| 11/29/2014 5:38:52 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
47, joined Jan. 2012
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I say the "older ladies" because I assume you may have encountered this more than the younger ones. And I do consider myself an older lady too btw.  But if you were seeing a man in a FWB scenario and he can never get it up but he wants to would you keep seeing him? And he also has a very small tool too. He is a little older than me. Just curious. I am in that position now with someone I've had FWB about 20 years ago. We just started at it again and it's few and far between when it happens but it is happening. He has a very hard time getting it up and can cum while it's soft but we do everything but actual sex. He doesn't want to use Viagra but could and I won't push it. I just like the time with him. I think it's fun no matter what we do. He's hot no matter what.
Anyone ever encountered anything close to this type of situation?
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| 11/30/2014 3:51:29 AM |
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oppsiidazi
Orr, MN
45, joined Oct. 2014
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if you were seeing a man in a FWB scenario and he can never get it up but he wants to would you keep seeing him? And he also has a very small tool too.
No, i wouldn't.
He doesn't want to use Viagra but could and I won't push it. I just like the time with him. I think it's fun no matter what we do. He's hot no matter what.
^ it sounds like, for you, there's more emotional involvement and it is keeping you from pushing the fact that he will/should use Viagra in satisfying your needs.
Anyone ever encountered anything close to this type of situation?
no. i've never crossed the emotional boundaries of a FWB relationship; nor, would i stay in a FWB relationship if my sexual needs were not being met.
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| 11/30/2014 11:52:48 AM |
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aladytoo
Monroe, WI
59, joined Apr. 2006
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Op since I have never been in a FWB visitation.I don't have the answer.But Have been in a sound relationship,with a man that had ED.Never once did I feel he was less of a man.Was one of the best relationships I had every had.At the time wasn't willing to move to a new state,because of his job.
Not that he doesn't still contact me either,and still remains hopeful.
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| 11/30/2014 2:12:35 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
50, joined Jul. 2013
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I never had a fwb, so I really don't know what to say, but still in all u still seem to be enjoying him, I say continue u will know if that's enough for u
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| 11/30/2014 8:02:54 PM |
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duchessa
Yonkers, NY
62, joined Aug. 2008
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OP, the fact you are asking us should be enough of a RED FLAG. See, if you were really happy and pleased you wouldn't be asking around.
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| 12/1/2014 10:34:51 PM |
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mtrctylady
Canton, MI
67, joined Sep. 2013
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I guess I'm the only one who's been in both scenario -- FWB and in a LTR -- with both guys who had ED. I understand what you're saying. You enjoy the intimacy, even though he can't perform. And, there are more than one way to please a woman.  But, at my "young" age of 66, I'm not expecting more -- to my dismay cause I'm definitely not a cougar (no one more than 5 years senior/junior).  There were times when "the pill" worked, and times when it didn't. [NOTE TO OP: I'm trying to keep my response "PG-17" rated. ]
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| 12/2/2014 12:27:16 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
47, joined Jan. 2012
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Thank you for the nice comments ladies. For the one who didn't comment nicely that's just because you have a personal issue with me in particular and I'm not gay and already politely declined you long ago  You're just butt hurt.
I really am glad some of you responded. I do like this person and it's someone I've been with many times and the first time was many, many years ago before I even married and had children. So I have more of a closeness with the person that goes beyond sex. But neither of us ever want it to go beyond that.
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| 12/24/2014 2:56:13 PM |
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a4umposter
San Antonio, TX
48, joined Dec. 2014
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No I wouldn't. But I'm not into a FWB situation anyhow.
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| 12/25/2014 10:59:40 PM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
44, joined Sep. 2011
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I had a fwb for a very short time. He had a big d*ck. I didn't like it. He was way to horny for me. I love the cuddle time and the talks, but seriously I did not enjoy the sex, painful Ouch! I ended it. I will not do another fwb again. I was bored, I was just his play thing. No thanks. I want more than that.
