| 12/1/2014 11:19:29 AM |
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freckleyez
Perrysburg, OH
37, joined Oct. 2014
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Just found out my ex has filed the paperwork. And while I am ready to done with him, he was an ass, liar, and cheater, I feel like I got shot with an arrow in my heart. I don't love him, I haven't been in love with him for a long time. I don't know why it hit me like this. Has anyone felt like this?
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| 12/1/2014 11:59:06 AM |
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shadygirl13
Lincoln, NE
45, joined Jun. 2010
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I think it's just because something you hoped would be forever didn't turn out to be. I was the same as you except I'm the one that filed. While it was a relief when it was finally done and over it's still sad and life as you knew it is changing.
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| 12/3/2014 9:47:37 AM |
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
56, joined Jan. 2014
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Just found out my ex has filed the paperwork. And while I am ready to done with him, he was an ass, liar, and cheater, I feel like I got shot with an arrow in my heart. I don't love him, I haven't been in love with him for a long time. I don't know why it hit me like this. Has anyone felt like this?
Yes, both times. The first is the worst. My 2nd wife lived in our house her own little world, long story. Had both kids with her.
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| 12/3/2014 6:48:40 PM |
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areyoumyking
Madison Heights, VA
44, joined Jun. 2014
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I was devastated, mind you my ex WAS a preacher. The life I had known was simply being turned upside down because he chose to cheat with someone from high school. He knew I would not file for divorce because I was the one to try and hold the marriage together. I had my separation papers a week after I left and the new female had moved in 8 days after I left. It is hard when you devote your time to one person and you love them unconditionally. The feeling is overwhelming when first receive your papers but eventually it does get easier.You often question what you could have done differently, remember it isn't your fault and that the other person isn't happy with themselves, otherwise they would do all they could to make the marriage last.
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| 12/5/2014 9:59:50 PM |
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ladiebugg55
Redding, CA
62, joined Jun. 2012
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I hadn't been in love with my ex-husband for a few years when he moved out..I was thrilled when he left because I had been putting off kicking him out and filing for divorce for a long time..so him leaving made it so much easier..when he admitted that he had been seeing someone the last 6 months of our marriage, I couldn't have been happier about it..strange to say I know, but I was worried about hurting him for so long..it was a peaceful friendly divorce start to finish..
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| 12/10/2014 9:34:38 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
49, joined Jan. 2012
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It hurts a lot when that person that promised to be with you forever is suddenly wanting a divorce. You just have to figure out a way to move on. 
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| 12/10/2014 9:37:23 AM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
49, joined Jan. 2012
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I was devastated, mind you my ex WAS a preacher. The life I had known was simply being turned upside down because he chose to cheat with someone from high school. He knew I would not file for divorce because I was the one to try and hold the marriage together. I had my separation papers a week after I left and the new female had moved in 8 days after I left. It is hard when you devote your time to one person and you love them unconditionally. The feeling is overwhelming when first receive your papers but eventually it does get easier.You often question what you could have done differently, remember it isn't your fault and that the other person isn't happy with themselves, otherwise they would do all they could to make the marriage last.
wow, your story sounds like mine. My ex-husband left me for his old high school girlfriend
as well. And we were heavily involved in our church but he wasn't a preacher. We had a
really good life, very full and involved and even though we weren't as close as most people
I see that are married it worked for us. After he left I realized it was best because he
just didn't love me the way a husband loves a wife and I was the same for him in return all
those years. But when his girlfriend left him a couple years ago and married another man a
few months later I do have to say I got a little kick out of that. He deserved it and I
told him before he left me and his kids that the woman was just using him to get free
from her ex-husband turned out I was right. I was right even AFTER our marriage was over.
LOL
  
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| 12/10/2014 9:38:04 AM |
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
56, joined Jan. 2014
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Which is real tough the first time, but very necessary. I was drunk most of the first 6 months the first time. I really don't recommend this, it really made matters worse.
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| 1/6/2015 12:36:41 AM |
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truckerservice
Florence, SC
48, joined Jun. 2014
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When my ex and I were divorcing, I felt like I was in mourning. It hurts.
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| 1/6/2015 8:51:45 AM |
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cinnamonnhaze
Minneapolis, MN
73, joined Apr. 2014
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Just found out my ex has filed the paperwork. And while I am ready to done with him, he was an ass, liar, and cheater, I feel like I got shot with an arrow in my heart. I don't love him, I haven't been in love with him for a long time. I don't know why it hit me like this. Has anyone felt like this?
