figured ....instead he got morbidly obese
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| 12/1/2014 5:29:19 PM |
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cathyb4749221
Adrian, MI
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Same thing here , I'm completely confused and absolutely heart broken .I would hope to God I never make some one feel this bad....and at Christmas ...
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| 12/1/2014 6:03:28 PM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
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Christmas is a month away. What does a holiday have to do with wether or not it is appropriate to end or walk away from a relationship?
Should I assume that people that end relationships around holidays should not because it is better to pretend to want to be with the person and continue to lead them on for the sake of the holiday? Is this what Jesus would do?
WTH!
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| 12/2/2014 12:57:47 PM |
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
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Yeah it's annoying because you don't get any closure from the situation based on how he handled it. I'm glad that I can do tarot card readings on people combined with my intuition to know what happened from their side of the fence. That's how I give my own self closure to heal and move on.
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| 12/2/2014 1:01:06 PM |
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pike45
Omaha, NE
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Same thing here , I'm completely confused and absolutely heart broken .I would hope to God I never make some one feel this bad....and at Christmas ...
He didnt want to get you a X-mas gift. He will be back after Valentines Day.
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| 12/2/2014 1:49:41 PM |
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mehbleh
Glendale, AZ
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what happened ?
That's pretty easy.
All this?
dinner everything goes great he comes back to your house then we go back to his house. we talk twice a day for a month then we meet again I go out in the big truck with him on his job we have a great time have dinner later that day I spend the night
Was just to get you to like him.
Once he feels secure in his knowledge that you like him, he then decides on whether or not he really likes you.
You know how people think women have the power in choosing?
Women get to choose who they have sex with. They don't get to choose who will be attracted to them, they don't get to choose who will stick around.
They get a powerful choice, but not the only one.
All the peac*cking, and posturing, and competing, and chasing, is all to get you to choose them, choose to give them a chance, choose to like them, judge them as potential mates, choose to start to bond, by choosing to have sex with them.
But men get a choice after that, of whether or not they want to stick around.
That's what happens.
Your choice doesn't finalize the decision or establish reality or the relationship.
Your choice only sets up his choices.
Until you choose a guy to date, to go out with, to sleep with, almost all behavior is just to get you to make that choice.
Once you've made your choice the guy is going to stop working on trying to get you to choose him and focus on deciding whether or not he really wants to choose you.
If he doesn't, then he has few options.
1. Tell you. Either be blunt about it and tell you to f off, or try to do it in a socially acceptable way by lying (e.g. you're a great person, but..., or, let's be friends) while attempting to maintain the facade of consistency, thereby setting up dissonance in the idea of being an honest and good person. Self judgment.
2.Completely contradict all the behavior you've experienced up to that point, since neither of you realize what it truly is, a mating ritual and dance to get you to value him as a potential mate. Thereby setting up judgments of calling him a liar, two face, player, dishonest, etc. Social judgment.
3. Disappear, just move on in life and start over with someone else, avoiding all judgment, conflict, and dissonance.
at our age be honest we are all adults.
Being an adult has more to do with knowledge and responsibility than age.
And honesty has nothing to do with being an adult.
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sweetsiren1234
Smithtown, NY
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^^^ According to this, either way women are screwed...literally and figuratively
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| 12/3/2014 11:46:31 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
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I don't understand why some men make you think they really like you. you meet have dinner everything goes great he comes back to your house then we go back to his house. we talk twice a day for a month then we meet again I go out in the big truck with him on his job we have a great time have dinner later that day I spend the night get up and go to work the next day and then nothing absolutely nothing no text no call nothing ...what happened ???guess I'll never know why some men don't have balls to tell the truth and be honest at our age be honest we are all adults.
They are probably being nice to your face just to get through the date. I've done that with
men I've gone out with before. It's a lot easier than saying "I made a
mistake and have to leave now" or just leaving you sitting there while they pretend to go
to the bathroom and leave the place, right? Just move on and take a little more time next
time getting to know someone before putting all your cards on that one person. I have never
in my life had a date that was so good I was down and out about the person never calling
again. Screw them! They lost out. Not me.   
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| 12/5/2014 2:15:08 PM |
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plantkeeper
Alexandria, VA
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Plain and simple; he just wanted to sleep with you... Men are so sad now days.. Sorry OP..
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| 12/5/2014 2:29:36 PM |
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demdoog
Syracuse, NY
56, joined May. 2014
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Ah come on. MOST of the time at least, it's not some sort of crafty plot. Most of us aren't that clever, no matter what we might pretend.