I probably wouldn't mind if he couldn't get it up. For me its not about the sex, its about enjoying someones company, the touching, the companionship and just hanging out. Sure sex is something that two people do, but for me, well, I am just not that horny and my sex drive, well, its at a snails pace.
I know this is permanently on my profile for the guys to read, but its the truth.
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| 12/27/2014 1:32:04 PM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Washington, DC
44, joined Jan. 2014
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Wow, u are in a tough situation. I guess he can pleasure u in other ways. Oral sex. LOL
If intercourse is not a big deal to you. Then it shouldn't matter. Men aged too. Some of them even lose interest in sex. Some women lose interest in sex as they aged too.
I guess u are having fun together & the only thing u are missing out on is having Intercourse. If he finds other ways to pleasure u, then it's not incomplete is it? It's up to u if u see not having sexual intercourse with a man is incomplete or not. If u are satisfied without having sexual intercourse then just go on with your Merry, happy life. Ruff is elderly & she is still going at it like a 20 year old girl. It depends on the individual person & not the age of the person when it comes to being active at sex.
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| 12/27/2014 4:12:11 PM |
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cinnamonnhaze
Minneapolis, MN
51, joined Apr. 2014
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Wow, u are in a tough situation.....
Ruff is elderly......
Sorry Woods, but I tipped over laughing at this.
If you're "elderly", sign me up!!!
Sorry Sarah, it was all in fun. But us "old gals" still have a sense of humor - through all the aches & pains....
Thanks ladies! That was a good laugh for the day.
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| 12/28/2014 9:17:21 AM |
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cinnamonnhaze
Minneapolis, MN
51, joined Apr. 2014
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@ Miss Oppsiidazi
I see you're from Orr. (love Orr!!!)
I have a male friend in Orr. He's a great catch!!!
Are you single? Are you looking? I don't even know your age. lol. My guy friend is 32, smart, great shape, loves animals, does Yoga (for Pete's sake!).
Message me if you want any further info....
Oh Dear. I'm playing "match maker" on a dating site yet I never date.
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| 3/22/2015 2:55:32 PM |
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rcd5
Minot, ND
59, joined Aug. 2013
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To the first question at start of thread-Why would you have stayed that long?
[Edited 3/22/2015 2:57:07 PM ]
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| 3/23/2015 8:49:36 AM |
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cinnamonnhaze
Minneapolis, MN
51, joined Apr. 2014
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As an "older lady" I've learned a few things:
- sex isn't everything, but it is an important part
- stand up for yourself because no one is going to do it for you
- listen to that gut feeling; it's rarely ever wrong
- you can't change anyone; they have to want to do it for themselves
- make yourself your top priority or you won't be good for anyone else
Personally, I have never & would never be a FWB. Most of the men that want that type of agreement either suck at committement, are selfish or are just plain man HO's. Double or triple up on those condoms.
And if that doesn't resignate with any of you, I've got a picture of my friends brother & what happened to his FACE after having a girlfriend that is a tramp. His entire face is one big sexually transmitted scab!!!
Alady had the best advice: don't jump in bed until the man you want to be with has been tested - for everything!!! Try explaining to your boss why your face is covered in herpes.....
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| 3/25/2015 4:50:31 AM |
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aladytoo
Monroe, WI
59, joined Apr. 2006
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Before worrying if a man has ED,my concern would be worry about your own health and his.When choosing to be with multi people FWB,your risks run very high.
This day and age anyone you sleep with should be tested,never take anyones word,and I hope the partner would ask you to do the same.
I hate the lame excuse,I don't have insurance or it's costly, so is life,either protect it or carry the burden of STD's,and death to your future.
So is Sex really the concern?or if he can get it up???
I think your question can be addressed to any age. >>get your car facts first.
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| 4/8/2015 6:21:56 AM |
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ilovepoodles55
Schererville, IN
54, joined Feb. 2015
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I've never been in a FWB situation. If a man was respectful to me and I loved him I would deal with his ED. Acceptance is the key to a happy relationship.
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