I think, maybe, you're missing the person you originally fell in love with but not the person you're divorcing. I spent years in limbo in a bad marriage until I realized this. I still miss the man I married but he just isn't ever going to be that person again.
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| 1/6/2015 9:08:55 AM |
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stargazzer
Creighton, NE
69, joined Feb. 2007
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Your just pissed that you din't fire the 1st shot 
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| 1/6/2015 9:44:26 AM |
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cinnamonnhaze
Minneapolis, MN
73, joined Apr. 2014
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Me? I did. I kicked him out.
As for the "paperwork", that's up to me too. Anything stressful, time consuming or has a fee attached was always up to me. Still is. Now I just have less messes to clean up.
Lucky for me I've had enough time to realize which man I'm divorcing & "that" man is getting taken to the cleaners.
It's not important who pulls the trigger first. It's the one who ends up with all the assets that matters.....
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| 1/6/2015 9:15:48 PM |
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randomguyhere23
Taylors, SC
44, joined May. 2014
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Me? I did. I kicked him out.
As for the "paperwork", that's up to me too. Anything stressful, time consuming or has a fee attached was always up to me. Still is. Now I just have less messes to clean up.
Lucky for me I've had enough time to realize which man I'm divorcing & "that" man is getting taken to the cleaners.
It's not important who pulls the trigger first. It's the one who ends up with all the assets that matters.....
Women like you are the reason I would rather jack off.
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| 1/7/2015 5:30:38 AM |
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cinnamonnhaze
Minneapolis, MN
73, joined Apr. 2014
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^^^^^^^
If all women were like me you'd have no other alternative.....
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| 1/7/2015 8:28:45 AM |
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txcountrymedic
Pleasanton, TX
39, joined Mar. 2014
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I have been there twice. The first was a shock because she blind sided me. We went to dinner and went home and made love. The next day she gave me the papers and said she was pregnant with some one elses kid. The second took off and left my boy with me. I filed on her and took the boy. I never looked back
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| 1/29/2015 2:59:29 PM |
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toledotom1
Toledo, OH
44, joined Sep. 2014
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It hurts .but its for the best you have a child that needs all you can give and just smile through the complete process . In the end you will be better off
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| 1/31/2015 5:55:11 PM |
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italianamore91
Southmont, NC
26, joined Dec. 2014
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How are you copeing moving on I'm having a really hard time getting over my ex do you have any tips for helping get over her?
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| 1/31/2015 6:27:13 PM |
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luckylouie42
Cedar Grove, WV
75, joined Mar. 2008
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How are you copeing moving on I'm having a really hard time getting over my ex do you have any tips for helping get over her?
pappy used to say; best way to get over one woman, is to get on top of another.
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| 1/31/2015 7:49:08 PM |
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italianamore91
Southmont, NC
26, joined Dec. 2014
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Never heard that one we are still married isn't that cheating?
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| 2/1/2015 9:18:43 AM |
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luckylouie42
Cedar Grove, WV
75, joined Mar. 2008
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no
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| 2/1/2015 1:17:28 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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Sorry OP ... I don't know your ex.
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| 2/6/2015 9:25:57 AM |
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
56, joined Jan. 2014
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Speaking for myself. After I was served, both times, I never looked back. As far as I was concerned it was over, just waiting for it to be legal. Unless you are planning to "fix it", then not really cheating. But be careful if kids are involved, it could come back and bite you in court.
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| 2/6/2015 12:27:56 PM |
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luckylouie42
Cedar Grove, WV
75, joined Mar. 2008
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trueism, a woman is like a monkey, they never turn loose of one limb, before they have a hold of another limb. so be advised. 
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| 5/14/2015 11:47:18 PM |
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bones454
Toledo, OH
42, joined Jul. 2009
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awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww that's so sad waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa get over it I would have filed asap if I was him he found a much better looking piece of a** hahahahahaaaaaa
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| 5/15/2015 2:49:50 PM |
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ladybugruth58
Patton, PA
59, joined Feb. 2014
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for me it was the loss of a marriage.. the financial security, and how was I suppose to live on what I made? my money in the marriage was fun money.. it took a long time to heal from the hurt inflicted by him, but I managed... the first reunion I went to without him, sucked...
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