Complain all you want, that "we're adults," but come on. In my entire life, I have never even ONCE seen a parent train a kid to politely say "that suck sucked," nor are there any movies or plays or other such teaching systems, that present any society with a formal, relaxed, and universally accepted way to say "Oops! I was wrong, I don't want to have sex with you regularly after all!"
Face it. The ONLY things our entire society prepares us to do when we're disappointed with someone, is to yell insults at them, or sue them, or quietly walk away.
And by the way, I've directly witnessed a lot of people complaining after someone fades away like that, and I've also witnessed a few hardy souls who tried to "man up" and spell out that things weren't going to work out. And guess what? Only one in a hundred of the direct communicators got away without being punished for telling the truth.
I'm not saying that this is desirable. I'm with you, I'd like there to be a way to say "on second thought, never mind" without it feeling as though the person dumping you has thrown you into a pile of dung, spat in your face, and laughed as they chased after the next target. But unfortunately, on this highly competitive planet, that's just the way it is.
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| 12/8/2014 2:42:20 AM |
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thagurl79
Stanford, KY
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Guys are jerks these days. Good men rarely exist
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| 12/8/2014 11:41:44 PM |
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arisl
Wallingford, CT
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How about going on several dates fir over a month to find out he got engaged 2 weeks before our first date? 
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| 12/9/2014 8:48:26 PM |
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chuwee99
New Port Richey, FL
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Maybe you 2 had nothing in common, except sex, or maybe you are out of his league, it cold be many things, like you said its his loss, don't forget that.
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| 12/23/2014 8:36:03 AM |
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chitowngirl78
Oak Lawn, IL
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I don't understand why some men make you think they really like you. you meet have dinner everything goes great he comes back to your house then we go back to his house. we talk twice a day for a month then we meet again I go out in the big truck with him on his job we have a great time have dinner later that day I spend the night get up and go to work the next day and then nothing absolutely nothing no text no call nothing ...what happened ???guess I'll never know why some men don't have balls to tell the truth and be honest at our age be honest we are all adults.
Oh well, his loss... move on
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| 12/26/2014 2:19:06 PM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Norfolk, VA
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@bev
I think he only wanted to have sex. He got what he wanted from u. So he left in a hurry. He is a user. He used women.
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| 12/26/2014 2:21:27 PM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Norfolk, VA
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Bev, don't chase after someone that don't want u. It's a waste of time & effort. Move on, find someone else. There is more than one fish in the sea.
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| 12/27/2014 4:16:38 PM |
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
40, joined Jun. 2014
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He just lost interest, it can happen.
It happens to us women too sometimes:
we go out, we have a great time, mabe we even get intimate, we meet again...but, for some reason, we are not into him, is missing intimacy, or connection....
Then, in order to avoid to hurt the person, or having someone angry at you tell you nasty things, you may just stop calling or taking calls.
Yes it will be better to be honest and say: "I am not that into you" but where is the point of creating a drama??
That is the "game" of dating: sometime the spark get deeper and sometimes it just fades away.
No communication is a clear message, just get it, say to yourself that he wasn't the right guy for you and move on with your life. 
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| 12/27/2014 4:19:41 PM |
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
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Guys are jerks these days. Good men rarely exist
Come on!
Things go both ways.
And sometimes things work out great! 
Don't be negative just take it how it is and try to have fun.
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| 12/27/2014 5:53:49 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
48, joined Jan. 2012
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Quote from packersbabe920:
Seem like he only wanted one thing,
Next time u go out on a date, make sure he's really into u, a month is not
a lot of time
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I agree. I never have sex with someone on the first date. I make them wait for it. They need to get to know the real me before just taking advantage of me. That way at least I know they left for other reasons and not just to get a piece of a$$ first and then leave.
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| 12/27/2014 6:10:52 PM |
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
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Actually, there's another thread here where a woman is complaining because some guy told her (or her "friend") he "didn't feel a spark."
Perfect example of a case where someone tried to politely beg off, and as usual, they gets attacked and belittled for their thoughtful and direct communication.
Right!!
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| 12/27/2014 9:00:20 PM |
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hunter12gauge
Bellaire, OH
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@ stregaleonora
Man I'm sure glad I never went out with you. If your mature enough to get involved in a relationship,you should be mature enough to end it. running away is a sure sign of immaturity. and believe me I know. 
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| 12/27/2014 9:53:52 PM |
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
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@ stregaleonora
Man I'm sure glad I never went out with you. If your mature enough to get involved in a relationship,you shougld be mature enough to end it. running away is a sure sign of immaturity. and believe me I know.
But this lady was not in a relationship.
I don't know what is your definition of a relationship, but to me a few dates do not necessarily qualify as a relationship.
For what it concerns me, the guys I I was talking about and who get angry and nasty are guys whom I date once or twice and I did not feel the spark (is still a free country right?)
Well, usually they got angry if you tell them goodbye and they got angry if you don't tell them goodbye.
Don't worry, that any man I have been, or I will ever be in a relationship with, is smarter than that.
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| 12/28/2014 1:32:33 PM |
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dill510
Albany, CA
38, joined Dec. 2012
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)
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| 12/29/2014 10:47:30 PM |
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b2cold
Elk Grove Village, IL
36, joined Mar. 2014
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I once wreaked something that "maybe" could of been bcuz I took it to serious. Live n learn right
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| 12/30/2014 2:49:03 PM |
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chitowngirl78
Oak Lawn, IL
38, joined May. 2014
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Its happened to me a few times. Sometimes they just stop chating all together. The men om here talk a good game. But when it comes to meeting in person they dont have the balls to do it. Then cant tell u why they just stoped or dtood u up. U would think men in there 40''s and 50''s would be more mature. NOT.
Its ok... They did you a favor and you most likely dodged the proverbial bullet. Life goes on...
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| 12/31/2014 12:47:20 AM |
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goodwomanlost
Jacksonville, FL
54, joined Feb. 2013
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He got what he was after. ....put a notch in his belt and is off to the next conquest. Suck it up buttercup. You know what happened.
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| 12/31/2014 9:18:55 AM |
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jerseysouth
Aiken, SC
74, joined Jan. 2008
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Seem like he only wanted one thing,
Next time u go out on a date, make sure he's really into u, a month is not
a lot of time
And during that month he was getting it from someone else, passing the time til he could get you. Sorry
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| 1/2/2015 5:42:11 PM |
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nursecutie32
Novi, MI
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he probably thought you were really full figured ....instead he got morbidly obese
Men like you are bitter because the penis size you were born with you still have as adult ..... Rude ugly a**
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| 1/2/2015 7:11:00 PM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
50, joined Apr. 2013
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Plain and simple; he just wanted to sleep with you... Men are so sad now days.. Sorry OP..
I think it is partially this.
I mean partially because he did spend a lot of time chatting with her over the phone.
My guess...the sex wasn't what he was expecting...like it didn't meet his expectations.
If it was great he would have called for seconds, thirds, fourths....just being realistic.
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mr_bigguy1973
Urbana, OH
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| 1/4/2015 7:48:45 PM |
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mrjose1
Chicago, IL
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Sorry to tell you but,.....you got played for sex. Some guys tend to do that, gives the rest of us a bad name,...... don't dwell on it,..and don't give up searching for the right person for you....
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| 1/4/2015 8:06:05 PM |
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mztee83
Chicago, IL
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Maybe he was in an accident or maybe he died.
Or maybe he thought you were bad in bed.
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| 1/4/2015 8:14:15 PM |
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mztee83
Chicago, IL
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Not sure what his problem was. He's just a jerk! He could've at least told you what the problem was, instead of ignoring you and not calling. I've actually met a guy online 2 yrs ago. We talked off and on. I finally went on a date with him Oct 2014 and he's the sweetest guy. We've been going out since october and so far so good. Everybody isn't a jerk.
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| 1/4/2015 8:18:38 PM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
58, joined Jul. 2010
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Relationships run their course.
At times it's a short course.
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| 1/5/2015 4:33:46 PM |
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2013ready
Sylvania, OH
40, joined Aug. 2012
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Women and us men do it, hell I had an interview and it went well, the interviewer said he would get back to me , that was in November son of a bitsh
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| 1/5/2015 4:45:59 PM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
50, joined Apr. 2013
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Women and us men do it, hell I had an interview and it went well, the interviewer said he would get back to me , that was in November son of a bitsh
The company I worked for was hiring a new mechanic. Everyone liked this one guy as he worked with us before. Everyone all excited when he comes in for his interview. He aces the interview, shakes everyone's hand and leaves. Company doesn't hire him. He doesn't push in his chair when he leaves the interview and it was said if he can't be safe in the office he can't be safe in the plant. Guy missed the opportunity for a six figure job because of that one interview mistake. Perception is not always reality!
Most unemployment offices have interviewing classes for free including skill building. They have books and practice questions and exercises... Good luck with your search.
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nardijakaj91
Abano Terme
Italy
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I was droped after a great relationship , i wanted to marry her but she found and army guy and she left me for him . . .
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| 1/7/2015 11:32:24 AM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
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Unfortunately that happens quite a bit OP. There's a radio show called second date update where they call the person who disappeared. You'd be surprised at all the different reasons given.
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